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Advice Required On 'Impotence'

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've been going out with my g/f for almost 2 months now. A few weeks ago I had a party whilst my parents were away and she came over. As the party died down we went to bed together and 'played around' a bit. Then things got more serious and we were going to have sex. It would have been my first time but I wasn't hard enough to enter her. It was really embarassing but I just put it down to drinking and smoking weed. Then we were in a situation ready to do it yesterday but the same thing happened. I hadn't had a drink or smoke so I'm wondering why is this happening. I'm only 18, I don't have problems getting erections or climaxing on my own. Anyone know why it's happening, what I should do it stop it happening again, or where I can get help? Please help.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi McLaren,

    It's usually psychological rather than physcial factors which cause impotence among guys your age.

    Take a look at this.
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/sexual_health/impotence,_aka_erectile_dysfunction.html

    Dom
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it sounds as if ur just nervous and a little worried?? as dom sed its probably psychological and not a 'problem' down there!!! try talkin to ur gf and do plenty of foolin around 1st!!!
    hope that helps
    hip chic
    x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont worry i really dont think u r impotent u were probably just really nrevous, same thing happened with my bf, it was his 1st time aswell.

    dont worry!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd definatly say it was a combination of nerves, drink and drugs...

    I sometimes get that if I'm heavily wasted on drugs, don't worry... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by jolizzie11:
    dont worry i really dont think u r impotent u were probably just really nrevous, same thing happened with my bf, it was his 1st time aswell.

    dont worry!!

    ditto. and the more it happened, the more he expected it to happen, so it made it more likely the next time! somehow you gotta find a way of putting it out of your mind and just concentrating on the moment, try and remove all pressure (or as much as poss) by not concentrating on the penetration, but the foreplay.

    and easy on the drink/drugs next time youre intending to do this sorta thing <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;



    "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
    ~ Nietzsche
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks everyone who has posted a reply. You have been a great help.
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