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Too Kinky?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
im new at this so please don't crucify me if this has been brought up. I have done a search and not found the answer that I'm looking for...

Here go's

i have been with the same partner for about 18 months and have been sleeping togther for about 12 months.

i enjoy having raunchy sex and my guy has always complied to my desires (im sure he enjoys it too)
my problem is that i'm the one that always makes the kinky surgestions.

once we have finished the deed and the passion has worn off im somethimes leaves me feeling dirty and embarrassed about the things i did and said.

i just imagine that guys wouldn't have to much respect for some one who was screaming "slap my ass"
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What do you think?
do guys find kinky behaviour trashy?

Cheers

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just to clear one thing up, did you mean that HE makes you feel dirty after, or you just feel dirty by yourself? if it's the first, you can't put up with that. also i think you know deep down whether he's actually doing these things to keep you happy, or whether he really enjoys it. to be honest, either way you're onto a winner. Plus, you've been at it for a year already. if he wasn't impressed you'd have heard all about it by now! Rapists, perverts and paedophiles are dirty (an understatement i know...), you're just indulging some fantasies. Baby, enjoy yourself and have some fun with the man you love!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Kimmiey <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> I agree with everything Weehazza has written, but I would like to ask..
    Do you talk to him about it?
    When your together do you ask him if he has any idea's? like is there anything he would like to try?
    I wouldnt think after being together for so long that you have any thing to worry about..
    Maybe you just have a better imagination ??
    Take care <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its good to have a bit of roughness and passion! You dont just want boring sex as you wouldnt be happy then either! I think your boyfirend sounds a bit shy maybe?! Maybe not!

    I certainly wouldnt feel dirty and if its him who is making you feel dirty then he cant be that special! Try and get him to join in a bit! Enjoy it though, its what it was designed for!

    Stay kool!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just to clear things up a little, he dosn't do anything to make me feel dirty that is just how i feel sometimes. i have asked him about his fantasies but he has never really opened up about what turns him on i'm not sure if he is shy about it or if he genuinely hasn't thought about it because i'm so quick to make surgestions.
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