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Dilema!!!!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Right I failed Health and Social Care the whole class did. Biolgy got an E wasnt for lack of effort but the whole year was crap at biology!

School writing to exam board!

As you all know i am involved in lots of voluntary work - i explained to my parents that it was not my fault cos i tried 110% even more than last year they have blamed it on my voluntary work forcing me to give it all up! now in the heat of the moment i said if my voluntary work goes (which is my only socailisation) so does my part time job - i hate my job!

I never go out friday/saturday/wednesday nites with my friends drinking i do voluntary work. The school say its not my fault but the exam board putting the wrong sylabus in my HSC paper.

I REFUSE TO QUIT MY HOBBIES (MY SOCIALISATION) but my parents wont listen i do my work perfectly well in MY own time usually in school/after school/week ends

My dad has come out with some crap that his friend in work his son wanting to go to the same uni as me next year sit in EVERYNIGHT (never goes out) doing his work and getting good grades. ITS NOT HEALTHY I DID FOR GCSE! (YES I GOT EXCELLENT GRADES --- "*BUT*" THAT WAS GCSE way easier than ALEVEL!

I made my self so stressed never being allowed out - im willing to compromise (give up st john ambulance/voluntary work at a school/ working with disabled children/cub scouts/and teaching year 10's for GCSEs AND KEEP BROWNIES (which i love doing)) Not good enough for them Im prepared to give up 5 things and keeping 1. Its not fair its one nite of the week not like everyone else drinking alcohol/taking drugs etc

My sister never does homework and never seems to get told to do it! :(

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmm, this is a bit of a toughy... So basically they are saying to do what your dad friend's son does, i.e. stay in, yeah? Well, if you do that you will go mental. Some people can handle in, but most can't (unless forced to, i.e. essay due in next day or whatever). You need to socialise, and I'm suprised that your parents are so against your volunteering, since like you say, it's not exactly as though you are out on the streets doing drugs or whatever. First thing you need to do is convince your parents that it wasn't your fault, the exam board screwed up. This is the hard part, maybe a letter from your school could help to clear it up, or from your guidance teacher or mentor or someone. It would probably be a good idea to compromise with your folks at this early stage, which you have already tried to do, and again it's weird that they are not really willing to allow you to drop 5 and do 1... Your parents are obviously worried that the volunteering is getting in the way of your studies, and want you to drop it all together, but this is not an option really I take it? You could come to an arrangement that you don't go out until all your homework is done and they have checked maybe? And keep on at them, try to make them see that this is the only outlet for socialising that you have, and that you will become miserable if you can't do this. Appeal to their caring nature, people are relying on you etc... And of course, so it doesn't happen again, keep on top of of your coursework! Hope this helps! Good luck :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thankyou so much TheKingOfGlasgow,

    I always keep on top of my work always have, they understand now that the exam board f**ked up but say i need all the concentration over the next 3 months that i can get SO need to give it ALL up!

    Now what i dont understand is if i give up all that they still expect me to work in a job that stresses me out/upsets me etc and do extra hours so basically they want me to work get stressed out yet not have anything to take my mind off it. BROWNIES is so relaxing - suprising i know but all the kids make you feel so happy/wanted/confident. I take the brownies as a fun night out but helping them at the same time. :)

    I AM ALWAYS IN TIME WITH WORK ALWAYS HAVE BEEN - its just the problem with STUDYING for exams etc. revision!

    I revise really hard and starting to revise for something now with nothing to take my minfd of it will make me go CRAZY :banghead: i need time to myself. I have always been an active person locked away in my room will only make me ill. I have done it before. Im 18 and not allowed to express my views im so emotional today as it is and really not coping i cant stop crying over this problem.:crying:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *DEVIL*


    I AM ALWAYS IN TIME WITH WORK ALWAYS HAVE BEEN - its just the problem with STUDYING for exams etc. revision!

    I revise really hard and starting to revise for something now with nothing to take my minfd of it will make me go CRAZY :banghead: i need time to myself. I have always been an active person locked away in my room will only make me ill. I have done it before. Im 18 and not allowed to express my views im so emotional today as it is and really not coping i cant stop crying over this problem.:crying:

    No offence to your parents, but IMO I don't think they are dealing with this properly. You've agreed to quit some stuff, and compromising with them on this, yet it's still not enough? IMO that's not on. And with you being 18 I would've thought they would give you a) a bit more slack to live your life how you want to, and b) been more willing to accept your point of view. If you do what they want you to do, then as you already know, you're setting yourself up for a hard time. If they can't or don't understand that, then that's really not good. While they might think they know what's best for you, this whole situation shows that they really don't. They need to know that life doesn't begin and end with studying,and there are just as equally important things in life than doing well at school....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What makes things worse is this boy my dad is on about is some computer game madeness person - HIS HOBBIES ARE AT HOME so therefore why he never goes out! - He is not *THAT* popular in school SO that is why he does it! I can i have not got THAT much will powere to sit in everyday! If i could i would! BUT I NEED TO DE-STRESS SOMEWHERE
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeez, it just gets worse doesn't it? Like I've already said, there's not a whole bunch you can do except continually get on at your parents. If they know whats good for you, they'll let up eventually. Hope I've been some help to you, and if you need any more, feel free to PM, k? :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by TheKingOfGlasgow
    Yeez, it just gets worse doesn't it? Like I've already said, there's not a whole bunch you can do except continually get on at your parents. If they know whats good for you, they'll let up eventually. Hope I've been some help to you, and if you need any more, feel free to PM, k? :)

    Nagging doesnt work with my parents :D But they cant ground me or anything - i just dont like arguing with anyone.

    The atmosphere is terrible!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Firstly, *hugs*

    Secondly: TheKing is right in what he's saying. And I completely understand your frustration, especially since youre such an active person. I have never known of anyone who does as much voluntary work (at your age!) as you do, and I'm sure your parents recognise this and won't *really* make you give it all up.

    Give it a week or so to blow over, then talk to them again. Exam results days are usually really emotional as it is, so all of you may have said things you wouldn't otherwise have said.

    Good luck :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Samuti
    Firstly, *hugs*

    Secondly: TheKing is right in what he's saying. And I completely understand your frustration, especially since youre such an active person. I have never known of anyone who does as much voluntary work (at your age!) as you do, and I'm sure your parents recognise this and won't *really* make you give it all up.

    Give it a week or so to blow over, then talk to them again. Exam results days are usually really emotional as it is, so all of you may have said things you wouldn't otherwise have said.

    Good luck :)

    Yes thankyou. Dad is serious mum has been great! :)

    Going away for the weekend on Leo Convention so have chance to 4get about it have fun and get over the anger and maybe be a little better for the monday when i next see him!
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