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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Sorry to nick your title Queen Whizzygirl...

Ok, i am probably going to come across as some kind of paedophile/cradle snatcher, i hope i dont!
I am an 18 year old guy. I have recently fallen for a 14 year old girl. Yes i know its a dodgy age, but there is just something about her that i really like. I know this is a non-guy thing to say, but i am not the type of guy to force himself onto women, and certainly wouldnt do anything sexual with her at all, 1. she is too young, and 2. i dont really think i am ready for it yet. Can anyone give me a suggestion...
All of my friends that i have talked to, who know me really well, and know what i am like have suggested that i just take it slow, but i am just scared of what the majority of people may say. <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">

Hope some of that made sense, if it didnt please ask a question or 5!!

Montis

[ 20-12-2001: Message edited by: montis ]

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Stay away fella!

    1. She is too young
    2. She will 'probably' be a little too immature for you anyway.
    3. Her parents will probably want to kill you
    4. Your mates will take the piss at any opportunity
    5. You can't take her to the pub
    6. CAN YOU REALLY WAIT 2 YEARS TO HAVE SEX WITH HER????

    snoogens
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Where and how did you meet!
    Seems a bit strange a 14 year old and an 18 year old socialising in the same place.
    Does she feel the same?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    secondly, we went to the same school together, when i left to go to uni, we have kept in touch, around about 3 weeks ago now, she came and saw me, and something just cliked between us. She does have the same feelings for me, and has liked me for at least 18 months or so.
    firstly, she is on the same kind of maturity level as me, and i can be pretty imature, but i dont care, coz i have fun! Her parents dont mind. My mates at uni havent taken the piss of the idea. And yeah, i could wait 2 years for sex, i havent had any, i dont seem to be getting any, and i dont forsee getting any for a while yet, but is that all u think a relationship is for?? I think sex should be in a relationship, but after a time. But thats just the way i think.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Relationships are a strange thing and so are individual tastes. If you were 24 and her 20 there would be no real problem.

    Many of my friends went out with older boys when they were 14. Okay they didn't work out but who's to say it wouldn't with you.

    If you like her and she likes you, then it's okay. Try not to make her parents feel threatened or unduly alarmed. Talk to them and try to be social. If you have to assure them your intentions are pure. It's not really uncommon for an 18 year old to date a young girl.

    Why not take things slowly and see how they work out! If your willing to wait for experiences and events that you could be getting with an older girl, then by all means try it out. After all nobody would ever learn anything if they didn't try it!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Often girls are more mature than boys, so 14 yo girls often are as mature as 18yo lads <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    Take things slow, but if you think shes worth it dont worry what ur (or more likely her) mates say. If ur worried about the rents try to show them you aint just using her for sex, and get to know her. 4 years is nothing in terms of age once you reach about 14 or 15, just dont force her into anything shes not comfortable with.

    But if you like each other go for it!
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