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Lying about age

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Imagine you are a 28 year old guy, with a girlfriend who you *think* is 21. But she is actually 17. Would it bother you if you found out how old hse was and that she had been lying to you?

Or if you were a 28 year old man, who mate a pretty cool-ish person aged 19 through his supposedly 21 year old girlfriend. Would he be pissy if he found out she was 16, not 19?

I know it sounds confusing so far, it took me a while to think how to word it.

Also, do I eventually come clean about myself, maybe her as well, or do I keep lying forever?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i don't think a 28yr old would be too bothered if his girl was 17 and not 21, after all in terms of legality its no problem. Same for a 19/16yr old, doesn't really matter unless you were posing as a 18yr old and were only 14, then your in shit.

    Personally i don't think anyone should lie about their age, after all its your personality and looks that shine thru, age shouldn't matter. besides anyone that would want to see you if you are 21 but wouldn't want to if you are 17 isn't worth seeing after all!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When I was 15 I went out with a bloke who thought I was 17 for 2 months. What started as harmless flirting in a club ended up as a relationship. I was doing my GCSE's at the time and had to hide my revision books when he came round. I felt realy bad about it, especially when he asked me what I was doing for my 18th birthday, but looking back now I just laugh.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the age difference is pretty big - in my opinion in both cases.
    im 20 and would find it v.difficult to go out with someone whose only 16/17.
    28 compared to 17 is a huge gap i dont think i could live with even if i knew the real age at the beginning.

    i think the age is going to come out sooner or later - maybe it'd be best to tell the person soon cos if they find out in other ways its really going to piss them off.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    charley, he'll find out sooner or later and sooner would be better. The longer it's left the more it will hurt him. You say he's a nice guy well then he deserves better than this, i know it will be difficult but tell him, he'd rather you did than keep it a secret indefinately, and hey it might just not matter too much to him, initially he's bound to be a bit hurt but if he has any sense at all he'll get over it!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yup - not much fun,but you're going to have to take a deep breath & tell him.

    I think it's more an issue of honesty than whether the relationship would work or not - a relationship that's not based on honesty is likely to be short-lived, miserable, or both.

    PK
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks guys. But it really isn't my thing to tell, it's up to *her*. If she wasn't involved then I wouldn't have lied in the first place, she was like "Meet my boyfriend he's 28 but he thinks I'm 21"

    Tricky huh? Methinks I need to talk to her first. I don't want him to get hurt.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why do girls always want to go for the older guys? I have several girl friends who are 17-18 and are going out with 24-27 year olds. Now i know people go on about maturity etc. But if i was 25 i just wouldnt want a relationship with a 17 year old girl, ive always been attracted to girls my own age but they always seem to want oder guys. Maybe im stereotyping (or just being bitter) but if a 25 year old guy cant get a girlfriend his own age maybe that suggests something about his maturity? or is it just that 25 year old women prefer 30 year old males!?

    Sorry if this message has got confusing by the way but im sure you get my point
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've been out with lads my own age (18) and and lads older and althought i dont wanna stereotype, i've personally found that older lads are more mature and i can get on with them better. Usually they are only a few years older and cos girls mature quicker than lads then our maturity is about equal (if that makes sense?!) That dont mean to say i wouldnt go out with sum1 my age or nethin.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah i see your point and most older blokes probably are a lot more mature than we are, some guys my age are so immature its embarassin but were not all like that! Some girls are also very immature aswell though. Does this mean most of us guys should concentrate on 13-14 year olds?! U seem to be comparing there maturity to our level! lol! <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nah sorry i didnt mean it like that! There are loads of decent lads my age but yeh there are a lot that are very immature. still the same probably applies to girls.
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