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Acceptable age diff

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey everyone

Following on from the post "older woman", what do you think is an acceptable age difference? My guy is 13 yrs older, and on a mental level, we're well suited.
So, what does everyone else think then??

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    spose it depends how old u both r, like 10 yrs aint alot 4 ppl who r like 20 n 30 etc, but like a 3 yr old cudnt go out wiv a 13 yr old. i reckon as long as ur both happy then anything goes <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    your 20 and youy b/f isb 32,you have feelings for each other I class thet as a unit and so go out into the world and enjoy your new like together.Just ignore any critisism and if parents start on you both.tell them to PISSS OOOF.

    Good luck to the pair of you.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I went out with a girl 14 years older than me. Split up when she thought it wouldn't work cos I was 18. Hurt me big time. Go for it by all means just hope you do better than what me and her had. Enjoy yourself with him because older partners can be great!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    NO WAY!!

    IT'S SICK!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Age difference doesnt matter as long as neither of you are kids..Its just common sense.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In this case, it's fine.

    But responses are irrelevant, you're simply looking for reassurance that what you're doing is acceptable, and so you'll ignore any of the negative comments.

    The next stage is to deny that what I described above is what you're doing. <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Turtle, what are you on about??? She's 20 and her man is 33. There is nothing illegal or immoral about that, they are both of age and fully capable of deciding for themselves what is good for them or not.

    There are far greater age differences found in couples in other cultures (take Spanish marriages for an example). I think all the criticism for age differences in relationships comes from the sexually repressed and puritanical conditioning found in the US.

    What matters most in a mutually consenting love relationship is the two partners themselves and THEIR assessment of their compatibility.

    Love doesnt ask to see an ID before it goes to work on people. Try to remeber that.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont think that age gap sounds that bad really. youre both adults.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My guy is 13 yrs older

    I can see how toast got mixed up <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> i got mixed up at first, thought your guy was 13, kept reading your post and finally got it <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Your both adults, i reckon it's fine <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Clandestine:
    <STRONG>Turtle, what are you on about??? She's 20 and her man is 33. There is nothing illegal or immoral about that, they are both of age and fully capable of deciding for themselves what is good for them or not.
    </STRONG>

    What? I said it was acceptable. But the girl is having doubts about it in her own mind, and wants reassurance, which means she'll ignore or criticise any negative responses.

    Don't worry, I'm just being an ass.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Me and my mates started talkin about acceptable age differences once and after much discussion we came to the conclusion that it isn't so much the couple's ages that matter but how it works out percentage wise. It's hard to explain in writing but an example would be if a girl was say 14 and a guy was 18 it would be hard because the percentage difference is greater than if the two ages were say 40 and 44, which is deemed more acceptable in society.
    I really don't know if that makes any sense to anyone, but we were all pretty pissed when we talked about it and my maths is utter shit so I could be completely wrong! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok take a five year age gap -
    girl is 12 her boyf is 17 = grosse
    girl is 14 her boyfriend is 19 = mostly grosse
    girl is 16 her boyfriend is 21 = still kinda dodgy
    girl is 18 her boyfriend 23 = both fairly mature and adult less sickening to society
    girl is 20 her boyfriend is 25 = people start not to care
    girl is 35 her boyfriend is 40 = no one gives a fuck.
    As long as both parties are adults, mature and consensting there is not really a problem with it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I went out with some one who was 20 years older than me he did look younger though.
    If it works for you then cool but you may find out that you want different things from life. As i I did,It can be heart breaking!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey there!! Up until recently I would have said no way to a younger man.. although I would happily have gone out with a much older man.. even 15 years older in one case.

    Last year I met the most beautiful person who I instantly and not very politely dismissed for being to young for me. On many occasions even going as far as to say "Piss off and find someone your own age"!!!

    Thankfully he persisted because after agreeing to meet him for coffee (my idea was to tell him once and for all to get lost!!) I feel in love with this man. He is 8 years younger than me.. exactly half the distance between myself and my son. We have been going out now for about 4 months and are thinking about moving in together in the coming month. If it was not for his persistance I would have missed out on the most decent caring ma that I have ever met - definately my loss.

    Sooooo.. good luck to you and your man. Hope that you find all of the happiness in the world. And for the granny's who look sideways and disapprove in the supermarket.. ummm.. get stuffed!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by deeby doo:
    <STRONG>ok take a five year age gap -
    girl is 12 her boyf is 17 = grosse
    girl is 14 her boyfriend is 19 = mostly grosse
    girl is 16 her boyfriend is 21 = still kinda dodgy
    girl is 18 her boyfriend 23 = both fairly mature and adult less sickening to society
    girl is 20 her boyfriend is 25 = people start not to care
    girl is 35 her boyfriend is 40 = no one gives a fuck.
    As long as both parties are adults, mature and consensting there is not really a problem with it.</STRONG>

    Couldn't have put it better myself.

    Mind you, it does really depend on the people. For instance, take my group of 4 close friends. One thinks age gaps are irrelevant as long as the two people are on the same level. Another thinks that age gaps are fine as long as it isn't something like 20 years. The third isn't really sure, and thinks it depends on the people concerned on whether the age difference is an issue. The fourth throws up her hands in horror at the mention of a gap of more than 4 years.

    Mind you, my personal opinion is that of girl 3. If you had asked me this time last year, I would have been girl 4. But since then, I have got to know a couple of guys who have been a fair bit older than me (by fair bit, I mean in terms of 3-5 years.) As long as the two of you are happy in each others company, I say go for it. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    And deeby doo, it's gross with no e on the end in this instance <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!HELP!
    NEED SOME ADVICE
    LISTEN UP
    IM 17 WITH A 35 YEAR OLD WOMAN (DAMN SHE IS FINE AND KNOWS HOW TO WORK THE DICK}AND I BEEN FAITHFUL 4 8 MONTHS {WHAT A LOOOOOONG TIME}JUST NEED ANY ADVICE OR WHAT DO U THINK ABOUT THIS!!PLEASE LET ME KNOW.THX
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its strange because I have always been out with older blokes apart from once. But now I am older, looking back, I think maybe these blokes were a bit wierd to want to go out with a young girl. One in particular was 20 and I was 13, but he was well weird and started stalking me! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    It does depend on the people involved but when someone is still at school it's a bit iffy.

    I always feel guilty now when I see boys in school uniform and I think "ooh he's nice", help, I might be a cradle snatcher!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think theres like a set rule for age difference. I'm going out with a bloke 2 years older than me and we both think its fine. But I meant this guy on holiday who was was also 2 years older and he was really hung up that i was 2 years younger than him but in the end we both had a wicked time, if u kno wot i mean <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> So i think its just up to personal opinion and experience
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I really don't think age-gaps are that important provided that both parties are of consenting age of course. What counts is how you get on together and how you treat one another.

    Inevitably there will be some people who disapprove, but if the relationship is strong enough it should stand the test.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Age ain't nothing but a number!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i was never keen on the whole age difference thing. Id always been with guys my age or a year or two older and then started going out with a guy who was 3 years older than me. Suited me just fine. We broke up when i moved over to Ireland.

    Then I met a guy over here and started seeing him - was just a bit of a shock with eachothers age though. I was 20 - he 28. We soon got used to it though and would jokingly call eachother names - he was grandpa and i was the spoilt brat. It didnt bother me at all. And actually had a great laugh with him until he turned into a bastard...... well thats a different story all together and has nothing to do with age!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    but like a 3 yr old cudnt go out wiv a 13 yr old.
    genius <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    KNOWS HOW TO WORK THE DICK}AND I BEEN FAITHFUL 4 8 MONTHS {WHAT A LOOOOOONG TIME}
    further genius <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    I rarely look on here but I think I'll pay more attention, this is great stuff! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, thanks for all your input. Personally age diff has never bothered me, i much prefer older men as we seem to get on well together, especially this older one! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    I just wondered what others opinions were. As far as the old grannies that like to stare, well, i'm sure all of you know what they can go and do <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> it doesn't bug me what they think, they're entitled to their own opinion!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    IM A 17 YEAR OLD DUDE FROM L.A. IT SEEMS LIKE ITS ALRIGHT 4 MY RELATIONSHIP WITH THE 35 YEAR OLD LADY. I LOVE HER!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Goldsuns, there is a Caps Lock key on your keyboard.

    Please use it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi, the main thing is that u are happy. If you get on fine and dont have a problem with it thats gud!
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