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hey guys its me (you all know me by now don't you?!) and i have issues!
this is complicated so concentrate ok?!
well, theres this guy (how did you know!) and from the first time we met there was an attraction there. neither of us did anything about it and i convinced myself that he didn't fancy me (low confidence shit again!). we had become friends but then our friendship deteriorated when he started being nasty to me for no reason. now being a bit of a brazen young hussy(!) i got sick of this and we ended up having a big row (it was seriously major screaming type row) i was basically saying to him that even if he had developed some kinda of vendetta against me then he should just leave me alone as we have to spend so much time in each others company (i also threw in a few jibes about him being sexist just for good measure) then he told me the real truth behind his nastiness. apparently he is severely attracted to me but didn't wanna do anything about it coz of working together. but seeing me all the time is driving him crazy coz everytime he lays eyes on me he just wants to rip my clothes off(!). so we made up and had a snog. ever since he has been trying to get me into bed with him (i think, he says different of course) now the trouble is i am insanely attracted to him but he doesn't make me feel good about myself. he treats me with no respect and i'm unconfortable in his company because i feel like he looks down on me all the time. when we talk on the phone its sometimes better and we have really good long chats about our feelings and the future and stuff. also a few weeks back he got into some trouble with the police and the first person he called was me. that weekend he was a different person. it makes me think that all the bad stuff is just an act and that underneath he actually has a soft side to his personality. i've also heard good reports from his past girlfriends (pretty unusual!) about romantic things hes done, which makes me think that hes not just a sex mad selfish bastard. now the question is do i give up on him or carry on hoping that kind side will emerge more often. i've spoken to all my friends and they tell me to get him out of my life coz hes a loser (they haven't actually met him, they're just going on what i've said) so i wondered - what do you guys think????
please help me on this one, as you can probably tell my head is a right mess, i need your advice!
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
this is complicated so concentrate ok?!
well, theres this guy (how did you know!) and from the first time we met there was an attraction there. neither of us did anything about it and i convinced myself that he didn't fancy me (low confidence shit again!). we had become friends but then our friendship deteriorated when he started being nasty to me for no reason. now being a bit of a brazen young hussy(!) i got sick of this and we ended up having a big row (it was seriously major screaming type row) i was basically saying to him that even if he had developed some kinda of vendetta against me then he should just leave me alone as we have to spend so much time in each others company (i also threw in a few jibes about him being sexist just for good measure) then he told me the real truth behind his nastiness. apparently he is severely attracted to me but didn't wanna do anything about it coz of working together. but seeing me all the time is driving him crazy coz everytime he lays eyes on me he just wants to rip my clothes off(!). so we made up and had a snog. ever since he has been trying to get me into bed with him (i think, he says different of course) now the trouble is i am insanely attracted to him but he doesn't make me feel good about myself. he treats me with no respect and i'm unconfortable in his company because i feel like he looks down on me all the time. when we talk on the phone its sometimes better and we have really good long chats about our feelings and the future and stuff. also a few weeks back he got into some trouble with the police and the first person he called was me. that weekend he was a different person. it makes me think that all the bad stuff is just an act and that underneath he actually has a soft side to his personality. i've also heard good reports from his past girlfriends (pretty unusual!) about romantic things hes done, which makes me think that hes not just a sex mad selfish bastard. now the question is do i give up on him or carry on hoping that kind side will emerge more often. i've spoken to all my friends and they tell me to get him out of my life coz hes a loser (they haven't actually met him, they're just going on what i've said) so i wondered - what do you guys think????
please help me on this one, as you can probably tell my head is a right mess, i need your advice!
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
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i dont know if thats helped at all,but i hope it has!
keep us informed!
Good Luck & Take Care
LUK
~ If you can see the beauty of whatyou aspire to, it doesn't matter if you achieve it all. Simply to aspire is no mean achievement ~
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
thats what all my friends keep telling me, but its really hard. i decide that i've had enough of him and then i see him again and just really want him!!! i don't know what to do about it, my head is telling me hes a bastard but my heart won't let me get rid of him! theres severe physical attraction going on here and i don't know how to stop it! all i want is a man who treats me right - is that too much to ask???
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
As for him treating you like that, i think you should try and talk it over with him but in a calm way this time and explain to him that he makes you feel horrible even though you really like him. If he isnt understanding towards your feelings then you should forget it coz u dont wanna spend your time with someone who is constantly running u down, so he cant like you that much.
but if he apologises u should go 4 it, whatever u decide to do, i wish u good luck and i hope it helps
{{{{{{{{{{{Whizzy}}}}}}}}}}} that is certainly not to much to ask. If you are truthful to yourself is this guy who fits that criteria, sexual chemistry aside. You deserve the best and I sincerely hope it finds its way to you soon <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> Ultimately you got to do what you want and need but please be careful, we don't want to see you hurt by this guy.
Take care
Luv 'n' Peace
Luk
~ If you can see the beauty of whatyou aspire to, it doesn't matter if you achieve it all. Simply to aspire is no mean achievement ~
you shouldn't not give this guy a chance because from i've read, he's done nothing to you personally. and it sounds like you have corraborating evidence that he treats his girlfriends well.
and i hate to advise this cause i believe that you truly have to trust someone before you enter into a relationship with them, but if you choose to give him a chance, make sure he knows that he only gets one chance with you. and if he proves that he is the guy you think he is, then there you go. if he doesn't... cut him loose and never look back.
the one hitch to this is that u have to give him a real chance, if you start looking for things cause u have doubts, then ur doomed before you start.
good luck.
dont get to attached and if things look up- u have no need to worry. however if he still shows u no respect - kick him to the kerb!!
good luck let us know how things go (oo that rhymes!) later! babes luv jo-lizzie
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.