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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Whatsup? I had a long talk with my girlfriend about sex and everything like that and she opened up about a lot of things. She said she felt really pressured into sex a lot of the time... how shes not really in the mood but she doesnt want to blow me off because Ill get pissed. Obviously no guy wants their girlfriend blowing them off theyre supposed to attracted to one another but I dont know what to do. I think I want it a lot I guess I dont know...? I am not sure if maybe sex isnt good enough for her or what. She said she gets all the way until shes about to orgasm and all of the sudden loses it if that makes any sense..? She only orgasms off of sex not oral or fingering. I am not sure what the problem is. I know sometimes Ill go into too deep or whatever and I end up poking the back of her you know what and she said that ruins the feelings totally. I dont get it at all. Shes orgasmed like twice off of fingering and she loved it but other than that its really rarely for her to finish her orgasm completely. Also at first I really had trouble lasting more than 30 minutes or so and lately I can go for an hour or two and cant orgasm off of sex alone... I am assuming its because shes not as tight as she was when we first started having sex? PLEASE WB


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I forgot to include the main question... what should I do I mean if my girlfriend is wanting to have sex maybe twice or three times a month is all she actually is in the mood to do it and she always expects me to jump when she wants to... and I want to probably 2-3 times per week. I dont know I cant think of any other reason? I dont know if its me or sex itself or just I dont know..? CONFUSED!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well i know what you mean about the getting there and losing it thing..

    Mayb when she feels like it just take things real nice and slow with her ask her what she likes and what she wants you to do... give her clitoral stimulation a lot and be nice and gentle... dont try and go deep inside her whilst ur havin penetrative sex because you will end up hurting her rather than pleasuring her.

    (my opinion)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MonStar1023:

    do u really hav 2 write that everytime u post???soz,im not gettin at ya,u can carry on writtin it,its just annoyin!!!SORRY if u think im havin a go,im not!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    urm well i dont see that wanting 2-3 times a week is a lot but it is if ur gf dont wanna do it. u cant make her do nefin that she dont wana do cuz thats rape, but relationships are all about give and take.

    but seriously dont pressurize her cuz its not nice <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; just do sensual stuff instead of sex i reckon?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Definitely don't pressure her into having sex. That will probably drive her away even more and make the chances of it happening much smaller. People's sex drives are different, just because you want to have sex a lot doesn't mean she does (actually, 2 or 3 times a week isn't really a lot, it seems pretty normal to me). But my point is that her feelings are different from yours and you have to respect that. There should be more to your relationship than sex and as far as I'm concerned sex is just an added bonus to a relationship. If you don't get it, it shouldn't be a huge deal.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Spirit II I wanted to reply to what you said... yeah we have really talked alot about what feels good for her and everything like that she there are a few things... she really likes slow and deep. Which is why I am usually going all the way in. However with some positions like with her legs over my shoulders if I go in deep it pokes the back of her. I dont know she also likes when I go kind of fast so she cant predict what is goin to happen next ya know? I dont know I mean I dont know what to do.. I dont pressure her thats the thing. I do get like a little bothered I guess when I am trying to kiss her and lead into something and she totally blows me off but I guess thats normal. I dont want to make it sound like I am like 'cmon we gotta have sex whats your problem bla bla bla.' I dont know.. sex definitely isnt the make-up of our relationship. We were friends before this and were going out for months and everything was great with just kissing and everything like that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i know just how your girlfriend feels. wen i was wi my last b/f i loved doin all of the "sex stuff", but a lot of the time i just felt like doin other stuff, goin out and havin fun. when we were in my room together he always got turned on relly easily than i felt guilt if i got him turned on and didnt give him a blow job or wotever. its not that he pressured me, i pressured myself really.

    if i was you id just try to do other stuff, take the pressure of wanting sex as much and let her take the lead about when to hav e sex. i got scared that all are relationship was was sex.

    hope that helps, S&S xx
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