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Slightly confused. girly language translation plz!
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Ok, I have been wanting to get off with my girlfriend for quite a while now, and I was speaking to her on msn, and she says she wants to as well. I think, great here we go, but then she said, but she doesnt want to now(well, she said that in class). i mean, she says she wants to or something, but not at the time. im a little confused. she was saying like, she was nervous about it, and that she could not make the first move, and she said she was scared of rejection (PMSL! AS IF IM GONNA DUMP LAURA!!!! - but she told me off cos she was serious 
) so then i said to her not to worry because im crazy about her! anyway im worried now because i have never got off with anyone before and laura is dead nervous about it so im gonna have to make the first move even though i am shitting myself and then she had to confuse me further by contradicting herself. on the whole she gave me the impression that she wanted to, she said that a couple of times, it was just as she was signing off msn, she "yea but i dont want to now"
so when? :crying: so confusing.
) so then i said to her not to worry because im crazy about her! anyway im worried now because i have never got off with anyone before and laura is dead nervous about it so im gonna have to make the first move even though i am shitting myself and then she had to confuse me further by contradicting herself. on the whole she gave me the impression that she wanted to, she said that a couple of times, it was just as she was signing off msn, she "yea but i dont want to now"so when? :crying: so confusing.
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Anyway it sounds like she wants to wait a while or something.
You talk about getting off with here? Dude, just hold her or something and look at her and go to kiss her. I'm sure she would feel more comftable if you made the first move. If she's is shy like u say then wait till the both of ya are all alone and then do it...But don't ask her, "can I kiss ya". You'll soon know if she wanted you to or not.
"scared of what"
"rejection"
"rejection?"
"yea, from u"
"laura, what are you talking about? Im crazy about you. you make my world spin, you make my life worth spinning. i love you laura and im crazy about you im not going to dump you!!"
"i know that"
-then she went on saying she felt funky and worried, then when she had to leave
"ok ye, i g2g love you, i dont want to get off right now"
"what? when? ok, bye i love you richard"
she confused me! :crying:
It will happen just go in a quite corner and DON'T talk about kissing. If she does then make you move be for she says another word. P.s, I know u love her and that but don't be to over powering..Give her room a bit.
i need some bravery. perhaps alchohol. no - alchohol in school is not good.......
What you gonna do when it comes to sex!? :eek2:
You can't do this with your girlfriend. You need to be relating with her as an equal, not as someone you put on a pedestal. Otherwise you're gonna have this sort of problem over everything you want to do with her. And it'll just get worse.
Try treating her as a friend and a girl, instead of a goddess.
What maybe a previous guy liked, shes scared u wont like...let her know that whatever happens, itll be ok, cos u love each other, just relax and itll happen, just give it time, and when ur both ready, ull discover how much fun it is. dont push her into doing it, cos then she wont enjoy it... Take her in ur arms for a hug and kiss her gently on the lips and then just take it from there... one of u will have to take the lead, and once its been done once, it will give u both more confidence to do it again
im not sure how come we are both so insecure we trust each other its just we both enjoy what we have and its unbearable thinking of what life would be like if we lost it.
i mean, it was a couple of days before we even started holding hands, and that was a big deal. we are taking is slowly and cautiously, its just because we are both really shy. even if i was in a club i wouldnt feel comfortable kissing girls, its just not in my nature. the only person i feel comfortable with is laura but im scared if i do something wrong it might scare her away.
ShyBoy, you cant keep thinking about her leaving you. And you really have to stop treating her as though she was incredibly fragile, all wrapped up in cotton wool or something. she's not going to leave you if you try and kiss her. hell, she wont leave you if youre a crap kisser. plus there's the fact that you love each other.
I agree with what pretty much every1 else has said - youre making too much of a big deal. just do it next time youre alone and you feel like it. she probs didnt want to talk about it with you on msn, coz girls usually like the guys to make the first move. dont tell her youre going to do it, and just go for it!
Good luck
Just take it slow, don't rush urself into anything, and even just hold her and hug her to start with. In time, u'll feel that its right to kiss her, and then just kiss her lightly on the lips, and go from there..........believe me, there is nothing to b scared about....and u'll never regret it once it's done, cos kissing is one of the best things about relationships..................
good luck!!!! xx
mmm but thanks to you guys i have realised that she wants me, and although it sounds arrogant, thinking like that is the only way i can get over my insecurity and shyness. ah well its pretty much true anyway. i can always bribe her with naked pictures of ewan mcgregor
just touch her toungue with your own, gently at first....
Good god man just snog her already!
You don't need a fucking long tong.
yea im going to. ill see her on monday. see i dont see her very often ah well. this classical music rules!
A tongs gotta hurt :eek2:
fucking chill out fella, kissing. i'm assuming your about 14 yrs old. Get over it , if you analyse EVERYTHING throughout your life like this you won't ever do anything.
small tongue, christ on a bike, what's going to happen when you actually get to sex....
ive tried to get off with her twice. once i was a bit dizzy so i didnt manage it lol (funny at the time...) and the second time she was in a rush (to get away from me?) so although i went in for it she seemed to just give me a peck and run off.
ah well. will warn her next time then she has no excuse