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cant seem to stop cheating :(

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i love my boyfriend loads, but i really do love my ex. recently iv bin goin 2 my ex's and well..doin stuff. i dont even feel guilty for any of them??? y am i so mean??? and at a party i foned my bf and got off wiv lads while still on the fone 2 him! it really takes the piss now, but i cant help it and i dont even feel guilty. my bf asked me if i cheated and i sed no and i h8 lying to him cuz i wish that i dont cheat but i dont regret it if yall no wot i mean???
soz i do talk loadsa crap. i av a record of cheatin on my past bf's 2. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
i dont want 2 lose eitha guys tho...my ex or my bf.
jeez im a tit.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry to say but with that kind of attitude you do have a problem. I feel sorry for your guy. Why not at least have the decency to tell him the truth and let him go and then go back to your boyfest.

    Just remember that sooner than you think the tight firm looks will fade and polish will wear off and if youre still living fast and free then, you might not be able to find a decent guy who cares for you beyond whats in your panties.

    Good luck to you and to your bf.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i kno ur right. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> *sigh* sum of my m8s just say i need 2 grow up, (which is totally tru as i am really immature 4 my age) heehee.
    <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> but i am still a tit and i am mad wiv myself
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it seem as tne old fashion saying Goes : you want your bread buttered both sides or
    you want your cake and eat it.Its a problem the only you can find the answer.Sorry not much help.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ditto to what Ilson said.

    And the simple answer is, don't have a boyfriend until you can learn to control yourself. Apologise profusely to him, tell him you're breaking up because you can't keep your hands to one guy, and go and make out with as many guys as you want. Then when you finally learn that monogamy is the way to go, go out and find a boyfriend. You never know, there might be someone out there that won't heave heard of your new found reputation.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You are not being honest with yourself, you do care about what you have done/doing or you wouldnt have posted what you did, you feel guilty, its not hard to tell, and you should..
    Theres nothing wrong with loving sex and wanting to be with different partner's, but if you want to do that,let your b/g go & find someone who will treat him right, because your not & you say you love him eh??
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    Anyway judging people isnt my fav pastime, it's your life, you make your decision's, just make sure your ready to deal with it when everyone involved find's out & you are left with no-one <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    Take care..
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by 'girl_down_under':
    <STRONG>
    Anyway judging people isnt my fav pastime, it's your life, you make your decision's, just make sure your ready to deal with it when everyone involved find's out & you are left with no-one <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    Take care..</STRONG>


    It is my favourite past time actually. You're treating this guy like shit. You expect him to be there for you, and to care for you, but in return you cheat on him with people.
    How would you feel right now if you found out he'd been sleeping with his ex? you'd probably be hurt that he can betray your trust like that.

    My advice is this. Either stop your sluttish ways, and forget any of it happened and make the best with your bf.
    Or be the best damn slag you can be, break up with your bf for A BETTER REASON than "i'm shagging guys behind your back"
    <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> and go out, shag guys, get an STI or 6 and maybe pregnant. Then when your promiscuous lifestyle comes back to haunt you in a physical form (like a disease) or a mental form, (like the reputation you will get) you can go and find a proper boyfriend.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I fully concur with everything said above. Baby, you got a serious problem, and you need to sort it out fast. If you actually give a damn anywhere in that tiny heart of yours, love him enough to break up with him so he doesn't feel like a dick when he finds out. And remember, ,what goes around comes around...you're heading for a nasty surprise one day. <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u will b happy to hear that (*sigh of releif*) i saw my ex guy and basically told him that i was a shit. as 4 my bf, well i saw him 2day and i had been tellin myself that i wud confess but i cudnt, but well now its all sorted out (hopefully) well thers no need to tell him rite?? and no i dont go round shaggin evry1 as i am a virgin.
    that is all. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    make sure you're willing to commit to someone and that person only, and i tell you, if you keep cheating, someone is bound to be hurt no matter what.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't doubt what you said about being immature, you have proved that in not only the way you wrote your post but also in it's subject.

    Personally I don't believe that you deserve a boyfriend, particularly if he cares about and is faithful to you. Grow up and think about how your actions are reflection on your reputation. Cheating is a trashy way to behave.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Do u no something? I totally understand where you're coming from (i hope!). It sounds to me like you're suffering from insecurity! thats all. but it is very hard to over come. I was with my boyfreind for 2 yrs before i managed to stop cheating on him. I think id cheated on him about 20 times (only kissing)-without him finding out. I had unbeleivable guilt tho- thats our only difference. I realised that i was stopping myself getting close to my boyfreind in fear of getting hurt, by kising other guys. Also, my boyfreind wasn't giving me the affection and security that i needed so i went elsewhere. It was when we broke up that i knew i had to stop cheating and when we got back together, i promised myself not to cheat+i havent. u dont no wat you've got til it's gone-2 bludy rite. If u really wanna b with your boyfreind, u maybe need to tell your him that you need more affection, maybe more love+see if that works. Keep away from your ex+tell yourself that no-one is as good as your boyfreind. Hmmm, however, if you dont feel guilty then u cant love him so maybe im wasting my breath!
    xx


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OI! I'm her bezzie mate. She's no slag. Seriously. I know what it looks like but you don't know the history her n her ex have behind them and she hasn't done a very goo djob of explainig it either! I found it hard to understand how she could cheat so much, but now, after many hours of talking n stuff i do totally understand. So.. please don't label her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yay, but i am a twat. i dont understand me, good job i got you for a bezzie mate kia. cheers alley!! i dont think you have wasted youre breath (well i hope you havent) lol cuz you made me feel betta. YES YOU FUCKIN TOSSPOTS, OTHER PEOPLE DO CHEAT AND WELL I BET U AINT FUCKIN ANGELS UR SENS. AND JUST CUZ WE AV CHEATED DONT MEAN WE R FUCKIN SLAGS, + U CANT SAY IF U AD THE CHANCE U WUDNT CHEAT BUT WELL UR JUST MOANIN AT US CUZ U AINT GETTIN NONE URSELF.
    <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> oh my.
    <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> that is all.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by me-heeee:
    <STRONG>yay, but i am a twat. i dont understand me, good job i got you for a bezzie mate kia. cheers alley!! i dont think you have wasted youre breath (well i hope you havent) lol cuz you made me feel betta. YES YOU FUCKIN TOSSPOTS, OTHER PEOPLE DO CHEAT AND WELL I BET U AINT FUCKIN ANGELS UR SENS. AND JUST CUZ WE AV CHEATED DONT MEAN WE R FUCKIN SLAGS, + U CANT SAY IF U AD THE CHANCE U WUDNT CHEAT BUT WELL UR JUST MOANIN AT US CUZ U AINT GETTIN NONE URSELF.
    <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> oh my.
    <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> that is all.</STRONG>

    I don't profess to be an angel. What I do profess to be is trustworthy. Now personally, I don't care if you sleep with your boyfriend, and x thousand others. I think that he is having his trust abused, and you confess to this and also seem to revel in it.

    That, btw, has nothing to do with my own behaviour, it's just you.
    my bf asked me if i cheated and i sed no and i h8 lying to him cuz i wish that i dont cheat but i dont regret it if yall no wot i mean???
    soz i do talk loadsa crap. i av a record of cheatin on my past bf's 2

    Um, yeah.
    but well now its all sorted out (hopefully) well thers no need to tell him rite?? and no i dont go round shaggin evry1 as i am a virgin

    And I don't think I need to say *any* more.

    Believe me. If I were your boyfriend, or your ex-, you'd be nowhere near me. But then, I never would be. I have more respect for myself than that.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey me hee. If you post details like that you have to expect some criticism. But you need to decide, do you want to have fun and get off wth whoever you want, or do you want to have a relationship with one person? You can't ultimately have both.

    Some people on here may have been cheated on so your attitude may hurt them personally.

    No one is an angel, I confess to having cheated in the past. But if you don't even feel bad about it I don't see how you can love your boyfriend. I have felt utterly disgusted with myself and very guilty when I have done it. Can you not imagine how much it would hurt your b/f to know?

    Or is there more to this than you are telling? Eg, one of my bfs who I cheated on made me feel shit about myself, saying things like I had a big bum, and saying he would come round and then not bothering. If a relationship is wonderful there is no need to cheat.

    If you don't feel ready for a relationship don't have one. Have fun and don't hurt anyone in the process. Take care.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    TELL THE TRUTH.THE TRUTH IS THAT ALL WOMEN AND MAN HAVE A PART OF THEM THAT IS ANGEL AND THE OTHER PART IS DEVIL ONE PART IS FAITHFUL AND THE OTHER PART IS THE HOE PART.THE ONLY POSSIBLE WAY TO BE FAITHFUL IN A RELATIONSHIP IS IF U CANT GET ANYTHING ELSE BUT YOUR MATE.EVERYBODY DOESN'T WANT MORE THEY JUST WANT BETTER.SO IF THEY PLAYED ON U, THEN IT DOESN'T NECESSARILY MEAN IT WAS BETTER THAN U THEY JUST THOUGHT IT WOULD BE,BUT MAYBE IT WAS, ONLY ONE WILL REALLY KNOW THE TRUTH!OF COURSE IF U HAD A LOT OF DICK OR PUSSY BACK IN THE DAYS,THEN THEY WILL PROBABLY SETTLE DOWN!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Turn Caps Lock off.

    Use sentences, and spaces.

    Then the fairly good advice in your posts will be obvious.
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