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Is cyber cheating?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Is there anyone who can answer this question. Is it cheating, or it not? I think we can fairly say looking at porn is not, but what about Cyber? And you can go on some porn sites with live webcams, is that cheating?

Where abouts do you draw the line?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i guess you can get actually physical cheating where the partener goes behind the other's back and has sex or whatever with someone else, or you can have a more 'mental' cheating where your emotions are envolved. i read something about this in the sunday times or something, where the new affair in couples is an 'emotional' affair when you form a strong relationship with someone else, but there is no actually sex or anything...

    answering your question, i think it would depend on the circumastances and also the person. some people may see looking at porn as cheating, others may not. also, theres the emotional part of cyber sex, if its someone that theyve formed a bond with....

    hmmm, am i making sense?! :confused::)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My ex boyfriend told me that he had cyber with someone while he was going out with me and he got all worried about it and thought that i'd get all upset and dump him and hate him forever, but I didn't as it was with some random person who he'd never talked to before, so I guess it all depends on your personal opinion?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it aint cheating.. it just aint very nice..

    we did a thread bout this a little while ago so if u want more opinions theres probably hundreds on that one... :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *Is of an older generation* Isn't cyber sex a bit, well, sad? It's a bit like the premium rate sex lines really, only people think it more harmless because it's "chat". Not for me.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In some ways, I'd get all upset if my missus did it to me, because if she was in the mood I'd gladly help her out :naughty:

    But it is harmless in most cases.

    Hell, if it was with someone they knew in real life - I'd dump her ass faster than an elephant in quick sand!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by The Philosopher
    *Is of an older generation* Isn't cyber sex a bit, well, sad? It's a bit like the premium rate sex lines really, only people think it more harmless because it's "chat". Not for me.

    :yes: :lol: :yes:

    i think its more than a little sad... but, it really gets some people off so each to his own!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I cant understand how people do it, youd have to be really good at one handed typing.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    this is two handed type, easy peasy. now one handed (and with left cos.. you know ;) )

    this is hard tpo typew like this grahhh but i guess its oty too bad takes bloody asges too tho
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont think cyber is counted as cheating atall, as its not an actual physical thing like sex with some one else, dya get me? lol. why u been a naughty boy shyboy? :naughty:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would say yes since there's another person involved. Porn's just one sided but with cyber it's a two way thing. So yeah I would say it does count as cheating :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by **TiNk**
    i dont think cyber is counted as cheating atall, as its not an actual physical thing like sex with some one else, dya get me? lol. why u been a naughty boy shyboy? :naughty:

    actually no, i was just wondering though, if it counted as actual cheating.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Faith
    Porn's just one sided

    I've seen 3-sided porn ;) oh yes. hehe. :D *memories*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Everyone appears to be saying no to this. I say yes!

    Ok so it's not physically cheating, but it's still a type of cheating. Just because you don't know the person doesn't make it ok, in my opinion. You're saying sexy things to someone else, which are turning them on, and you're getting off on what they say to you.

    Of course, with cyber, there's little danger that your other half is going to find out, and maybe that's why people like it. But if I found out my boyfriend had done it, I'd be very upset. Because of the frame of mind you need to be in, I guess. I'd take it personally and assume that he'd wanted more than he was getting from me.

    I suppose cyber isn't as bad as 'real' cheating. If I had the choice then I'd rather someone cheated on me over the net than in 'real life'. But also, yeah, it seems a bit sad!

    If you really need cyber sex or phone sex why not try it WITH your partner?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Faith
    I would say yes since there's another person involved. Porn's just one sided but with cyber it's a two way thing.
    That's quite a good definition, especially if you're trying to make the point that cybering is cheating.
    However, I still don't rate it as true cheating. But it would annoy the hell out of me if I found a g/f was doing it, especially if it was quite often. :(

    For those who say cybering is sad, and all about one handed typing, then I have to wonder what their experience, if any, of cybersex, has been like?
    A good cybersex session can last for ages, sometimes hours. It's like two people writing a highly sexually charged, emotive, and erotic, story. You can explore ideas, situations, role play, and sexual practices that you've only ever dreamed of. To do this, both of you must have a good vocabulary, be very descriptive, emotive, sexual, sensual, erotic, and imaginative. When you're in the flow of it your mind is doing overtime, thinking about the situation, the sensations, and how to describe them in a teasing, and pleasing way. When you're doing all of that, there isn't time to be touching yourself. Mind you, sitting there, highly turned on, mind and heart racing, squirming excitedly, often happens. :)
    With a good cyber partner, I find I can explore ideas, think of sex in a new, interesting, and exciting way. Then use that in a relationship or sexual encounter. :naughty:
    What I'm saying is - cyber isn't necessarily a bad thing.

    Mr_Wobble ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Mr_Wobble
    That's quite a good definition, especially if you're trying to make the point that cybering is cheating.
    However, I still don't rate it as true cheating. But it would annoy the hell out of me if I found a g/f was doing it, especially if it was quite often. :(

    For those who say cybering is sad, and all about one handed typing, then I have to wonder what their experience, if any, of cybersex, has been like?
    A good cybersex session can last for ages, sometimes hours. It's like two people writing a highly sexually charged, emotive, and erotic, story. You can explore ideas, situations, role play, and sexual practices that you've only ever dreamed of. To do this, both of you must have a good vocabulary, be very descriptive, emotive, sexual, sensual, erotic, and imaginative. When you're in the flow of it your mind is doing overtime, thinking about the situation, the sensations, and how to describe them in a teasing, and pleasing way. When you're doing all of that, there isn't time to be touching yourself. Mind you, sitting there, highly turned on, mind and heart racing, squirming excitedly, often happens. :)
    With a good cyber partner, I find I can explore ideas, think of sex in a new, interesting, and exciting way. Then use that in a relationship or sexual encounter. :naughty:
    What I'm saying is - cyber isn't necessarily a bad thing.

    Mr_Wobble ;)


    :eek: - Now I need 2 find a Cyber partner. hehe. I thought Cyber was something along the lines of:

    "I undress you"
    "then you undress yourself"
    "we fuck"
    "that was good thanks hunay *smokes fag*"
    "ffs put that thing out I don't wanna get no lung cancer"
    "oh fuck off"
    "-silence- *walks out*"

    :D:D

    Hehe. :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Mr_Wobble
    A good cybersex session can last for ages, sometimes hours. It's like two people writing a highly sexually charged, emotive, and erotic, story. You can explore ideas, situations, role play, and sexual practices that you've only ever dreamed of. To do this, both of you must have a good vocabulary, be very descriptive, emotive, sexual, sensual, erotic, and imaginative. When you're in the flow of it your mind is doing overtime, thinking about the situation, the sensations, and how to describe them in a teasing, and pleasing way.

    Exactly. I don't want my boyfriend doing all of that with another woman, thank you very much. :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yes, I believe it is. One of my friends, her then boyfriend started through the internet a relationship with one of our other friends. She found the graphic e-mails of them "saying things", arranging to meet up and talking about her. It was a horrible situation.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by TheShyBoyInTheCorner
    actually no, i was just wondering though, if it counted as actual cheating.
    ohhh lol! damm!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by TheShyBoyInTheCorner
    I thought Cyber was something along the lines of:

    "I undress you"
    "then you undress yourself"
    "we fuck"
    "that was good thanks hunay *smokes fag*"
    "ffs put that thing out I don't wanna get no lung cancer"
    "oh fuck off"
    "-silence- *walks out*"
    Ah, well, that's what most people think it is all about, and how it goes. I remember a programme - can't remember what it was called, but it had Gail Porter as one of the presenters, and they were taking the piss out of cybersex with examples just like that, except on one of them he said "Finished!" LOL :lol:

    You see, a cyber session (to me at least) is all about setting the scene, and describing just about everything in teasing detail. I mean, often people miss out on what clothing each other is wearing in the fantasy, or the location, lighting, etc. Even something as simple as getting undressed can be highly charged and erotic.

    Mr_Wobble ;)
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