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older guys, why????
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im sure this comes on here quite often along with many other topics such as anal and stuff, but
why do girls always go for older guys? becuase i just refuse to believe that maturity argument because well its a fact, desision making ability develops last for everyone, normally 18/19 for both male/females, and i think im quite mature myself and have healthy interests in nonlunatic things, part from drinnk :P but im just annoyed at the older guys who cant pull girls their own age!
what do you reckon
why do girls always go for older guys? becuase i just refuse to believe that maturity argument because well its a fact, desision making ability develops last for everyone, normally 18/19 for both male/females, and i think im quite mature myself and have healthy interests in nonlunatic things, part from drinnk :P but im just annoyed at the older guys who cant pull girls their own age!
what do you reckon
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Yes it is a sweeping generalisation to say that all younger guys are less mature than girls their own age, but on the whole it is true. Life experiences effect everyones maturity, but from a whole being ready to settle down and commit side of things and think you'll find the majority of the time females are ready to before males of the same age.
But older men are far more appealing from an experience side, sorry to sound shallow, but they tend to eb able to spoil a girl better, which we all like from time to time, they are more secure in themselves and do tend to be more trustworthy than younger guys.
Personally I've just found that older guys aren't all the fun they claim to be....less energy, like stopping in too much, and so on. Decided guys a couple of years older would/are the best age in general.
I think you can have perfectly mature people that are the same age as you.
and my main fear is that lots of these girls get used, or are too eager to please their men and end up regretting it, even though life is trial and improvement, though sometimes it seems their taste doesnt imprve much ,ie my older sister, hahaha
im just havin a rant because i been single for 2 years now so ignore me!
They also always come crying on OUR shoulders when it goes wrong and go and do same again? I figure every now and again one learns and thats when the decent lads start getting girls. Takes a long while for them to catch up with us but they start to at college as the most intelligent start to realise that nice guys are worth dating.
I know that doesnt apply to everyone though.
I think it's cos i've had a lot of shitty things happen throughout my short life, and guys my age just don't seem to understand.
i am attracted to the older guy but im not sure why.
i mean look at alfie moon
Also I think there's something in the female psyche about being the damsel in distress and being looked after - an older man will seem stronger and more in control, more mature, therefore a figure to look up to and more attractive.
I'm probly just sprouting rubbish though, I'm tired
Are you trying to say that every girl you know does that?
And i take it your single?
Theres always gonna be better people, older or younger, you just have to learn to deal with it.
Hehehe indeed
I think the reason why girls like older man is......... cos girls really fancy there fathers you see, and look for a mature man who's strong and just like there dad!:p
Daddies girls the lot of ya!:p
*I'm the daddy now!*:p
and no, it doesn't work the other way, men use logic (not me tho!):D
LMAO
No I am saying that the vast majortiy of relationships with a age gap seem to end up being very nasty
Don't bank on it
Maybe but not because they are older or younger
Yeah thats what i was trying to point out :rolleyes:
Personally the first guy I went out with was the same age, the guy I was engaged to was a year younger. It's only recently I've been out with older guys and in some ways yes I do prefer them, they are more mature and do treat you better. But then I'm fussy about my blokes and do find the nice ones. Oh and those two I've mentioned are the only 2 guys that have ever hurt me, so your logic doesn't work.
I drive so that doesn't both me...I do as much running around after blokes as they do for me, but a guy who doesn't drive is a big no no in my mind.
I think as we get older age gaps lessen anyway. It's just like I wouldn't have known really there was any difference in age between me and my now ex, he was 27 (I'm 20 btw). But he did bore me. Maturity wise he was what I was looking for, he just didn't know how to have fun with it.
Guys don't ever grow up, you always have to have your toys, albeit computers, cars etc rather than the good ol' action men.
But to be honest, age doesn't bother me. I do have a problem with going out with younger guys (she says about to get back with her ex!) because they aren't as good to talk to, they haven't had enough world experience to be abe to talk at length about current affairs, politics, world history and so on, those serious conversations that sometimes a girl craves.
girls usually fancy guys who they see as 'cooler' than them
simple.
i could be wrong but face it, it makes sense
Im only a month younger than you but do I still count?
Girls do mature maybe a year quicker in general- thats fact!
Its not in the case of all men though.
But a lot of these relationships people are talking about are of the older kind and not teenage. Girls like to be spoilt-
But lads dont worry- cause the older we get the better we look, the older they get the worse they look! (after a certain age of course)
When i was 16, my boyf was 30 and we were together 3yrs. I didnt go out with him cos he was older and he didnt go out with me cos i was younger (i dont think!). the age difference never effected us but that was probably because we both acted the same sort of age.
Jesussssssss... a 14 year age gap?! :eek:
When I was 16, I was seein' a 23 year old and that was dodgy enough... I can't even begin to start about all the hassle and stick I got off people for it. It was always at the back of my mind as well.
From what I see with me and my mates, we're all goin' out with people rpoughly the same age - 3 years between me n my current bf and I think thats about right (I'm 17, he's 20)
It's nothing about matiruity to me, I'd go out with most lads as long as I liked them!! Age doesn't really make a bit of difference - unless they're like 12 or 23 or summat!!
But i'm not ruling out younger men. i think any women who decides she'll only go out with an older man is being silly. you never know who you are going to meet and who you are going to find yourself attracted too. everyone is different, yeah, some men takes agessssssssss to mature and other can be wuite mature at a young age, but it just turned out that my perfect guy was 9 yrs older than me
you guys need 2 chill, just wait, i'm sure you won't be knocking back the younger ladies when you 20+
there you are, a young (18-25ish yr old girl)
all the men your age are spending all their time laughing about farts, getting wasted and still in college.
then, you turn your head to the right and see this lovely BMW, X5. inside this nice car is a man. he is around the age of 35-40. sitting in the front seat with his short black hair with those speckels of white. he is all niced out in his lovely black busisness suit and those expensive shoes (possilby a lawyer?)
inside his home would show what his interests are... expensive wine, good music, a nice book every now and then. classy and sophistacated... how could you not like the older man
I don't think we're doubting that their can be the exception but that is in younger guys, especially the 16-21 year old sections. Yes there are quite a few 22 + who are like that, hence why I said 2 - 3 years older than me seem quite nice at the moment.
They are prepared to be settled, starting to have their own homes and have interests other than going out getting pissed with their mates and pulling. They like a good cozy night in, enjoy the finer things in life, and so on.
Yeah, but would be be good in bed, hmm??
Gimme someone young for the fun and the luaghs and the drinkin' games, and even the immaturity... it's not time to grow up and settle down yet
The last girl I dated was 20 and she consistently dated older men. She told me that guys her age had nothing interesting to talk about. They were all about getting drunk, and hanging out with their mates. And as we were driving she pointed to a bunch of 20 year old looking guys with shaved heads and baggy pants that looked like they were falling down to their ankles. We both looked at them and laughed.