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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
were a young couple who've been together for 4 yrs and have a 2 yr old daughter together.
our sex life is practically none existant and has never been much better sex once every 3 weeks is about average for us although it has been longer. he has got a high sex drive and i have got a very low sex drive.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry... I might just be thick, but what's the question exactly? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    All I know is that I feel sorry for your daughters prospects of literacy. Hope there are some good schools around your area.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the question is wot can we do to improve our sex life
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you tired after lookin after your 2yr old all day? .or are you bored with having sex in the same old bed.You both could try sex in different rooms of the house eg. in front of the telly,in the bath or on the stairs.Just close the cutains and experiment.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Surely there's other posts which could answer your question? Have you searched the site?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by couple:
    <STRONG>the question is wot can we do to improve our sex life</STRONG>

    Er... get off the net and be imaginative?

    Look, sex is a creative art, its mainly about expressing your love, desires, etc. You need to be asking this of each other.

    Okay, two step plan.

    First step is to arrange for your child to be out of the way for an evening. Either tire her out so she'll sleep early, or let her stay with close relatives, or whatever else will see the kid happy but unable to disturb you both.

    Step two is to spend an evening together exploring each other's desires. Maybe get a bottle of wine to lower the inhibitions, relax with some good music or a film you both love (note: both. Not some action flick he loves and she tolerates). That should help you both feel relaxed and happy in each other's company.

    A candle-lit bath is great, especially with scented candles. The main thing is to set a mood where you can open your hearts to each other, and where you're already feeling very touchy-feely when it begins.

    Warning:
    The question "wot [sic] can we do to improve our sex life" is often a sign of deeper problems in the sex lives of a couple. You mentioned having differing sex-drives.

    The real question is "why is your sex drive low?".

    If you find sex unexciting then yes, perhaps livening it up will make you willing to do it a lot more. However, if you already find sex fulfiling, (you usually reach orgasm, and sometimes have several orgasms with your partner), then all the added spice in the world isn't going to increase your drive.

    Having children can lower sex-drive, in that caring for kids is exhausting work, and fear of the child wandering in, asking for a glass of water is hardly an aphrodisiac either. All you can do there is ask your partner to help more (that way you'll have more energy for sex and he'll have less, sort of helping balance out the difference in sex-drives <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> ).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yet again Black Knight excells himself.
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