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foreplay....u ne good?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
erm....where do i start <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;

ok, when me n my bf have sex, thats uaually wot it is....sex. he says he wants loadsa foreplay but we never seem 2 get there 1 of us just gets carried away!

sex is good but u know sometimes its just abit to plain. can u give me any tips? please dont say "tak 2 ur bf" cos it wont work! i just need practical tips wot i can do.......

please! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    From a guys perspective the reason you want to stop foreplay and get on with it is because you're so turned on. In your mind you just think "I want it now!! arrgh". So the 1st thing I would suggest is slow it down as much as possible. Try not to turn him on so much. If he tries to progress too quickly take control yourself and do something to slow it down. Perhaps try not to "touch" him down there so much and tease him a bit more.
    Maybe the females on the forum will be more helpful <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'll second what Mooney said, sounds like your fella is doing a pretty good job..

    Maybe you should try doing more tantric sex and extend yourself for as long as you can till your just about to explode...

    Foreplay is foreplay, I'm sure you don't need a guide to that (I did have a look for one for you but it had these dodgy porn ads on it and I almost got caught.. heh!) sounds like your doing pretty well..

    Good luck anyway... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i like the sound of tantric sex but when i went on the thing on here bout it i couldnt understand it much! so u got ne tips in a simple form !!! lol
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Erm, *nervous*

    You want me to show you? *joke* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    Try: http://www.tantra.com
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    heh.. if I explained some of the things in my mind you'd either end up in casualty or vomit.. lol

    Try the above site... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ive tried it but i dont understand the way they word it!lol u try go on 4 me!!!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    id agree with whats been said about slowing things down, and the tantric sex. well thats actually kinda like a religion, including loads of spiritual things... so if you just take the principals from it it can work for you.

    spend a long time arousing each other, but without touching him or him touching you in all the obvious places. just spend time stroking or massaging each others' bodies, and kissing each other all over, maybe stroking with your tongue. but avoiding the obvious places! this should turn you both on a fair bit... and then you can progress to the stuff you usually do as part of foreplay. but do it teasingly - dont let him get too close to coming, same for you. and if either of you do get too close... then slow down, back off a bit, go back to touching or licking somewhere else.

    hope that helps a bit <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my personal feeling is that foreplay can be just as fun as sex if you're willing to be committed to it.

    sounds like you guys have a routine and are used to doing the things you normally do.

    gfm definitely has some good ideas. you might also try a few more things like bringing in dessert type foods, feathers or oil for massages. change the types of tactile responses your used to, and i guarantee you you'll feel like you've discovered a whole new world of foreplay.

    good luck jolizzie.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    try taking a bath together, that should work! a nice hot bath, lots of candles, stuff like that.

    just try new things that you haven't before, and enjoy each others bodies, and if you feel like you're getting carried away, just do like gfm said, and back off a bit till u calm down.

    a good atmosphere also helps me to get into the mood for lots of foreplay, turn the lights off, light loads of candles, maybe play some music and just make sure you're really relaxed and have loads of time.

    hope that helps, xx
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