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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
My family! I just arrived back yesterday and im getting the blame for everything! I was really upset about not seeing my boyfriend my dad just said its ur own fault, that really hurt and he just couldnt give a toss! I tried to use the phone to phone him but it wasnt working so my dad yelled at me says i break everything i touch! I speant the night crying! I was planning to stay on at school for another year, but im having my doubts now! I dont know if i can take it much more of any of this! I tried talking to my mum, she says there just abit worked up after the whole me being kicked out/running away thing! My boyfriend has offered me a place to live, im seriously thinking about this! Im all confussed dont know what to do...you know! I want to be with my boyfriend, BUT i love my family and dont want to hurt them but i dont know how much more i can take! Ive not spoken to my dad yet, but i know for a fact hes gonna go mad....so if u dont hear from me again....you know im away! Please help!
Love Miss_Kxxx

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think the best thing to do (not that I know much about your situation, eg. how old are you?) is to stay in school - that way, you'll have the grades you need to survive if nothing else works out. They last longer than boyfriends (has to be said, sorry!), and so does your family. I think you'd regret leaving your family and school later in life. You'd be missing a chance you'll not have again. Please don't run away or anything, you can stick this out and in a year it's likely to get better. Good luck! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You could try the whole....Look im gonna leave if you don't treat me normally andd then keep your fingers crossed it works...

    If not....work with it!! it can't last long, i know it never does with me and mum but then again my dad never says anything he does the SILENCE job on me!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *~stellar~*:
    that way, you'll have the grades you need to survive if nothing else works out. They last longer than boyfriends (has to be said, sorry!), and so does your family.

    Exactly what I would advise you to do Miss_K. I would never advise anyone to go and live with their boyfriend, when you break up or have problems which are going to make it uncomfortable to live together, what then?

    My best friend started to choose her university based on where her boyfriend lives, convinced she'd be able to live with him during the term. Now she's split up with him (after six months) but I dread to think what would have happened if she'd been living with him....
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by wildchild:
    My best friend started to choose her university based on where her boyfriend lives, convinced she'd be able to live with him during the term. Now she's split up with him (after six months) but I dread to think what would have happened if she'd been living with him....

    i was convinced i was still going to be with my first boyfriend at uni, we visited them together and made loads of plans and stuff, and cardiff was both of our first choices. but, we broke up last december, so that just goes to show... and we applied to all the same unis (luckily they were ones i wanted to go to, he didnt seem to mind... strange boy). but now his first choice is southampton, for the sailing coz he loves boats and stuff, and now im hoping he gets to go there so i dont have to go to uni with him.... so while your relationship may seem strong at the mo miss k, dont count on it, dont sacrifice everything to be with him, the chances are you'll regret it later.

    do what everyone's said so far, stay in school, try and work it out with your family and just think to yourself, you only have to last another year and then you can get out and have freedom and you wont have to put up with it any more.

    you can do it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; good luck.

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