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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Well i have to say Im not experienced when it comes to sex /loving (important to mention that) .Can anybody help a me out there? anyone with usefull tips or advise .

yours

Dylan(Zeb)

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Okay id really like to be more specific with my advice to you... so please be more direct!

    otherwise... As far as some women are concerned they like thrills n spills of a "bad-boy" and others like the intelligent and more 'caring' (perhaps wrong word!) type... but what ever it is always best to b who U R! do not pretend to be someone u r not! They will find out sooner than later!

    Myself... as u may have already read... i choose to come across as an exciting, caring, romantic boyfriend who can plan things but is also spontaneous! i buy plenty of gifts for my ladies and i always offer to pay whenever we go out (some girls feel pressured by this... so give them a choice!!) I never "have coffee" on a first date... maybe a kiss on the doorstep but it works best if you dont go inside for the first date... it seems to have GREAT affect!!

    1st dates: NEVER talk about ex g/fs BIG NO! NO! Dont talk about yourself but dont just talk about her.... altho this shows u r interested. Try and relate but not to vividly!

    Longer term: talk about sex!!! not too full on but establish a line which you think you can get too BUT DO NOT CROSS. Different ladies have different line boundaries (basically... some are easy some arent!)

    do not show her your sexual frustration.

    BUY HER CLOTHES! is a MUST!
    Confident: TAKE! her shopping for a little treat... ie underwear/nightclothes... she usually rewards you with a fashion show... BUT DO NOT INSIST!! she will offer you to stay the night or something!!!

    Finally PRESSURE! there must be NO pressure at all... you are free she is free... until commitment is made... but my friend you are probably a long way away from that stage...

    MAIN POINT: Have fun with ladies! they really are THE great sex!

    Good luck
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    DYLAN,

    TheSite has a wealth of information, some of the links you might like to start with are: Info - Sex, Info - [Health] AND Magazine - Sex and Relationships

    Browse TheSite, both in previous threads and the information links and I'm sure you'll get some more information to help out.

    Let us know how you go.

    Good Luck.

    Edited to add another link. <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    [ 02-02-2002: Message edited by: Squinty ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hiya dylan! uve bein very general wen u say sex and lovin! do u mean uve had sex but it wasnt very successful or u just wanted to been advised in general on sex and relationships?
    may i ask if ur in a relationship (or is that the aim of ur question?)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dear hippy chick
    At this moment i am in a relationship ,though things have not been that good sex wise . I am not sure what the problem is ,maybe its me ! I do try to please but things are not quite right .
    one thing we are very good freinds ,thats more than many have got in a relationship .

    yours

    dylan(zeb)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nomad_lookin_4_sanity Has proberly given the best advice I have seen on the dating scene!
    Did you find a collage course for that or somthing?
    I wont add anything to that except

    Respect to the newbies, When thay post wise words of wisdom!

    We've not 'met' yet so welcome and please stay!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    have u talked about it alot? i was really uptight wiv my bf about things like that and it took us nearly 9 months for it too happen but we talked and it totally took away the pressure! if u both trust each other with ur bodies etc and talk about it it mite help! i take it uve had sex but its just not good?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dear squinty,nomad-lookin-4-sanity,Ibbow and of course Hippy chick

    Thank you for wise words ,greatly appreciated.I will take on board all advise given .
    I have to say this site has been quite educational ,I m glad i logged on to it ! . My catchphrase is"wisdom with age " ,what Im hoping is to gain wisdom with age.

    Thank you again

    yours
    dylan(zeb)
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