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Should I stop seeing my mate for good?
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Hi to anyone who's reading this. Well as you guessed I do have a problem, so here it is:
I have a good friend who I've known for about 6 months, and I have fancied her for most of the time I've known her, but now after knowing her for this length of time, I think I love her too. I thought she fancied me, but I did nothing coz I was too shy to. A couple of weeks ago, she asked if I liked her and I thought for a few seconds, then said yes just to be honest with her. The next day, I found out she never liked me, and as you can guess, I was pretty gutted, but still am. This all happened about 3 weeks ago, and I still haven't got over. I'm askng everyone who replies this: Should I stop seeing her completely? Coz I don't reckon I will be able to get over the fact that I'll never be able to go out with her, and whenever I see her, its all I can ever think about. I don't want to stop seeing her, but do I have to so I can get over this?
[ 29-05-2002: Message edited by: LinkinPark_rock ]
I have a good friend who I've known for about 6 months, and I have fancied her for most of the time I've known her, but now after knowing her for this length of time, I think I love her too. I thought she fancied me, but I did nothing coz I was too shy to. A couple of weeks ago, she asked if I liked her and I thought for a few seconds, then said yes just to be honest with her. The next day, I found out she never liked me, and as you can guess, I was pretty gutted, but still am. This all happened about 3 weeks ago, and I still haven't got over. I'm askng everyone who replies this: Should I stop seeing her completely? Coz I don't reckon I will be able to get over the fact that I'll never be able to go out with her, and whenever I see her, its all I can ever think about. I don't want to stop seeing her, but do I have to so I can get over this?
[ 29-05-2002: Message edited by: LinkinPark_rock ]
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friendship is about love. but, people come and people go, they are all useful, but things change, and life goes on. tho everytime you see her, you are torturing yourself, so best to just let it go nicely.
Dont worry! you will get over it!
P.S. Maybe if you tried the good old way and talked to her about it, as you are really good mates anyway.
Okay, its been over a month since that happened. My problem is: Its been a month, but it still seems like it only happened yesterday. I'm still not over it. Anyone know how I can get over it? By the way, I am gonna keep seeing her as a friend, (coz I don't wanna lose her completely, thanks to all who replied the other time) but I need help getting over it, and I'm still depressed and upset about it.
But if I could, then I would go out with her. I know she used to like me in "that way" but she doesn't anymore. So also, what could I do to improve the chances of her liking me again? This 2nd part is probably one for the girls but if a guy can help then plz reply still.
Thanks all, appreciate it.
About her, well I have liked a lot of people before in the past so I know what lust is, but I feel very different about her, I've never liked anyone as much as her before, and so I think I love her too.
But don't cut her out of your life, not because you love her. I've loved many of my best male mates before. But I got over it, mainly because I let myself. I knew I wouldn't be able to get what I wanted, so I forgot about it.
It may take a while, but you have GOT to at least try.
It's best anyway, because if you did go out, then it might ruin the friendship you have.
She see's you as a friend, and a friend only. Forget the love thing, and concentrate on having her as your mate.
You'll understand it makes everything ALOT better.
Keep it real hon.
xx