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i miss my ex....

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I recently split up with my girlfriend because we both agreed it was jst not working cos we just brought each other down. we agreed to stay close friends and not to rebound on anyone. since then we've managed to argue and ignore each other at a party but also have had conversations about getting back together! we both seem to know that it wouldnt work right now but i still really feel for her and would love to get back with her and i think (ho hum...) she probably feels the same.
throw into the mix exams and the fact that i dont really fancy anyone else at the moment and i really have no idea what to do. i miss her but deep down have an awful suspiscion it wouldnt work with her if we got back together and wed both get hurt again.
HEEEEEELP!
ps i know youre all going to tell me its not worth it but hey....

I need to wash myself again to hide all the dirt and pain, but I'd be scared that there's nothing underneath

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    seeing as i only split up with my bf the other day, i know how you feel. i want to get back together with him more than anything, but even if this was a remote possibility i know it wouldn't work because nothing would be the same as before. some of the things he said to me were...pretty unforgettable...

    i think that it's best to make a painful realisation as soon as you can that you are never going to get back the relationship you had, and that it's probably for the best that you don't put yourself through more pain later.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know exactly where you are coming from, i split with my b/f and i really want him back but i have this voice in the back of my head telling me it probably wouldn't work. But i figure that if it's meant to be them things will work out and also follow your heart!!!

    Good luck, you will have better luck than i have had.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Read *Foxy_Fi*'s thread, it deals with similar issues: http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000847.html

    Turtle and I have the same opinion on this that is something to do with forgetting the bad things and remembering the good so that you convince yourself you should get back together.

    And also something to do with wanting it to go back to how it was when things were working, not how they'd gotten so you ended up splitting, and that's not going to happen.

    People change over time and although you two were right for each other when you started going out, you're not now or it would have worked and you wouldn't have split.

    And I think I'm starting to talk a bit like Calvin.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i just wrote a reply in that topic wildchild posted that link to. so read that, it applies to you as well <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; im sorry, im too tired to go through it again with specifics for your situation. but a lot of the generalised ideas fit here as well as there.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dude. the truth is always the hardest thing for us to see, even if it's right in front of our faces.

    you've said it urself, you're just not good for each other right now. and even if you did get back together, how long would that last?

    i've been giving this advice a lot tonight, but it works here too. give you and her sometime apart. in your case, it sounds like there might be a chance for you in the future, but you have to give yourselves time apart to know if that feeling is a serious one.

    walk away for a while and you'll discover that this is life without her. and that you don't have to be down all the time. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    and who knows, after a while, if you guys were meant to be, you might just find ur way back to each other. but u know now is just not the right time.

    good luck dude.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by wildchild:

    And I think I'm starting to talk a bit like Calvin.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    in his best mr. burns accent:

    "exxxxxxxxxx-cellent" <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    the master plan is taking hold. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt;

    gotta say though wild, if you're thinking like turtle and talking like me... you might just be spending a little too much time on thesite. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    and i'm one to talk <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i guess all i can do is get my damn exams over and then see if i still feel as strongly about her...... if i dont then i guess its off to post exam parties!
    thanks

    I need to wash myself again to hide all the dirt and pain, but I'd be scared that there's nothing underneath
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