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Why do guys pretend to care

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I'm sick of wondering why guys are always like yea we're just friends then two minutes later they want to date you and your like wait a minute I thought you only wanted to just be friends. I seriously wonder what is going on with there mind this really bothers me and I don't know what to think any more!! Why do guys always do this????? <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">
I hope you all can help me!!!
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    They say they just wanna be mates so they dont scare the girl off. But its no diferent to when lasses say it, then get off with him at the next piss-up night out.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Exactly what is wrong about being found attractive by the opposite sex? When I find out someone likes me I'm chuffed to bits. Is this not the same for girls or something?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he probably didnt want to frighten you away...either that or he wants to start a solid relationship before he ventures into the land of boyfriend and girlfriends.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have to admit most of the time I prefer going out with someone I already know, so if I am not already friends with them I generally try and become friends with them before deciding whether or not to take it any further.

    I generally find it quite flattering when people tell me they like me. Anyway you can still be "friends" can't you?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    becuz generally you'll find that a boy would rather stay as friends than mess the friendship up but after a while that gets very hard to do
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not all blokes pretend to care, some do!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you say 'why do guys always do this?' has this happened every single time u hav met a bloke then? You must be extremely attractive if this is the case, especially if after only two minutes they want to go out with u. <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0">

    I on the other hand have many lady friends, some of which i fancy like mad but i never, ever ask them to go out with me. In the end friendship is potentially far longer lasting than a relationship, so i like to keep it that way.


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i don't think you have the right idea here, thing is that generally guys do go for friends of theirs, for a long term partner. guess that kinda makes us insightful because a friend is someone you get on really well with so we know it'll work out in a relationship context.

    plus i agree that there are female friends of mine who i really really fancy, most of whom have never been told and never will be told, because i don't wanna change the status quo and have them say the exact same question you've posed here.

    at the end of the day why do girls freak out when they hear a male friend fancies them? he obviously has no problems with his feelings because he still can be friends. the sooner some girls calm down and realise that just because their mate thinks they're hot doesn't mean their friendship has to change/end
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