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Our wedding

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok people i need your help. I have never been to a church wedding so i haven't got a clue.

I need you people to help me make a list of what i need to sort out & stuff to make sure i don't forget anything. :confused:

Please any help appreicated. Ta:)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Bah, get someone else to sort it!

    Heh.

    Okay here's to start you off.

    Reception, guest list, present list, flowers, photos, dresses, suits, cars, church, legal stuff, food, hotels (get a list of some for people to stay at), wine, drinks, entertainment umm that's all I can think of for now.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh my God... where the hell to start?! :confused:

    Do you know where and when you want to get married? You need to find out when the church is available and all that. They get booked months, sometimes a year or more in advance, especially for Saturdays in summer.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Mist

    Reception, guest list, present list, flowers, photos, dresses, suits, cars, church, legal stuff, food, hotels (get a list of some for people to stay at), wine, drinks, entertainment umm that's all I can think of for now.

    thats pretty much everything exept the vicar :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This should help And this
    One more!

    You might also like to but some bridal magazines.

    The basics are dresses for yourself and bridesmaids, catering, flowers, car hire, photographer, hire of venue for reception.

    Regarding the church - do you actually go to church? If not you will have to find a kindly vicar because these days a lot of them refuse to marry people who aren't regular attenders.

    Good luck with it all! :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by BumbleBee
    Regarding the church - do you actually go to church? If not you will have to find a kindly vicar because these days a lot of them refuse to marry people who aren't regular attenders.

    But then a lot will marry anybody!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you religious?
    Do you want traditional vows or made up smush?
    Do you have any clue as to whether you'd like a spring/summer autumn/winter wedding or are you happy to take what you can get? This might influence the flowers and stuff - out of season things will be more expensive.
    Any favourite places where you'd like to have the reception? Sit-down do or buffet?
    Wedding lists!
    Number of people you want to invite?
    How much of a budget do you have?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    place, time, date. - winter or summerwedding/
    reception place.....
    food...sit down? fromal? informal? find caterer
    bridemaids dresses - choose the main bridesmaidy person.
    your dress +shoes! (shoes important)
    bouquet thing
    seating plan or none?
    flowers in the church?
    own specialisesd vows (awwwwwwww they soooo cute!)
    have you worked out who paying what?
    wedding prezzie list - including objects of high and low expenses.
    music? - for the church plus reception - u may need a heady mix....somethng for kids, grannies :P, you....
    where people will stay/the ickle invitation things/how many of each side going MAKE SURE YOUR PARENTS DONT INVITE ALL THEIR FRIENDS AND RUIN YOUR BUDGET!

    frankly I'd run away and get married abroad - think of the hot weather! teh beaches! the non-fuss free environment
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Get a church and a date then start planning stuff!

    Dont run before you can walk an all that!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by LacyMay
    Get a church and a date then start planning stuff!

    Xactly. You can leave thinking about some stuff for aaaaaages yet if you`re not getting married for a long time. Looking into booking venues should be your first job.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Miffy
    Xactly. You can leave thinking about some stuff for aaaaaages yet if you`re not getting married for a long time. Looking into booking venues should be your first job.

    We wanna get married asap (well as soon as we can afford).
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Tweety
    We wanna get married asap (well as soon as we can afford).

    Which will be.............. when, roughly?

    Decide what you want and price it all up for a budget then. I hope you don`t get a shock. (I did)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    get a registary office wedding, itll still be lovely, but much cheaper, and less faffing around, and use the money you save to have a fab party afterwards and/or put it towards the honeymoon. I went to a church wedding lately and it was so boring and religious.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have attended several church and registry office weddings. I can conclude that nothing will beat the traditionalism, romanticism and general niceness of a full-blown church wedding, despite it clearly being more expensive. After all, you are presumably going to spend your entire life together, so why not do it properly?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Mobily's Ghost
    After all, you are presumably going to spend your entire life together, so why not do it properly?
    I hate that quote - It implies that I didnt do it properly.

    whats the point of spending thousands and thousands on a wedding - Its ONE DAY, and the more you spend doesnt make the day last any longer.
    people get so into having a big wedding that they forget about the marriage.
    The church weddings I have been to have been alright, but boring and in my opinion, hypocritical unless youre actually religious. Ive much prefered the registary office weddings ive been to as they were much more informal and relaxed, more about love than ceremony.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rainbow brite
    I hate that quote - It implies that I didnt do it properly.

    whats the point of spending thousands and thousands on a wedding - Its ONE DAY, and the more you spend doesnt make the day last any longer.

    Of course, you`re right, but it`s really down to the individual, isn`t it. If you`d had your heart set on a church wedding I think you might be disappointed with a registry office. On the other hand you might not care that much about the venue.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Weddings are personal things, and what suits one couple might not suit another. So what one couple might consider a proper wedding might completely contradict another couple's views.

    A wedding is about showing your love for your partner and that you wish to spend your entire life together. So the means by which you do this is perhaps not as important as actually doing it. However, of course you wish it to be as enjoyable and unforgettable as possible, so decide on the best means by which to achieve this, taking into consideration your budget and preferences.

    Why not be very different and have a wedding abroad in your favourite country and combine it with your honeymoon?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A church wedding, in my view, somehow makes it more proper. I suppose it's just your point of view. If you think the vows are the most important thing, then it doesn't matter where you get married - Whether it's a a church, registry office, or your local council dump. :)

    Mr_Wobble ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i want to get married.

    *sighs*

    well i don't, but i wanna do all the shopping for dress, 'you-may-now-kiss-the-bride' business.


    in a bit.


    do you get me?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by legal junkie
    i want to get married.

    *sighs*

    well i don't, but i wanna do all the shopping for dress, 'you-may-now-kiss-the-bride' business.


    in a bit.


    do you get me?

    this for my attention? ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by big_man_with_a_
    this for my attention? ;)


    not really. i mean, i'm not saying you have to propose to me or owt....

    i'm just getting wedding-broody.

    but for the record, i have briefed amy about the style of rings i like ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by legal junkie
    but for the record, i have briefed amy about the style of rings i like ;)

    you'll get what you're given and LIKE IT.

    besides, we'll go shopping together.... duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh. (engagement will be all me though, so fuck off, just need a size)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by big_man_with_a_


    besides, we'll go shopping together.... duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh. (engagement will be all me though, so fuck off, just need a size)

    j

    thankyerverrymuch

    </elvis>
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by legal junkie
    j

    thankyerverrymuch

    </elvis>

    ringfinger? as in the correct one? </real live bloke at work>
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by big_man_with_a_
    ringfinger? as in the correct one? </real live bloke at work>

    yes.



    :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol!



    i want to get married in a castle... horse drawn carriage there and back... and a big meal and a posh hotel somewhere. i want my honeymoon in Fiji and a beautifull dress... looking very much like this one...

    dress

    and (*hints to partner*) my engagment ring should look like this:

    ring


    mmmm... weddings
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by legal junkie
    yes.



    :p

    j

    J

    j

    J

    j

    yes, j *remembers*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by badabing
    lol!


    and (*hints to partner*) my engagment ring should look like this:
    B]


    while we're hinting....

    here you go ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by legal junkie
    while we're hinting....

    here you go ;)

    i like the 'penis' display thing they got going on...

    but explain, why do girls like diamonds so much? i just don't _get it_
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by big_man_with_a_


    but explain, why do girls like diamonds so much? i just don't _get it_

    shows us you lurve us.

    :yes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by legal junkie
    shows us you lurve us.

    :yes:

    i don't see how having a small amount of a semi-precious metal and a crushed piece of coal can show 'lurve'

    :confused:

    *edit: or is it purely an 'amount spent' type of thing?
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