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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
I went to portsmouth with my friend to his family party and I was having a good time drinking beer then I met his Cousin, She's crazy about me except she is how can I say... a bit on the odd side and the ugly side, I see her as a major turn off <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; and I see her at my best mate to many times for my own liking. She asked my mate for my address I the sick bastard will probably give her it. She's going to ask me out sooner or later and I don't want to hurt her feelings (I'm not that kind of guy), any suggestions.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just say no. Tell her she is not the one and its nothing personal.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You know, she might just be a really nice person...
    It kind of pisses me off when I hear of people not giving someone a chance because they're ugly, so sorry for any bitterness in this post. But stop being so shallow and see if she's a nice person first. Sometimes you can find the personality of a person to be more attractive than the physical appearance. You might think she'd odd, but is that not just because she looks odd or dresses different or something? Usually, it's the "odd" people who are best to be around.

    Anyway, I think you should at least give her a chance and go out on a date with her ONCE and you might find that she's a really nice person <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Or you know, be shallow and say NO.

    Once again, sorry for any bitterness or anything, but being known as "odd" by society myself, I know how it feels to be a nice person who people don't give a chance because I seem to be a bit... eccentric... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    "And I'm not a slave to a God, that doesn't exsist.
    And I'm not a slave to a world that doesn't give a shit."
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Deffo give her a chance first cuz a lot of ugly people are great fun 2 be with and a lot of the gorgeous girlies are dick-mocking sluts.

    If you decide u really can't be mature about it then make sure u get in there with the "you're one of my best mates' line. If she's not, then make sure she fucking well is because if she likes u this much then she'll wanna be mates. And if u can't even manage that, then u have severe emotional problems.

    When this egotistical tosser told my best mate he wouldn't go out with her cuz she didn't have "big tits", she went home and changed into her stilettos, marched round to his pad and stomped on his balls. Call it trivial, but that's what u get 4 being shallow. Be nice, conrad.

    *|* Chica *|*


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You really should say no. It is better that she knows your feelings now rather than in a few months time. It is better for her and better for you if you are just honest with each other.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I argee with sickmind on this one. Hate to be cruel, but better she knows whats going on now rather than in 3 months time, when she's got her hopes up.

    Tell her its nothing personal, but your seeing someone else/not your type etc....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Conrad the best thing is to let her down gently it isnt a good idea to make an enemy of a girl-- they can be hard and vengengful(no offense)and make ur life a living hell..

    best thing just say NO it may be the best thing in the long run
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No way, no way, no way! should you go out with her. Even once. If you really dont fancy her at all then dont even bother. I'm all for looking beyond the surface, I totally agree, but if there's no physical attraction whatsoever it would be a disaster. And if you go out once then it will have got her hopes up and will hurt her even more. So dont.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *Beetle Wings*:
    You know, she might just be a really nice person...
    It kind of pisses me off when I hear of people not giving someone a chance because they're ugly, so sorry for any bitterness in this post. But stop being so shallow and see if she's a nice person first. Sometimes you can find the personality of a person to be more attractive than the physical appearance. You might think she'd odd, but is that not just because she looks odd or dresses different or something? Usually, it's the "odd" people who are best to be around.

    Anyway, I think you should at least give her a chance and go out on a date with her ONCE and you might find that she's a really nice person <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Or you know, be shallow and say NO.

    Once again, sorry for any bitterness or anything, but being known as "odd" by society myself, I know how it feels to be a nice person who people don't give a chance because I seem to be a bit... eccentric... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    Are you for real?
    So you really think he should go out with someone he doesnt find attractive just because she may have a "nice personality"

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by dodgy dave:
    Are you for real?
    So you really think he should go out with someone he doesnt find attractive just because she may have a "nice personality"


    Like, are YOU for real???? I'm sorry, but could you BE more shallow?! Would you rather he go out with someone who is a total physco bitch??? Oh, but wait, that's okay isn't it? After all, as long as she's attractive, she can be a total bitch, can't she?

    I'm not saying that all attractive people are mean and horrible bitches. But, seeing as how I've been on the bullied end of thier stick my whole life, I can say from expierience that they are all bitches.

    Sorry Dave, but until you can prove yourself to be any better, right now I think you're a moron. (I'm not just going by this post, I'm also going by your "Fucking Hell" post as well.)




    "And I'm not a slave to a God, that doesn't exsist.
    And I'm not a slave to a world that doesn't give a shit."
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, why do you think we feel really bad about ourselves???? Because the "normal" ones have made us the wierd ones. Or rather, society has decided who's "normal" and who's not, they cast us away, the "normal" ones all dress the same act the same, and because we don't, we're called the wierd ones. Then, they use the fact that we're different to mkae fun of us and basically, be total bitches toward us. I mean really, Path2Eternity, unless you've been the recieving end of the "noraml" girls, you're obviously gonna think they're nice. I've been both "friends" with them (they were still horrible then) and enimies with them (which I am now and always will be, guess I always have been)

    Sorry, I know this is getting way off topic, but I felt I had to post a reply to this.

    "You're so fucking special.
    I wish I was special..." :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, I'm one of the wierd ones.
    How do you know we feel sorry for ourselves?
    I don't feel sorry for myself. I guess the only way I feel sorry for myself is because I'm sorry I have to live in such a shitty world and never be accepted.
    I know that you set your own standards. But when I set my own standards, people think it's damn funny that someone like me could have their own mind, so they don't care and they don't listen to me.

    "You're so fucking special.
    I wish I was special..." <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    [This message has been edited by *Beetle Wings* (edited 16-10-2000).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well it's hard to describe what shes like, my mate says shes a total nutcase. He says she writes letters to him asking were a live, phone number, not even asking me, Ever seen fatal attraction?? she seems a bit obsessive ( not in a heathy kind o' way either).

    Hell I don't even know what to say, I've got a new girlfriend and when my mate told her she went and stormed off. Eh??

    Well I don't really want to have a relation ship with her, and so if she asks (thats a big if...) I'm probably just going to say no, your not the one, I've already got a girlfriend etc. I don't have a clue on how shes going to act like, but who knows??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    woah my last post is a little off topic wern't it...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *Beetle Wings*:
    Like, are YOU for real???? I'm sorry, but could you BE more shallow?! Would you rather he go out with someone who is a total physco bitch??? Oh, but wait, that's okay isn't it? After all, as long as she's attractive, she can be a total bitch, can't she?

    I'm not saying that all attractive people are mean and horrible bitches. But, seeing as how I've been on the bullied end of thier stick my whole life, I can say from expierience that they are all bitches.

    Sorry Dave, but until you can prove yourself to be any better, right now I think you're a moron. (I'm not just going by this post, I'm also going by your "Fucking Hell" post as well.)



    You really are serious arent you ?
    Its quite obvious you are an ugly bitch who is jealous of fit girls.
    Just because a girl is fit doesnt mean she is a "physco bitch"
    You sound like a physco bitch to me


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    [This message has been edited by dodgy dave (edited 17-10-2000).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by dodgy dave:
    You really are serious arent you ?
    Its quite obvious you are an ugly bitch who is jealous of fit girls.
    Just because a girl is fit doesnt mean she is a "physco bitch"
    You sound like a physco bitch to me


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    [This message has been edited by dodgy dave (edited 17-10-2000).]

    Gee thanks, you may have just added to my wonderful self-hateing problem! *appluads*
    Jealous? Nope, sorry. If you knew the shit I've been through with 'fit' girls all my young life, you'd see why I hate them. It's not jealousy, it's hate they've brought upon themselves. And before anyone jumps in with anything, I don't hate ALL 'fit' girls, I hate the ones I've had to live with my whole waking life. Blame them, they're the ones who have left an impression on me and given all the other 'fit' girls out there a bad name in my mind. There are some bitchy ones and some okay(ish) ones in the world. And then there are ugly girls like me... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    "You're so fucking special.
    I wish I was special..." <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    [This message has been edited by *Beetle Wings* (edited 17-10-2000).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by dodgy dave:
    You really are serious arent you ?
    Its quite obvious you are an ugly bitch who is jealous of fit girls.
    Just because a girl is fit doesnt mean she is a "physco bitch"
    You sound like a physco bitch to me


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    [This message has been edited by dodgy dave (edited 17-10-2000).]

    You just had to go & do it doggy didn't you, just when you were beginning to get it right (in other posts) you had to come back and show your true colours.

    Just a weak, bullying troll.

    Why have you got it in for Beetle eh? Don't even bother answering, if there were an ignore list on TheSite you'd definately be on mine.

    Don't come back until you have something sensible to say.

    J9 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Path2Eternity:
    Beetle ur ugly? No way! hehe u sound nice... maybe its something to do with ur self hating problem

    And btw ignore doggy dave (what kind of stupid wank chooses a name like that anyway) coz he's just doing it for his little cheap thrills.

    Yep, I'm ugly! Although, I am bound to say that, because I hate myself, but I am ugly.
    I got a picture, but I'm scared to post it up here, 'cause I know everyone will laugh, and then pretend that I look ok just to make me feel better.

    Oh, by the way, doggy dave isn't his name, it's actually dodgy dave. Sorry, just had an urge to correct it.



    "You're so fucking special.
    I wish I was special..." :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Path2Eternity:

    And btw ignore doggy dave coz he's just doing it for his little cheap thrills.

    ... and he won't be posting too many more posts in the future.

    Dominic
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Dom Waghorn:
    ... and he won't be posting too many more posts in the future.

    Dominic

    Thanks Dom, I thought he was trying, but obviously it was just a bit difficult for him to be reasonable.

    By the way Beetle Wings, using doggy instead of dodgy was just my way of showing my contempt for the lad. I expect that aplies to Path too.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    J9

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Dom Waghorn:
    ... and he won't be posting too many more posts in the future.
    Dominic

    And we better hope he hasn't been round a PC more than five minutes I guess.




    Harry is very definitely on the boat.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by HarryOnTheBoat:
    And we better hope he hasn't been round a PC more than five minutes I guess.


    So what's your other pseudonym then boatman?

    J9
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *Beetle Wings*:
    Gee thanks, you may have just added to my wonderful self-hateing problem! *appluads*
    Jealous? Nope, sorry. If you knew the shit I've been through with 'fit' girls all my young life, you'd see why I hate them. It's not jealousy, it's hate they've brought upon themselves. And before anyone jumps in with anything, I don't hate ALL 'fit' girls, I hate the ones I've had to live with my whole waking life. Blame them, they're the ones who have left an impression on me and given all the other 'fit' girls out there a bad name in my mind. There are some bitchy ones and some okay(ish) ones in the world. And then there are ugly girls like me... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    Hey beetle, I know what you mean by the girls who really knock every bit of esteem out of you. Don't rise to it, you seem like a really sussed person so don't let anyone including yourself tell you that you're ugly because, in the end you're all you've got. My attitude is, that if you don't like societies rules, tell them to shove it and forget about it or try to change it, simple as that. Hope this helps and I hope you start feeling better about yourself soon, you deserve it!




    "some rarely touch it but it touches them often." Stanley, Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just noticed that there are loads of people who've been here for months and have only made about five posts. What made you all start posting now? Ah well, nice to see some new faces.

    Glad that dave has gone!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Caliph:
    Glad that dave has gone!

    Dave is here sucking my knob right now. It seems he was just confused.

    (I don't yet have the heart to tell him i'm not gay. The things I do to help people...)


    Harry is very definitely on the boat.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    listen mate. i have previously got myslef into a situation of being in a relationship with a guy i wasn't even remotely attracted to because he adored me. it was hell. don't get into that situation coz you'll just end up hurting her more and putting yourself through hell as well.
    it may seem harsh at the time but say it in a nice way and it'll be better in the long run. :-)
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