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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
is it just me or why can't i seem to longer than 5-10 mins.

i find my gf to be very attractive, when she is naked its like OMG! when i'm actually having sex with her, its HOLY SHIT!

i find it hard to control myself and hence find that she really doesn't get any stimulation out of sex since i cum to early.

now, i have tried counting, etc.
i find taking deep breathes helpful, but as soon as she starts making some noises, its all over.

we normally have sex in the car, so that could be a factor, however, i feel i need much more experience.

i have read the trantic sex page and what to find out more about practicing it.
do you guys know of any good web sites that explain it...

ASIDE: although sometimes i can hold it for ages, but this is a rare event.

Please help! :-)


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think this generally improves over time... the more you have sex with her the more you'll get used to it and you won't come as quickly.

    It sounds as though you know the right techniques for controlling yourself, though, and again, the more you practise, the more useful you'll find them.

    Just continue doing what you're doing and things will sort themselves out. Don't worry too much, that will probably make things worse (that's so much easier said then done though).... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    And make sure you don't just give up on your girlfriend after you come... she needs some attention too!

    An eye for an eye makes the world blind.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok there r ways of making a guy last longer:

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    "What is premature ejaculation anyways? Premature ejaculation is the unwelcome occurrence of the male orgasm before the woman is ready. There is no real time limit. For some couples, the male orgasm will be considered premature if it happens in less than 20 minutes after initiating sexual intercourse. On the other hand, if the man ejaculates in 1 minute, it may be okay if the woman had time to reach her peak as well."

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    there are some other things you can do as well, dude.

    first off, and the car thing might make this a bit difficult, but changing positions every few minutes gives you a bit of a break and gives you a chance to calm down a little. you just have to learn how to do this as seamlessly as possibe as to not kill the mood.

    second, like amadee said, keep trying things that might help. maybe change your rhythm, how fast you go, the direction you move it in, things that will help improve your girlfriend's pleasure as well as your stamina.

    and she's also right in that the more you guys make love, the more you're going to get used to things, which will help you relax and stay calm. i think the fact that you may not used to having regular sex contributes to this some. what i mean is the penis sorta gets excited very easily if you don't let him come out and play very often and so he tends rush things sometimes. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; the more intimate you guys become, the less of a problem this will be.

    and never forget that there are other ways to make her climax. you should always find a way to make her happy, even if its not intercourse.

    good luck dude.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wank more. and more and more and more. the more you wank, the longer it takes to cum during sex.

    works for me anyway.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Next time your at it imagine this face:

    ... and I promise she'll orgasm at least 3 times before you... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    luv-snail, wanking more actually makes guys cum more quickly during sex. Most guys rush masturbation, they don't make it last long enough. He gets a picture of some big tittied girl in front of them, and *bang* he's off! And there's no stopping em!

    Wanking only works if you do it very sensually, with lubricant, moaning, etc. A full body experience. And it has to last a long time. Otherwise it can screw up your timing later on.
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