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Guilt
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My aunty died 2 months ago and her death took a little while to hit me fully.
My mum and sister have gone to visit my aunty's grave with it being christmas,but for some reason, i can't face going to see her grave. Just the thought of it makes me break down in tears.
I feel so guilty for not going to see her. I want to but i just feel like i can't deal with it.
The the first and only time i was at her grave was the day she was burried and i was absolutly heartbroken.
I don't want my family to think that i don't care about her or that i 'can't be bothered' to see her. I do want to but i just sopose i'm frightened i'll be reminded of her funeral.
I love my aunty so much and i would hate for her to think i don't care. I always think of her and i want to pay my respects but it just seems so overwhelming.
Sorry, i just had to talk about it. I feel like such a bad person because the rest of my family visit regularly and i can't bring myself to. What the hell is wrong with me?
My mum and sister have gone to visit my aunty's grave with it being christmas,but for some reason, i can't face going to see her grave. Just the thought of it makes me break down in tears.
I feel so guilty for not going to see her. I want to but i just feel like i can't deal with it.
The the first and only time i was at her grave was the day she was burried and i was absolutly heartbroken.
I don't want my family to think that i don't care about her or that i 'can't be bothered' to see her. I do want to but i just sopose i'm frightened i'll be reminded of her funeral.
I love my aunty so much and i would hate for her to think i don't care. I always think of her and i want to pay my respects but it just seems so overwhelming.
Sorry, i just had to talk about it. I feel like such a bad person because the rest of my family visit regularly and i can't bring myself to. What the hell is wrong with me?
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I'm sure your aunt, presuming there is a life after death, won't be sitting around at her grave. If you miss her and you care about her, she'll know.
There is also plenty of time to visit her grave when YOU are ready for it. Don't worry.
+ you don't need to be in a certain physical place to be remembering your lost loved ones.