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Parents Smacking Children
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Just seen this on the news (again...)
Discuss
Yes, I know this should probably be in politics and debate, but I put it in here instead. The politics forum scares me. If the mods want to move it, they can
Discuss
Yes, I know this should probably be in politics and debate, but I put it in here instead. The politics forum scares me. If the mods want to move it, they can
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I don't know actually. I just felt like it. I don't even have much of an opinion on it myself. Hmm..maybe it wasn't such a good idea :rolleyes:
Ahh well its there now.
*Smacks Mobily*
using anything like a slipper or a cane on children is very very wrong.
So true.
The problem is people have become way too PC, and things like this have been deemed unacceptable.
.. how about this .. next time they do something naughty .. tickle them!!!
...I've always loved getting caned :razz:
Seriously though, my mum did hit me with wooden spoon and slipper (nbot enough to leave a bruise but enough to leave a little red mark). She only did it once or twice becasue from then on, simpy the threat was enough to make me behave.
I used to get a smack on the wrist or bum quite often when I was playing up, but by the age of 8 my mum stoppet smacking me altogether - although she slapped me acroso the face once when I was 14!
I don't have a problem that my mother smacked me (my dad has never smacked me), becasue I know that I could be a little shit sometimes and I deserved it.
There's a good chance I will use smacking when I have kids, but I doubt I will use anything more than a little slap on the wrist or tap on on the bum. Just the action (without the force) is often enough to get the message across!
I think its up to the parent to decide which punishment works for there children, but I think there should be guidelines on how to smack, as unfortunately there are horrible people out there who do horrible things. Its unfortunate that parents are gonna have to be told how to discipline there own children.
I do not know if I would smack my kids, but the choice should be mine to make.
As someone said on the news today, it is unfair to make the general populace the scapegoat for the few who abuse their kids.
And it is pissing me off lately how everyone writes something like I know this is in the wrong forum but I need an asnwer asap / I don't care / mods can move it / mods are in until Monday
Get it right first time, I am sure you're not stupid.
Did we all argue or was it genuine debate?
LOL I cant remember
I have to agree with that. I was caned at school and it did me no harm, it taught me a lesson if anything.
Tickling seemed to work with my friend's kid!!
It gets his attentions and he can't move whilst being tickled!!
... And once you stop he sits there and listens to you .. I don't know it just works for him .. maybe it's a whole reverse Psychology thing!!
Got to be worth a try once to see if it works!!
Come on Vicky .. you're a naughty girl... **Tickle** ... **Tickle**
Oh I remember coming back from Gatwick onthe train and this little boy was arging with his mum - he couldn't have been more the 4 years old and called his mother a "Silly little Bitch" infront of the whole train!!
We had to stop ourselves from laughing!!
Hah. Know what you mean, remember a while ago in some shop this little brat went on a right little tantrum and the helpless mother, bless her, was trying to calm him down but he was just screaming and kicking and hitting her and stuff. It really shouldn't have been funny, and we were trying to stifle our laughter, but couldn't help but piss ourselves with laughter. Got some really funny looks.
And smacking, when I was younger, I remember my mum telling me not to go back to this old abandoned mill, but did I listen? Fuck no. We went up there, smashing windows blah blah, just being little bastards. When she found out I got a swift slipper across the backside.
Sure as hell taught me not to go up there again.
If its a gentle smack they wont be afraid of you, I have smacked my Daughter and she is not afraid of me. As she is 7 now I dont need to smack.
As children get older and can understand better, I think taking something away from them works much better. If my Daughter needs to be checked for something or if i have to tell her 20 times to do something and she still hasnt done it then she could be grounded, lose her T.V programmes, lose her gameboy or whatever. If you threaten a child with lets say grounding then you have to stick to it, the first few times I grounded she thought I wouldnt go through with it, now she knows if I say to her behave yourself or you are grounded then she behaves..........normally
Most of the rationale behind not smacking is that it 'harms' the child. OK, yes in a physical sense this is true, but should it be true in an emotional sense?
Many people I know were spanked as children yet never developed any psychological problems.
My mum and dad used to sit me down and ask me why I'd been naughty, etc... 'you know that's bad/wrong Claire, why did you do it?' etc, and make me feel so bad that I used to cry. My brother was the same.
Hmm, I'll never smack my kids, even though I get bad-tempered and I'll have to bite my own hand to stop me from doing it!!
What even when you were 2 or 3 yrs old?
Ive never been able to have a rational discussion with a two year old when they are having a full blown strop.
LOL especially men