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Ex boyfriends
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Is it such a crime to be mates with your ex boyfriend. I'm in a long term relationship at the moment and we've just got engaged. Then last week my ex boyfriend came back on the scene. We're just mates and i would never cheat on my boyfriend, i'm not htat sort of person. But he is getting really jelous. I know i used to go out with this other lad but its all over with and i don't intend on going back out with him, we're just mates, thats all. I understand how my boyfriend must feel but since i left high school i haven't really kept in much contact with my old friends, so it's jsut nice to have soem one to talk to. What do you think, do you think i'm stupid for talking to my ex again
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I wouldn't like the thought of my partner being mates with an ex. Its ok talking to them dont get me wrong like if your walking down the street, but not actually been proper mates.
He will think does your ex want you back, he will think your ex is just back on the scene to try and win you back which I dont think is unusual.
Has your ex got a new girlfriend?
However, like Becky, I can understand your fiance being jealous - men are like that :rolleyes: and you can't blame them if their girlfriend seems still to have something with the ex. Maybe to make him feel more comfortable, you should all meet up together? He probably feels left out and worried because you're texting the ex so he doesn't know what exactly is going on. You have to sympathise with him, and if he is still very unhappy with the situation then maybe you'll have to make sacrifices - after all, which would you choose if you had to only see one of them... your fiance, or your ex?!
Which reminds me, an ex left a message on my phone a few weeks ago. I resisted calling back - until this week, but she's changed her number now, and I deleted the message on the answering machine with her new number on it. Doh! Maybe it's fate giving me a hint?
Mr_Wobble
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Have you any idea why your ex suddenly got back in touch after so long?
it just makes me feel a little bit trapped when my boyfriend is saying who i can and cannot talk to. and of course i'd choose my boyfriend over my ex any time but i don't see what harm it is doing. my boyfriend really is over reacting
I've got to go out tomorrow to the Post Office depot to collect something from them. Her house is close by, so I may drop by to see what she wanted. Of course, by now she will think I've totally snubbed her by not getting back in touch, and will wonder why I bothered. I've just got to satisfy my curiosity about the real reason she wanted to say hi again.
Mr_Wobble