Home Sex & Relationships
If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨
Options

relationships

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
<IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> hi <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
i need sum advice me and my mate share a name, sorry! well i really love my bf and we hav bin goin out for nearly 4 months! he was wiv his ex for a really long time. i know he loves me more as he told me. and he sed our relationship is much betta then theres because we get on so well! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> sometimes i fink that because him and his ex were together for so long and done more finks wiv her! i wanna know if hes dissapointed wiv me cus i aint like his ex? i know that sounds really weird!

thnx for any replies i get! but plz help <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Comments

  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by babes r us:
    <STRONG> i wanna know if hes dissapointed wiv me cus i aint like his ex? i know that sounds really weird!</STRONG>

    Ok, I've had to down a whole pack of headache pills to 'get' your message, but come on! How are we supposed to know how this guy feels!?! Has he ever given you reason to believe he has cheated on you? Or does he talk about her the whole freeking time? Perhaps you should confront him on how you feel then you may get your answers, but don't let the insecurity take over you.
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont expect u 2 know how he feels! and no he aint eva cheated on me. and he dont talk about her! i just feel like i aint like wot she was like?
    i just wanna know if im bien stupid and worrying ova nuffin. And has ne 1 else eva had a problem like this b4! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <img src="null" alt="image">
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Let me guess, you have this image of his ex in your head: she's gorgeous, intellegent, funny, witty, and got a nice pair of <img src="http://www.duhspot.com/users/smiley/s/ups/layla_phoenix/boobies.gif&quot; alt="image"> (heh, I had to put that in) <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">, yeah a lot of us have wondered what the ex is like, and why the hell would someone like him end up with someone like me?

    Chill out and remember - he is with you by choice, if he wanted to be with his ex, he would be.

    p.s lay off the text talk it makes me feel a bit <img src="http://www.grillsportverein.de/smilies/cwm/cwm/puke.gif&quot; alt="image">
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it was the !!!! which were scaring me <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Good advice, and you know, if you ever show your bf you're worried about this he might get a tad annoyed, especially as he's given you no reason to suspect him in any way.
    I recon you are worrying over nothing, remember he loves you more, and is not with her for some reason. That reason (which I don't know) is obviously something you're better at than her otherwise you wouldn't be together.
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey!!
    I know exactly how u feel hun! My boyf was wiv his ex for ova a year n they had a kid together. He still sees her which sumtimes kinda upsets me-ok i no for a fact that he wudnt cheat on me (or so i like to think) but ive stopped torturin myself ova it now cos if its gona happen then theres nothin i can do about it! She asked him bak recently n he sed no so that must mean somet. I met his ex for the first time recently n she was soooooo pretty n funny etc (u no the type) n that sorta upset me. My freind sed i was just being jealous, but its just that i dont feel like i fit up to wot he used to have if ya get me. Anyway all i no now is that hes with me...if he still loves her theres nothin i can do about it, but dont beat yaself up about it coz thers nothin worse than bein soooo jealous of someone. If ur really worried about it then mayb u shud just mention it to your boyf how u feel coz i told my boyf that i didnt feel like i was good enough for him and he put my mind at rest-well for now. Theres bound to still be some attraction somewhere especially if they were together a long time-i know u mite not av wanted to hear that but there more than likely will be. Just tell yourself that hes wiv u now and not her and dnt torture urself about it!!
    Hope u feel a bit better about it!
    Luv Cinders xxxx
    <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thnx for ur replies, it helped me, im so use to texting sorry. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You're forgiven... just don't do it again lol <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its soooooo common to feel that way, i used to feel so insecure about my husbands ex as id seen pictures of her and she was beautiful and used to be a model. she was a right bitch though and took his house from him, all his friends thought she was a bitch and a snob, and his mum hated her but loves me! so that made me feel better. I look back now and see i had no reason to be insecure, weve been together 6 years now and got married 2 years ago.

    what im trying to say is even if you do feel insecure, it doesnt mean theres something wrong, if he still loved his ex you would know about it, hes doing and saying all the right things, what more do you want?
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I used to stress so much about the other girls my b/f had been out with/slept with/been in love with. You just get a picture in your head and keep thinking about it and it drives you mad
    -did he fancy her more than you?
    -was she more fun than you?
    -was she better in bed?
    etc etc etc
    did they only break up cos she dumped him? etc etc etc
    STOP!!!!
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Sign In or Register to comment.