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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi

Me and my GF have been goin out for 6 weeks or so and i really like her alot. We've had 1 or 2 ups and downs but theyve always got sorted out.

Shes currently doing her Exams and i think shes rather stressed. Without thinking about it properly i thought she was going off me coz little things in our relationship have stopped, i text her askin if everything was ok and if she still wants me. She took this badly and it really upset her and we started talkin about us being together. She was hesitant when i asked her if she still wants me and eventually said yes.

Basically do i just leave the matter and try get on with it even though shes being distant with me. Or should i sit her down and properly talk to her about it even though it might fuck up. <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i text her askin if everything was ok and if she still wants me. She took this badly and it really upset her

    think about it this way, if you were happy with your relationship and your girlfirend had asked you if everything was ok, and it WAS, you would take it badly becasue you would be unhappy that you thought your relationship was fine but your girlfriend didnt think so. so this would suggest that your girlfriend does still want to be with you and thats why she took it badly when you asked her if everything was ok.

    hope that made sense, didnt really know how to word it. shes probably just stressed out with her exams, just show her that you there for her rather than questionning the relationship, as this will just put even more stress onto her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Give her time, wait till her Exams arer over(when do you guys finish your Exams ??) then talk to her

    try not to pressure her into anything, you have only been together 6 weeks!

    Not sure what else you can do.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think that when people have exams they tend to see less of everyone, friends and boyfriends/girlfriends. She is probably just stressed and trying to do well in her exams. It doesn't sound like she was trying to deliberately pull away from you.

    Wait until her exams are over and see how things are then. If things don't improve, you should probably talk to her about it then.

    Best of luck! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i agree with everyone. she is obviously concertrated on her exams, so just ease up a little and give her her space.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Steer clear of an exam driven woman! I was exactly like her!
    When I was doing my GCSEs I had been going out with my boyfriend a few months (3.5 years now!) and we fought non stop.

    He felt like a distraction, and as he wasn't doing exams it was even worse because he had freedom, whereas I had to sit in my room and revise. Not nice.

    Be nice to her. Maybe plan some nice things for you both, and some little pressies (nothing expensive!) to cheer her up!

    I still blame my boyfriend for that C in physics....damn him!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Exams are my nightmare. I put everythign on hold while i dot hem just because blokes can come and go and exams well are there to stay. Let her get on with them. Meanwhile tell her that so she doesn't think you've gone off of her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    look you've only been goin out a few weeks, just let her get through her exams and she should be back to her normal self
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    talk
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