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What shld i do now?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru

I have just split up with my boyfriend, we have had a very bad few months so it was coming anyway, but i cheated on him so i had to split up with him,the guy i pulled wants to see me.

i went to his and we spoke about it but he doesnt want to go out with me coz he leaves 6th from in 3 weeks so he said he doesnt want to hurt me by going out with me and then it ending when things start to go well. but i have been thinking ( this is what i need help with!) and i asked him if he is serious and isnt mucking me around, but im sure he only wants sex and is using me untill he leaves in 3 weeks, and i dont really know what to do, i keep thinking about it but, i dont know.

u c i fancy him and he told me that he fancies me and would love to go out iwht me.

sorry it was so long but i have no idea what to do!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Who do you like best???
    To me it seems you like the new bloke (maybe its an excitment thing) but theres no point if he's using you for sex! what you can do is do the usual with him ad see if he hints for sex, if he does DROP HIM!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Like Kat says, why not try it and see how it goes, but don't get too serious until you know what his motives are. Remember that when you start to fancy someone there's a rush of excitement and then when you've cooled off a bit you'll see what you really feel about him. It may just be the novelty of someone new that's attracting you, in which case in three weeks you may be happy to let him go!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hello shine.

    if ur sure all he wants is to sleep with you and he's leaving in three weeks, then the only thing you have to decide is if you want this to be casual or not? you can have fun with this guy, especially if you know when he has to go. no expectations means that you can do uninhibited things. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    however, if your goal to build a lasting relationship, three weeks is not a long time to build that with, specially if you're going to try the distance thing.

    imho: go out with him for the three weeks and find out how strong you fancy him. and it will also give you time to see if he really feels the same way you do. if he does, that changes everything and makes a relationship possible.

    and if he isn't what you want, then what have really lost?

    good luck.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Mega Poster Posts: 2,822
    yeah, what calvin said <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    hes leaving 6th form... but why does that mean you have to stop seeing him? is he moving away?

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