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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hi every1!

i need some advice ive been with my b/f for 3 months and we are getting to the stage where . . . well you no!!

im starting to get abit worried though as it will be my first time. we've done evrything but sex and it was my first time with all of them too!! i was worried about all of that to but after it was fine. he isnt a virgin and im worried i wont be able to please him.

has anyone got any advice for me?

thanks
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol! most us lads will be pleased wat eva (no insult to those more 'picky' males)!
    it will be worse if u worry! just enjoy ya self!
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    make sure you are comfortable with the whole situation - dont do it just because you feel like 'going with the flow'
    sex is the biggest form of intimacy with someone - make sure that you have no doubts in your mind before you go through with it (and make sure you have got contraception sorted out - sorry to sound like your mum!!)

    good luck and enjoy it! <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To be honest, i think it is you who should be worried about BEING PLEASED, not vice versa! <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think that unless you're totally comfortable, you shouldn't have sex avec him.
    if he's caring and sweet, he'll understand and be nice about it.
    and also, shouldn't you both know what turns each other on? if you're unsure, you definately don't know each other well enough to be going this far.

    if you read the post about losing it, and how many people regret it, you'll understand
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks 4 da advice every1. my b/f just been round and we had a chat and decided that it will happen when we ready not cause we've reached the three month stage "when every1's doing it"

    he was really fine it about and sweet!

    im happy i know theres no need to be worried now

    thanks
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Most embarrasing thyng ever... going to my sexual heath clinic and purchasing a large bag of condoms plus asking for tips on 'first timing'...
    then instead of sex, dumping the person in question...
    and being asked 'how did it go' when bumping into the advisor on campus...
    schnee....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That was exactly like my gf and me xcept that we were both virgins.
    We waited 6 months but i've got some friends that said they would wait three months then do it... they broke up after 2 1/2 months. So u shouldn't play a dat to do it cause u may not make it. Ur'll know when the moment is right
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wasn't so much a date, merely a precaution in case of...
    one of those 'travelling up to partners uni at start of first year and not knowing which way things are going to go' thyngs.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just go for it! if he aint a virgin, he will have an idea how to do it so it will be good for him! thing to think about is, is it going to be good for you???

    Talk to him about the way you feel! get it off your chest! it will be better for you both if you talk openly about sex and stuff!

    Cae9
  • Porky_StalkerPorky_Stalker Posts: 108 The Mix Convert
    just go for it...

    if your not that confident, speak to him about it....

    dont worry in thinking that you wont be able to please him... i'm sure you will... just tell him how you feel....

    my problem was that i didnt talk openely about this sort of stuff.... and this made it worse!!

    Like Cae9 said: it will be better for you both if you talk openly about the way you feel!
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