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Couples Both Using TheSite.org

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I don't know about you lot, but if you were a regular user of TheSite.org, would you invite your partner on too?

I think the good thing about this site is that you can ask embarassing questions and get answers without anyone knowing who you are.

But if you wanted to ask something that you couldn't talk to about with your partner, it would be a bit difficult.

(This post is in aid of the fact that i found out my ex-ex-uses this website and forums, and she has recently found out the this is me <IMG alt="image" SRC="mad.gif" border="0"> :eek <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

What are your comments folks?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wouldn't really want my b/f to post on here. Sometimes problems are good to be posed hypothetically, without actually meaning them..if you see what I mean?

    Eg. I was really down one day and posted something about when you know to end a relationship. If my b/f had seen that he would have been very upset, but I didn't actually mean that I wanted to end it. The Site is a good place to be honest, as no-one knows who you are. If a b/f posted here you would have to be consious of what you said all the time.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i would neva want my girlfriend 2 use this site! in fact i wouldn't really want any1 from my school really! not that i would know and most likly they not find but if they did i only been here few days and already posted some personel stuff!
    but if u have good relationship with ya gf or bf guess this would be good cos u can express ya feelings bout what goin on! only u 2 know each other and other ppl can help and if u wana post somet private set up another acount that u dont what he or she 2 find out about
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0">
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    the_Paranoid_bunnythe_Paranoid_bunny Posts: 487 Listening Ear
    my girlfriend started posting here once. she was asknig for advice cos her boyfriend was an insensitive bastard. actually i don't think she wanted any advice at all.

    she knew i'd know it was her. probably because of the way she used the posting name "the_Paranoid_bunny" and the way it was so easy for me to get her password.

    what a bitch.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A few of you might remember what happened a few weeks ago, when my ex found out about all the stuff I had written about our relationship over the year. She wasn't too impressed.
    I think it's a good idea that you don't tell a partner bout this place, not if you dont want to lose your "diary" anyway.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My bloke has logged on here and posted a reply once. I got him into it and he knows my online name and that i post on here quite a bit. I'm not worried cos I know he hardly ever surfs the net (unlike moi!), and we're real open about sex stuff, so i don't mind too much if he sees what i write.

    Saying that, there are some things that i'll steer clear of mentioning, just in case. Kinda wish I'd used a different label now. Anonymity is good sometimes.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with pretty much what everyone else has said- wouldn't want the boyfriend on here just so that I can say exactly how I feel without it causing a "defining the relationship" talk.

    Are there any thesite couples out there both using the boards?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I definately wouldnt want my bloke to post on here. I like the anonymity of my name (EVEN THOUGH SOME TOSSER HAS STOLEN IT AND PUT"_" BETWEEN EACH WORD <IMG alt="image" SRC="mad.gif" border="0"> ) sorry for shouting. And I also like the fact that the vast majority of people have something wise to say (excluding those who write about what turns them on in the most amazing amount of precision and discretion)and the whole community thing here which is great <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    Well actually, as long as he didnt know that I did post here and didnt know who I was then I wouldnt mind desperately. But, looking at a previous post I started, I wouldnt want him to know that crazysexycool is his girlfriend. Do I make sense, because I've lost myself!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I totaly aggree with WhoWhere, about the diary effect of this website.

    Kind of an interactive diary!

    And i am glad that one of my posts is making so much progress! <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If my bf found out some of the stuff ive asked or said.... i'd b verra embarrased coz he'd feel i couldnt talk 2him, which isnt true - there r jus some ques, which ppl prefer 2nd opinions on!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, my gf uses TheSite, but as I never really ask sexual things anyway(I tend to be concerned with my mental health lol) it doesnt bother me.

    *waves at ellie*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Who is Ellie?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by KrazedKT:
    <STRONG>Who is Ellie?</STRONG>

    Girl with Sharp teeth.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont know if i would want my girlfriend to read some of the things i have put but it is also educational and we could pick up a few tips together <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its accordin to how you look at it.. is your glass half full or half empty, i suppose this could giv your partner a chance to find out the stuff you never had guts to tell them... or they could find out stuff that may be embarrassing to you... you choose.. i wouldn't let my b'f on to here, coz, erm, in da past i wrote some 'stuffs' that he might kill for if he found out.. but then again. 'its all on how you're lookin at it' GOOD LUCK! : <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    [ 12-02-2002: Message edited by: Ms_Booty ]

    [ 12-02-2002: Message edited by: Ms_Booty ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi there yeh i agree with the last postdidepends on how u look at it cozit would gi ma bf more ideas but yet again i wouldnt want him 2 know i feel he is getting borning if he finds this stite fairy nuff but 9m not gonna tell him bout it
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My g/f knows about thesite and knows I use it. I dunno how many of my posts shes looked through (she'd know my login name and general writing style). I mentioned it to her after we'd been together about 6 months. I've never been worried bout her finding anythin cos I've never actually posted a problem or asked advice here but its helped me, and us, out alot. Shes hardly uses the net while my connection is nearly always on (even if it is fookin dial up BT).

    I'm more conscience of my mate who used to post here (Damn Right) and knows my login name and everythin. He still wants to get back at me after I read a post about him fingering his new g/f and soo nearly getting caught by her protective parents... <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe you could not tell each other your screen names, may b?

    I dunno, i wouldn't like a current gf on here with me!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know that my boyfriend has posted on here....and it was about me... Made me feel like shit! I suppose if its just advice & good stuff you're posting, then fair play, but i wouldnt reccomend it <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    as long as she didnt know my screen name
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmm...this is one of the reasons why I stopped using my old discussion board.

    A couple of months after I'd met my partner I foolishly introduced him to the said discussion board. He subsequently tracked all my previous posts, and, umm, the outcome was not good. (He has a somewhat *sensitive* nature.) Apparently - he told me later - he nearly split up with me over some of the things he'd read! Btw they were not that bad (oh ok there was the matter of the threesome with the rugby players <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)!!

    So, I've learned the hard way, there are some things you should not share with your partner. And my philosophy from now on is 'what he doesn't know won't hurt him'. <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    P.S. I hope you welcome defectors! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ouch, bad luck mate!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey Everyone,

    To tell you the truth I would really hate my girlfriend to come on to Thesite.org, because it would be embarresing and I probably would not post as much. <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd cry if my boyfriend tracked down this site and found my posts! I'd cry if he found this one! People tend to post stuff on here they don't want to discuss with people they know, and the majority of replies are half intelligent (which makes a nice change!) It's my way of asking what I want to ask but staying the mysterious me! <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by the_Paranoid_bunny:
    <STRONG>my girlfriend started posting here once. she was asknig for advice cos her boyfriend was an insensitive bastard. actually i don't think she wanted any advice at all.

    she knew i'd know it was her. probably because of the way she used the posting name "the_Paranoid_bunny" and the way it was so easy for me to get her password.

    what a bitch.</STRONG>

    last I heard dale, off emma, was that you'd admitted it was all fabricated by you. at least I think that's the story, correct me if i'm wrong, whoever happens to know the truth.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No offence Turtle, but noone cares. PM him, I dont give a feck <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i wouldnt want my g/f to read the posts i put cause somethimes i write dumb things
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by porn_st()r:
    <STRONG>i wouldnt want my g/f to read the posts i put cause somethimes i write dumb things</STRONG>

    Already? Blimey mate, you've only been here a few minutes.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I really dont see what would be so terrible if partners were both using TheSite.

    You'd get to know each other better, and it may act as a good means of communication between the two of you.
    If you are having any personal doubts, you could log under a different name, but any serious problems, you should be discussing between yourselves anyway.

    A good friend of mine intriduced me to the site, and i'm not worried about him seeing anything i would put on here -but then again, i'm not ashamed of what i think!

    I wouldn't want my ex to come on here as he would react badly to what he would read - which is why he's an ex. I would want my partner to be open minded and want to know what i;m thinking and worrying about!

    I can see where you guys are coming from with your doubts - but it's not really something that would bother me. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't know on this one - my b/f has just joined, and while i don't *really* mind, i'm just a little weird about it - he and i do do a lot together, and we talk about everything, and this was just about me, i suppose. I don't know, I could always tell him to sod off, but then i'd feel like a terrible person for not sharing this with him.
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