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Missed your chance?
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Do you ever worry that maybe you've missed your chance at being really happy/inlove/whatever? Maybe you've turned someone down? Or finished with someone? And then think that might have been your chance to be really happy and you might not meet another bloke (or girl) as nice as them.....
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If you're talking about being in a relationship with someone and then finding it's over and wondering whether in fact that was your one and only chance at true happiness or true love... I don't think so. There are plenty of people out there who I think I could be happy with, true I haven't met them yet but I'm not going to be pessimistic and think I never will!
I'm always hopeful and optimistic about these things
Ok, so this was what was really on my mind. When I was in the relationship all I could see was the bad bits, now all i can see are the good bits. :rolleyes: Just realised how much I like him worried that maybe if it had all got sorted out it would of been ok, and now it's finished maybe I won't meet anyone that I'll like as much as him. Sorry, rambling.
But you do look at the past with rose-tinted glasses. It's good to remember all the best parts of relationships but just think back to how you were feeling when it was all coming to an end - you really weren't happy! Yes, occasionally people make mistakes, but it really isn't that long since your relationship ended; if you leave it a few months, then you will see whether it was the right thing to do or not - it's natural to miss someone and think of his good qualities, but in the end once you've recovered from the change in your life, you'll probably be able to forget him. Well, not forget him but you'll remember why you ended it.
Also, of course you'll meet someone else whom you like just as much as, if not more than him.
I don't know how helpful I'm being, I'm a little sleep-deprived so my brain isn't 100% and I'm probably rambling, but I'm just kind of putting all my thoughts down so I hope some of it makes sense
Definitely. All the fucking time. That Robbie Williams song - No Regrets, it makes me cry cause I think of all my regrets....
P.S do you everget those feelings when you remember something you did and for like 5 seconds you want to break something cause you were so stupid!
Mr_Wobble
Eloquently put. Couldn't agree more.
Life is to short too worry about these things now. And if you have hope and believe in fate and all that shit
your loved one will come back if its meant to happen blah blah
there are one or two I nearly ended up with before, and im actually back working on one of them now as it stands!
I use to get embarresed about things I did or said and have regrets but now I just live life everyday as it comes and let things just happen.
When we are getting on its amazing and i really feel happy!! If you have missed your chnace it just means that it wasnt meant to be with that particular guy !! there must of been some good reasons at the time why u would break up with him!!If you regret it then maybe you should try talking to the guy to see if you still do like him and if there may be another chance for you two to make another go of it!! xxx
you have now
yes it is a lame chat up line from a 15 yr old but there ya go
and faith - dont worry there are loads of oppurtunitys as humanswe work like machines. there is a certain amount of chemistry between everyone, whether its good / bad and how strong it is can very. when we develop relationships with someone this can increase or decrease, and often, when you meet someone you like a lot and have a relationship with them you begin to like them more and more and if it ends suddenly it can feel if you were that high, and now everyone else you like them so much less and the chemistry is so much less, that it can feel like you are never going to find anyone again. but try hard enough and almost anyone can be the one, but really you want to find someone who has a lot of potential for likelyness etc to increase. thats all it comes down to.
but dont ask me what the signs are but trust me i will pledge my toes on it - there will be another one, it may take you a long time to find them but there will be another one and im sure you will be incredibly happy with them. sure you wont forget the others but they will kinda go to a corner of your brain because you will have so much fun / love with this new person. it can be scary i know but... just hang in there, remember what a normal level of chemistry feels like... then you should be high flying
good luck babe not that you will need it
What everyone's said has made sense, and I know deep down that there's plenty of reasons we split up. I guess I'm just a bit scared I'm gonna be single forever! I know it's only been a couple of weeks, but it's horrible, and I know you'll all say 22 is still young, but I don't wanna be much older and still single! :eek2: But oh well....I'll get used to being on my own soon enough, it's just wierd after 3 years!!
My friend gave me some words to consider along the lines of:
"At the moment you can see all the good bits, at other times you can only see the bad, but you'll know when your over them because you can see the whole thing together and laugh"
And ive never believed in the whole "one true love" thing. Every one has different qualities that are equally as like/loveable and the next ones just waiting around the corner to be discovered!
Could of been me saying those words ladies and gents:(
I have to agree with that. I was reading through all my e-mails from my ex before I deleted them yesterday and I started thinking "ohh but he made me laugh and we had some great conversations.", but then I thought about all the times I was thinking "Is this worth it? He can be a right condescending twat." and I realised it did have to end when it did. If you're doubting it, it's obvious something is very wrong. If two people are meant to be together they will be togther.
Thanks that's made me feel better. Makes sense