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i recently found out my friend was raped at first she said it was a boy at skool and wouldnt go to the police even wen i begged her.
today i found out why ... it wasnt a boy at skool it was her dad. her dad has been abusing her and her older brother for sum time now she wont tell her mum and wen i advise councilling she changes the subject. how do i help her im all out of ideas HELP HELP HELP!!!!
a bird can love a fish but where would they live???
today i found out why ... it wasnt a boy at skool it was her dad. her dad has been abusing her and her older brother for sum time now she wont tell her mum and wen i advise councilling she changes the subject. how do i help her im all out of ideas HELP HELP HELP!!!!
a bird can love a fish but where would they live???
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This really discusts me, I think its foul, she really does need to talk to someone, perhaps mention childline as its annoymous or if she feels brave enough ask her to speak with counsellers or possibly even the police.
The problem we've got is that as well as being very wrong and something which MUST be stopped, shes probably aware that this will possibly break up the family, which is a huge strain to carry upon yourself especially as she will no doubt still love her dad despite...
She really must speak with someone, I'm not sure what else to advise, this is a very serious incident and I'm exceptionally saddened and distressed just thinking about it...
The problem with telling her mum is that she may not believe it, after all this is her husband doing this to their children, it's something that's going to be very difficult for her to come to terms with. And if she didn't believe it and spoke to you friend's dad, your friend would most likely have a very bad time of it.
Like everyone has said your friend needs to get help. Encourage her to ring Childline, and if she won't, ring it yourself because they'll be able to help you to help her. Being there for her like Lolly says is very important. I'm not entirely sure what will happen but it's going to be difficult for your friend, and she'll need a shoulder to lean on.
Good luck and I wish you all the best.
what the others said:
try to get her to ring Childline (0800 1111), or u ring it urself for advice. they know what they're doing, listen to them.
u urself can help a lot to be there for her, be a friend, and it seems ur already doing that.
i hope things get better for her. and this fucker ends up in the slammer.
Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
just be her friend and continue to support her. but in the end, the only person who can end this cycle of abuse is her. she needs to be the one brave enough to stand up and say something. all you can do is help her realize that.
and i agree with everyone here, this is sick and wrong and needs to stop. be gentle, but help her understand that she needs to say something or it's gonna keep happening. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
my sympathies go out to you and ur friend fairy_pie.
good luck.
It was really really hard for them to tell me what happened to them. I was the first person my friend ever told, and one of only a couple that my ex told. Neither of them like to talk about it and neither of them have gone to the police, but it stopped for both of them, and both of them have siblings that haven't been abused, and they feel that tearing up their family would be the worst thing for everyone. I probably would have gone to the police if I were them, but it's their choice.
Anyway, you have to realize that by telling you she made a really big step forward, and maybe once she feels more comfortable talking about it with you she'll go to someone else and get help.
Good luck.
An eye for an eye makes the world blind.
Take care
~M~
Don't waste any more time. This arsehole needs stopping.
~asho~
yuck. can sympathize amadee. i have friends who were victims of abuse as well. it's a horrible horrible thing for them to have to cope and live with that. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
nice to see you alive and well though. welcome back from where ever it is you went. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Molestation on the other hand is a sexual thing.
You're friend also needs to see a doctor because everything 'down there' will need to be checked. Most likely it's all torn up and it hurts because the lubricating gland doesn't work during rape.
[This message has been edited by [*cRimSOnCoLUmbiA*] (edited 27-06-2001).]
i wish her all the luck in the world and hope her dad and brother go down for it . and burn in the deepest pits of Hell !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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