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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
<IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> my boyf seems to be more interested in footie this year than me! he is going to see his footie team the day i invited him to a family meal after all ive been to loads of his family functions! but hed rather go to the footie and he's got tickets ok so i dont mind but he could have organised it 4 another day. am i being selfish? its just for weeks he was trying tothink of an excuse not 2 go then he found out his team was playing that day and bought tickets!

its either me or footie with him!

<IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> angel

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well if he had bought the tickets already I could see why (possibly). But if he had already been told about your family meal then I wouldn't be so pleased. Maybe he's just scared of your family? I think you should talk to him about it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i told him about the meal about two weeks before he bought the tickets. its not that he is scared about my family because hes met them all and he gets on really well he will joke around and they think he is great.

    but i just feel a little let down that its more important for the footie the fact that after the match time to get home would only take 30 minutes and he would be back in time for the meal. but he said he would probably stop of somewhere for a drink so he just seems to be making up excuses especially as i said u wud still be there in time if you spent 2 hours having a drink!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Has he done this before?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If your fella loves footy as much as me then you will be treading on dangerous ground by stopping him going. To you it may just be football, but to some its a way of life ! He may use it as an escape from life ? 1 season i decided to go to every match home and away which meant missing family doo's etc, but my girlfriend understood and just accepted that when football was on i would be there. If you do stop him going he will only resent you for it and this will cause problems ! just so long as he pays you attention away from football then thats fine ???????? let him have the best of both worlds, then he'll be a happy bunny and love you more. It gives you a bit of time on your own too
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Football????
    What the hell?
    What kind of crazy MoFo drops his bird and her family to watch Twenty-two (plus extras) grown men run around chasing a Pig's Bladder? <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">
    I may be sounding sexist, but Women's beach volleyball, now THAT's a sport worth watching.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ah womens Volleyball <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">

    I know you wouldn't believe me when I say this but most of the time when I watch it I'm not concentrating on the women - more on their tactics - sad huh?

    True, I do play a lot of volleyball so that might have something to do with it <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">

    Volleyball is THE sport - what other sport can I play indoors when the weather is shit (and win tournaments while at it <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">), play on the beach in the sun while trolleyed, has a culture that consists of almost every player being a right nutter (LOL we have fun <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">), and lets me hook up with the ladies while on holiday (they all want to be on my team - and I get to give coaching tips <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Football is very close to most lads hearts, my bf did the same to me a few weeks ago, i had bought tickets to a concert and then he was trying to make excuses for ages b4 finally going to the footy... omg, how scary!! lol... our bf's sound the same... anyway, I just let it go n sed next time he can buy the tickets n take me out... sure it's annoying and disappointing but being a footy fan mesen then ino what it means to a lad.
    don't worry about it but tell him he'd better not do it agen... what team does he support?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Badman:
    <STRONG>Football????
    What the hell?
    What kind of crazy MoFo drops his bird and her family to watch Twenty-two (plus extras) grown men run around chasing a Pig's Bladder? <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">
    </STRONG>

    And of course a few blokes chucking a pig's bladder back and forth over a net is the cutting edge of sports entertainment ? volleyball can be fun to play, but to watch it ? Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by ebenEzer bad:
    <STRONG>1 season i decided to go to every match home and away </STRONG>

    Every Forest match home and away! Oh dear.

    PS I WANT A SPORTS FORUM!!!! I've got a load of topics stacked up just waiting to be used!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by ebenEzer bad, the silly fool:
    <STRONG>

    And of course a few blokes chucking a pig's bladder back and forth over a net is the cutting edge of sports entertainment ? volleyball can be fun to play, but to watch it ? Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz</STRONG>

    ebenEzer bad, You misunderstand. WOMENS beach volleyball. nothing unexciting about all those jiggly, wobbly.......grrrrrr.
    I just don't like football. the rules/tactics bore me, nothing exciting happens during the game. ("Oh, he just kicked the pig's bladder into the net. great.") Same with all person based sports.
    Cars and bikes are where it's at, especially if there's plenty of stacks.
    They do have too many laps, though.
    Cheers!

    [ 18-12-2001: Message edited by: Badman ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i wudnt mind so much its just the fact he plays it watches and plays snooker every thursday and every thursday has a meeting about football so if his weekend isnt taken up plying and watching our weekdays are taken with my colage work and his other committments. i wudnt mind so much if he let me support my team without moaning everytime i turn on to watch it he turns over!!! im expected to drop everything for him but when i talk its SHUT UP......FOOTBALL!!! so ebenezer ur wrong!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Drop him!
    If you have to compromise all the time for him and he does f**k all for you. Show him the red card!
    On the note of football I was under the impression it was a contact sport, yet every time a takle is made and the player makes contact of the other player the REF blows he's whistle! It surprising how many of them trip over the grass and cry foul!
    bloody wimps! paid silly amounts of money, and are all shit! world cup'66? how many time are we gonna on about it, we've never won it since and will never again. For christ sake a national teams manager aint even english! what does that say about the state of football!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You say you are expected to drop everything for him but are you sure thats what he expects? Or is it that you automatically DO drop everything to be with him?
    I ask because for years I tried to keep up with my boyfriend, doing loads of stuff with him that I didn't really want to do , then expecting him to do the same for me.
    Ther reality is that I was losing friends, never doing anything I wanted to do and then resenting him for not behaving like me. I was making myself miserable but in the end I decided only to do the things I really wanted to and to stop expecting him to be like me.
    Why make him miserable by forcing him to do what you want just because you are silly enough to do it yourself?

    It takes a bit of time to realise what you are doing but if you stay together long enough you'll realise.

    I think it's a real female thing - we make ourselves miserable by dropping everything for our boyfriends then get annoyed when they won't do the same when really they are the ones who have it sussed.

    Your boyfriend has every right to make his own decisions about where he wants to go.

    Plus it's true what they say - you should have your own interests!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Come on! Let him go and be entertained by watching something mildly interessting. If it's a Champions League match or just his local team, it's got to be better than sitting with you and your boring parents, aimlessly making small-talk about local Puritan flowershows. Let him be happy, what kind of girlfriend are you? You are selfish, why should he have a shit time when he could be doing something he loves... you should get a ticket too. Seeing your family is hardly the social event of the season is it?

    By the way, Preston North End rule... the Premiership shall fall under their boundless might. Cardiff Millenium stadium my arse! <IMG alt="image" SRC="eek.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't watch footy! <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0">
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