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a possible meeting with the ex
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it's been almost 5 months since my ex broke up with me (we had dated for 16 months prior to that) . we still exchange e-mail once or twice a week and have talked on occassion. this week i asked her if she would want to get together for drinks sometime, since she seems to have become a hardcore party type. as of yet she hasn't replied.
i am unsure if this is a good idea, but if i can't be around her as a friend then i don't see the point in us continuing to e-mail one another. i still have some feelings for her since she was my first love. been told that the first is always the hardest to get over, but i want to have her in my life. even just as a friend.
any thoughts or suggestions would be good.
i am unsure if this is a good idea, but if i can't be around her as a friend then i don't see the point in us continuing to e-mail one another. i still have some feelings for her since she was my first love. been told that the first is always the hardest to get over, but i want to have her in my life. even just as a friend.
any thoughts or suggestions would be good.
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I broke up with my first love about 3 or 4 months ago. We both loved eachother but due to distance and her going to uni it was decided we should end it ( well..... she decided!)
She said she wanted to be friends. It was obviously I wanted to be more than friends ( still do now) but I couldn't bare the thought of not having her in my life at all so I agreed. We exchanged xmas cards, sent the odd e-mail and chatted now and again on MSN.
Last week, she got in touch asking me if I wanted to meet as she was close by..... obviously I thought " I wonder if she wants to get back with me?, does she want to meet because she still loves?"
I went, I'm glad I did, but every situation is different. If you feel comfortable with meeting, then do it. However, if your only doing it because you may think there is a small chance of getting back together, it may cause you more upset.
It's a hard call
in my opinion, i dont think you should meet up with her, even though you feel you really want to. i think it'll just end up in thinkin about old memories and you going home alone in tears.
your better off gettin on with your own life and maybe you'll find a new gf. best thing to do is enjoy ur single life while ya can!
you said yourself that she definately doesnt want to get back with u, i think you were too in love with her to just be friends.
sometimes letting go is the easiest option.
best of luck to ya! cant be easy!
hope i helped a little bit anyway!
:rolleyes:
i think i am just going to stop e-mailing her and get on with my life. if she wants to talk to me or see me then she can come and find me. i am done chasing after her, trying to be a friend when it is becoming clear that isn't what she wants anymore.
what is is and there is no changing it. thanks for the advice.
that, my friend, is a very very good idea. pointless communication which isn't leading anywhere and is purely for 'old times' sake is a waste of time on everyines part.' what is is' do you believe in fate and destiny?