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feeling insecure
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hi everyone!
i'm goin out with my boyfriend nearly 9 months and i love him so much and i trust he loves me too as he often shows and tells me, i'm so happy with him and we havn't had any major problems so far, apart from d usual little arguments but make up about 5 mins later!:)
i cant help but think its too perfect and something will go wrong! i really trust him but at the same time i'm expecting him to cheat on me or we'll just fall out of love!:(
i'm so worried about the future and if we break up that i'm finding it hard to enjoy what i have now...anyone have any suggestions on preventing me from worrying so much??:rolleyes:
thanks for any replies!;) xxx
i'm goin out with my boyfriend nearly 9 months and i love him so much and i trust he loves me too as he often shows and tells me, i'm so happy with him and we havn't had any major problems so far, apart from d usual little arguments but make up about 5 mins later!:)
i cant help but think its too perfect and something will go wrong! i really trust him but at the same time i'm expecting him to cheat on me or we'll just fall out of love!:(
i'm so worried about the future and if we break up that i'm finding it hard to enjoy what i have now...anyone have any suggestions on preventing me from worrying so much??:rolleyes:
thanks for any replies!;) xxx
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Therefore I'd say its pretty normal.
I remember feeling like this and now 8 years later with the same guy I don't feel it anymore. You have to be careful that any unfounded suspiciouns or concerns do not ruin your relationship.
Is it possible that something about your relationship has changed? Has something happened to make you feel insecure.
The worst thing you can do is keep going on at your boyfriend about your concerns because if they are unfounded that will turn him away.
You love him, you don't want him to leave you...its normal, and hopefully he won't leave you. Try to get a grip on these feelings, perhaps spend some time being more independent - but NOT to make a point, but because you need time for you too.
Its good to have your own interests and friends.
Your relationship does not sound too perfect, it sounds like a normal and healthy one!
Nobody can really give you any advice other than to just try and stop thinking bad things are going to happen.
If you keep thinking these you will break down the trust you have with one another and only then might things start to fall apart!
Seriously, look at your boyfriend and ask yourself serious, do you honestly think you're going to fall out of love with him? Do you think he will cheat on you? And whatever other questions you have. I'm sure you'll find that you both love each other and want to stay together.
Insecurity's a b*tch - you're best off without it.
My man picked up on it and after a heart to heart last night (complete with lots of crying on my part) he helped me ralise he has no intentions in leaving and he loves me.. and by expecting him to leave im pushing him away.. It works in a similar way to treating a kid like an adult, people act how u treat them.. if that makes sense?! I know its hard to feel secure when in the back of your mind ur feeling its to good to be true but if youre insecurites start to mean ur treating him as if youre going to lose him... you will. I know its hard hun but you (and i.... and probably most of the population) have got to learn to take each day asd it comes and not worry so much about what may or may not happen)
Have fun, take each step as it comes.
xx
We love each other but she has been hurt before and I guess she's wary - once bitten, twice shy I guess. I am too, but for different reasons (built up from bullying when I was a kid).
The world's a tough place and everyone has their own way of dealing with the shit it throws at them.
Back to the point: I think it's a healthy fear to have and you will probably question your relationship for a good while and only through time and shared experience will you earn each other's trust.