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what counts as sex?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
This was debated a bit in some of the posts below and I was just wondering what everyone else thinks counts as sex (incase they didn't reply to those posts, or even read them!)

I don't think you need to have penetration everytime. I think a couple can have a healthy relationship without having full penetrative sex everytime.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sex - both parties reach a sexual pleasure on each other, doesn't need to have penetration or even ejaculation (for male).

    The main test here is sexual pleasure.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    a fwe months ago i went to a sex therepist because i was having problems getting an erection.therepist said it was to do with
    the body and mind .he asked if he could see my g/f what action to take.he said start of kissing and taking clothes off one another ,do a lot of foreplay and when the time came for intercourse came,we had to stop at that point and carry on feeling discovering each others bodies.This went on for about three and a half weeks,and my g/f and noticed my erection had become far more harder and lasted a lotmore in time.and so,alittle nervously, i entered her.things now are how they used to be:-great loving SEX
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What counts as sex:
    Sing to the hokey cokey.

    You put your penis in, you pull your penis out, IN OUT IN OUT and shake it all about
    e.t.c.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nearly forgot to mention thr doctor at the theropy clinic."you did a fine job mate you taught us to make foreplay last longer,which in turn makes sex just 'bloody great'thanks doc"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Eh? What is all this? At the most basic level sex is penetration.
    I guess some people make their own definition.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sex i think involves intercourse but all the other stuff as well like foreplay kissing etc when its all done at once. But i think in the dictionary its deifned as when the mans penis enters the woman <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by kathryn:
    <STRONG>Penetration and movement is sex.
    You can't call other forms of sexual activity "sex" because we have seperate names for them; ie mutual mastubation, oral sex.........</STRONG>

    I disagree.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i agree actually. Sex is sex and that is when a penis is inserted into a vigina.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    According to my school nurse kissing is sex <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> lol

    I suppose it all depends on your own views, what is the line between foreplay and *sex*? Is recieving oral sex or being masturbated loosing your virginity? How many lesbians does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

    I just dont know, apart from the last one <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It seems I disagree with most of you. I would say that sex is short for sexual activity. In support of this, I paraphrase Woody <heh I said "wood"> Allen, masturbation is having sex with someone you love.
    <STRONG>You can't call other forms of sexual activity "sex" because we have seperate names for them; ie mutual mastubation, oral sex
    </STRONG>
    and penis in vagina isn't sex, because we have the names "penatrative sex" or "copulation" for that? you may wish to rethink that argument...
    <STRONG>but i think in the dictionary its deifned as when the mans penis enters the woman</STRONG>
    "the" dictionary? I think you perhaps meant to write "If I were writting a dictionary, I'd probably put"
    From WordNet r1.6
    sex
    n[oun] 1: activities associated with sexual intercourse; "they had sex in the back seat" [syn: sexual activity, sex activity]
    2: [...]
    3: all of the feelings resulting from the urge to gratify sexual impulses; "he wanted a better sex life"; "the film contained no sex or violence" [syn: sexual urge]
    4: [...]
    v[erb] 1: arouse sexually [syn: arouse, excite, turn on, wind up]
    2: [...]
    From Websters 3rd
    1 Sex 1:[...]
    2: [...]
    3: the sphere of interpersonal behaviour esp[ecially] between male and female most directly associated with, leading up to, substituting for, or resulting from genital union <...>
    4: the phenomena of sexual instincts and their manifestations [...]

    As a cop-out, I'd say sex was the anatomical things you did while making love.

    It is a bit like trying to define what is meant if we say something is pretty.

    My bash at a definition in a few easy words is "genital stimualtion"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think that alone cant be classed as i sex but i would describe ;sex; as the whole lot put together the foreplay the intercourse and maybe even the cuddling after <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Carriage Return:
    [QB]It seems I disagree with most of you. I would say that sex is short for sexual activity. In support of this, I paraphrase Woody <heh I said "wood"> Allen, masturbation is having sex with someone you love.
    QB]

    I agree with you 100%. I think it is the whole sexual activity thing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would have to say I would define sex as actual intercourse, simply because if you'd had sexual relations with someone but not full penetrative sex you'd still be classed as a virgin. You can have a healthy sex life without full penetration every time, I agree, but sex is sex and everything else is sexual activity.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah because if wou went out with some one but just did oral you would still be a virgin.
    But i still class the whole sexual act as everything put togther because before and after intercorse there is foreplay and other stuff.
    Oral sex is just missing out the actuall penertration which is not always nesicarry anyway.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Gems:
    <STRONG>I would have to say I would define sex as actual intercourse, simply because if you'd had sexual relations with someone but not full penetrative sex you'd still be classed as a virgin. You can have a healthy sex life without full penetration every time, I agree, but sex is sex and everything else is sexual activity.</STRONG>

    no need for me to post because this is exactly what i was going to say. i agree 100% <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by * k-t *:
    <STRONG>But say if someone entered you for literally a second, is that sex?

    Or if someone tried to enter you but it hurt so you stopped?

    Would that be classed as sleeping with them and mean you are no longer a virgin???
    </STRONG>

    I would say yes, that is sex.

    The reason is that penetration itself is sex, movement or orgasm is another matter. Orgasm or ejaculation is not a necessary part in sex.

    I also disagree to people who said only intercourse counts as sex. What about oral sex then? Is it not sex at all?!!

    But I don't think masturbation is sex, it has to involve 2 people at least.

    [ 14-04-2002: Message edited by: NiceK ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm sure we've talked about this before *feels old.. lol*

    What about when it comes to gay sex, gay people count different things as sex
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Justin Credible:
    <STRONG>I'm sure we've talked about this before *feels old.. lol*

    What about when it comes to gay sex, gay people count different things as sex</STRONG>

    Then they can remain virgins for life and a lesbian can give birth to the second Christ child.

    That'd really fuck the Church off. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sex is what you make it. It's up to you and your partner to decide what does and what doesn't count as sex. You see, some people count oral sex as penitive sex but I do not. It's all up to the individual and what feels right for them.
    <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Kate <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    LittleLondonGal@hotmail.com
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How do you work oral out to be penetration?
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