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Where'd my erection go?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have just started dating my first real girlfriend adn we decided to have sex for the first time the other day - I had a hard-on on-and-off for about 20 mins of foreplay but when I moved on top of her to out it into her I lost it? It has happened onec since then also? I feel really bad and am worried she'll dump me if we don't have sex, although she doesn't seem that bothered? I went down on her both times when I failed to perform adn she seemed to enjoy it quite alot?

Can I have some opinions from some girls please?! Has this happened before to you? What did you think?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nah, dont worry about it, it happens to the best of us! If ur relaxed itll stay...but if u worry about it itll go. But if u make ur gf come, dont worry, dont make penetration an issue and youll be fine. And if she dumps u for that she aint worth the effort.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    this happened with my first bf, we were both virgins and really inexperienced, and just learning as we went along. anyway, he was really gutted and felt terrible and wouldnt talk about it... but i didnt mind at all, and certainly didnt ever consider dumping him for it. if your gf would, then she isnt someone you should be sleeping with anyway.

    it really does happen to most blokes at least once in their lives. just nerves because it's the first time in your case, most probably. and good on ya for making sure your gf didnt miss out or anything <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> always helps. <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0">

    just take your time and relax... try not to worry about it happening again, because the more worried you are, the more likely it is to happen. just put it to the back of your mind and KNOW it's not going to happen again, and KNOW that you and your gf will be able to have sex just fine and there will be no more problems like that. no one's born knowing everything about sex, what stuff means, if its normal, how to do such and such... you just learn from going along with what's happening and talking to ppl sometimes too.

    anyway i hope you sort it out... in fact, i know you will <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for the advice, very good.

    I am worried that I'm going to like get it into my head now and that becasue I'll be thinking about it it'll happen again - but I won't know till I try I suppose. Staying over at hers next week so we'll just have to wait and see. Cross your fingers.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It'll be OK, trust me. If at first you don't succeed; try, try, try again. It's the only way to kill those gremlins. It's happened to me, and I soon got over it. Have you ever seen Human Traffic? good film that. covers this subject. you'll find the answer to all your problems there. rent it out. just don't watch it with the missus...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nerves got the best of me too... i think <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
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