How long before you have sex???

Former Member

Hiya all
I have been in two sexual relationships, and always wait until the girl is ready.

My first I had known her for 4 months and been going out with her for 1 month.

My second we first tried after a couple of weeks

How lond do people feel is the right ammount of time to have sex (make love).

And does sooner mean better or worst, ie do u respect a person more if you wait longer.

Opinions from both male and female would be appreciated.

Thanks for your opinions

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Former Member

May I say it is pleasure to hear you have such a kind and responsible attitude, and appear to be a "gentleman" by not pressuring your partner, and waiting until you are both ready to have sex.

Though I don't think there is a "right amount of time" to wait as such. I guess it all depends on you and your partner. This will vary from individual to individual. Therefore "sooner or later" is all a question of individuality.

Some people feel a strong mutual physical attraction on a first meeting, therefore if they have sex thereafter, why not? it is their choice.
Some people are not necessarily interested in a long term relationship, if they both want sexual gratification, and are responsible enough to use effective contraception, I see no reason why they shouldn't do so.

Other people like to see a friendship, and thereafter a relationship develop before they have sex - again their choice.

As to whether or not you respect someone who waits to have sex, my own opinion is that to do so invariably shows respect, consideration and regard for your partner. To be pushy and forceful of course is selfish and inconsiderate.

regards derby.

Former Member

I think whenever it feels right. I don't believe either partner should feel pressured into having sex, for hwatever reason.

As sex is something thats so intimate and individual, it's hard to explain. I personally wouldn't respect as much anyone who was pressing for it on the first night.

I think it depends on the people, and how comfortable you feel with each other.

Former Member

ten minutes

Former Member

Why the delay, Lozz?

Former Member

hiya,
u know when the times right, u have to do it when ur ready, and if ur not tur partner should respect that or they wouldnt b worth shaggin in the 1st place as thats all they blatently want.
theres obviously no time limit, so wait if u want. i told my ex i didint want sex straight away when he was gettin randy, and he did respect that 4 awhile(2wks)then he gave me the 'i'll wait till ur ready' tourment, and mins later we were shaggin! if they go on and on and on about waitin then u know their actually askin 4 it!
b goo, have fun
love ya helly

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From a purely female point of view, it's not so much about whether YOU'RE ready, as it has to do with the chap you're going out with.

I went out with my first boyfriend for two years and he never perssured me into anything, even though it was obvious that all his friends were at it. But somehow I just didn't WANT to be gary bradshaw's first time [SUCH an honour] so i told him that i wasn't sure how i felt about him, it suddenly became all about sex so he dumped me.

A couple of months later i go on holiday, meet this really great lad who's sweet and funny and sleep with him. it happened and i don't regret it at all.

There is no strict amount of time that you should wait, you just have to really want to be with the person. Though i might draw the line at ten minutes, lozz <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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Helly's right. Whenever he goes on about being 'ready to wait till u r ready nevermind how long it takes' I go damp around my eyes and next thing I pull out from my bag is a pack of condoms :-)) Ahhhh... Sometimes I wish I was firmer :-)))

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Originally posted by Anele:
Helly's right. Whenever he goes on about being 'ready to wait till u r ready nevermind how long it takes' I go damp around my eyes and next thing I pull out from my bag is a pack of condoms :-)) Ahhhh... Sometimes I wish I was firmer :-)))

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