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bf's foreskin troubles

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
sorry guys ive done a search but can't seem to find the answers i need so thought i'd put my questions to you!

I've been with my bf for about 9 months now and have been on the pill for about a week and a half now. Since i've been on the pill me and my bf had not tried to have sex without a condom until last night. it turned out as a bit of a disaster though because it became very painful for him. he said it was because his foreskin felt too tight and it was hurting him so we finally gave up. I reassured him that this didn't bother me and that we could try again when he is ready but he is now really worried that he will have to be circumstised(sp?). I told him that i thought this was a common problem and that it may stretch in time? was this right because i wasn't too sure? We then tried again but ended up having to use a condom and this was fine. What can we do to fix the situation?

thanx for your help in advance

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[ 12-05-2002: Message edited by: Schnap me Baby ]

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tell im to get it circumsized.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe use a bit of lubricant to lessen the friction a bit, either that or carry on using condoms
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    er.... dont tell him to get it circumsised. NOt till youve worked out every other option available. Tell him to go see his doctor or go to a sex clinic first.

    I had a tight forskin till it got slightly ripped in a vigorous sex session with my girlfriend. i was gona get it circumsised, but it healed after i saw my doc and is now sufficently lossened! <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    also, and this prob wont work, but its worth a try - tell him to practice gently pulling it back at home, all the way, then putting it back. Maybe do this a couple a times. I guess it maybe be best if its erect though....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    firslty i would like to remind you that being on the pill dosn't protect either partner from disease and is less than 100% effective in preventing conception. maybe continuing with condoms isn't such a bad idea.

    my boyfriends foreskin also use to be tight until in tore during a perticualy physical session. im not surgestion you try and tear it yourselves, because my guy said it was painfull for quite a while. Prehaps if you just use some lube and go easy things will losen up a bit.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    useful article here

    Get him to pop along to his GP or GUM clinic.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my boyfriend had this problem when we first tried having sex without condoms. we think it was because condoms have lubrication which helps it go in better, so we did forplay more, to get me more wet and it worked. try it, if it doesn't work then buy lubrication. if that doesn't work then i'm out of ideas apart from visiting the doctor
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Schnap me Baby:
    <STRONG>sorry guys ive done a search but can't seem to find the answers i need so thought i'd put my questions to you!

    I've been with my bf for about 9 months now and have been on the pill for about a week and a half now. Since i've been on the pill me and my bf had not tried to have sex without a condom until last night. it turned out as a bit of a disaster though because it became very painful for him. he said it was because his foreskin felt too tight and it was hurting him so we finally gave up. I reassured him that this didn't bother me and that we could try again when he is ready but he is now really worried that he will have to be circumstised(sp?). I told him that i thought this was a common problem and that it may stretch in time? was this right because i wasn't too sure? We then tried again but ended up having to use a condom and this was fine. What can we do to fix the situation?

    thanx for your help in advance

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    [ 12-05-2002: Message edited by: Schnap me Baby ]</STRONG>
    i think being cicumsized is the only way.i also feel that it might make your bf feel more comfortable!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think this is quite common. He should see a doctor. Unfortunately for your boyfriend I think the doctor will recomend circumsision. I was circumsized as a child so have never had to worry but I know of a 28 year old and a 55 year old who have both had to go through this lately. Get it sorted cos it won't go away!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kimmiey:
    <STRONG>firslty i would like to remind you that being on the pill dosn't protect either partner from disease and is less than 100% effective in preventing conception. maybe continuing with condoms isn't such a bad idea.</STRONG>

    <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> aaaarrrrrrhhhhh!!! comments like this make me so angry! was that anything to do with the question?! besides i do know what im doing, we've been using condoms for 9 months now and we both don't have any STI's!

    *counts to ten to control anger*

    sorry about that. thanx everyone for your help! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> he said he may go and see the doctor if the situation doesn't improve after a few tries with KY gel etc. He spoke to a friend at work that has also had this problem which i think made him feel more at ease. thanx again you guys are great <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    [ 13-05-2002: Message edited by: Schnap me Baby ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He may well find by lubricating his foreskin and gently retracting it back and forth over the head of his cock will loosen it up over time. It's best that he sees a doctor though.

    One thought though is that there are various types of circimcision apart from where the whole of the foreskin is removed. He may find that he may only need a partial circumcision that leaves most of his foreskin intact but allows the skin to be more pliable/retractable. Have him talk to his doctor about the various choices he has. Good luck!

    p.s. Your b/f may be reassured to know that although the operation of circumcision itself can be uncomfortable, there are very few people that have complained or regretted the procedure once it has been done.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally Posted By Schnap Me Baby:
    aaaarrrrrrhhhhh!!! comments like this make me so angry! was that anything to do with the question?! besides i do know what im doing, we've been using condoms for 9 months now and we both don't have any STI's!

    i know what you mean it makes me so angry too (or at least it used to when me and my boyfriend posted sex problems <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">) it makes me so annoyed even though you say that you have been together so long blah blah blah and they don't listen and still go on about giving you the usual lecture <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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