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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi all. As many of you know, I'm HIV+ and was wondering how you'd react to the following situation. You've gone out for the night to bar/club or whateverand you've clicked, or you've been dating someone and it's got to the point where ya gonna have sex. So you're where ever you are, getting all smoochy and your partner/girlf/boyf/shag turns round and says "I'm HIV+". What would you do say.

Most people have been OK with it with me. Some i've had sex with some not. But i've also been spat at, punched, kicked, had a plant pot thrown at me head and one guy even chased me out of his flat with a knife!

Would like to hear what you'd do/say. KevvyXxX

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Me personaly I would like to know before hand, not so that I can do a runner, but just so I can 'ajust' You get me?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rubberskin:
    So you're where ever you are, getting all smoochy and your partner/girlf/boyf/shag turns round and says "I'm HIV+". What would you do say.

    It depends on your feelings for that person, if you love them. Although I feel like a scum-bag, I'll be honest with you, I would be tempted to do a runner. God, I know how shitty that is but I know that I would be scared. I don't really know the risks involved, I am part of the ignorant masses. Eventually, I could come around after reseaching the risks. Sorry if thats upsetting, I'm just trying to be honest.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    heya..im sorry it does sound shitty but i have 2 agree with Kirk above me,i wudnt neciserily do a runner but i dont know much about it so id b a bit scared, as ^^^ said its the ignorant masses,
    but dont let it get u down there must b plenty of people out there that do understand it an it wudnt bother them...xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i have looked into the facts

    but if i didnt know what i did, id ask to know more, let you know that i wanted you to always use a condom, find out more about the exact risks etc

    i think id want to know before i would go out with u, cuz then there's no big surprise

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MasterDevilish:
    i think id want to know before i would go out with u, cuz then there's no big surprise

    I think perhaps it would come as more of a shock if someone you weren't going out with sprung that kind of bombshell on you.

    If I wasn't serious about the person, and weren't in love perhaps, I might consider breaking off the relationship. I'm only in my late teens, I don't think I'd want to put myself at risk. If I were already involved with the person then it might be different; I do know the facts about the transmission of HIV so I wouldnt freak out about having perhaps caught it before even having sex, as some less knowledgable people might do.

    I would never abuse anyone because they told me they were HIV+, either mentally or physically.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I disagree w the others.

    I wd be surprised and wouldnt know how2 deal with it - i'd prob mainly be concerned that I didn't react in a really silly way and hurt their feelings.

    Those ppl who've reacted so badly 2 u really don't sound worth knowing, altho remember that it's prob a difficult thing for a lot of ppl to understand; most shd be patient, but some don't know what to do so they panic; I'd try to be careful about how/when u tell them.

    x
    Baby



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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    I would be more worried about the long term effect, getting to know someone so well, and actually getting to know them i might fall in love. Sex to me is all about love and trust and i would find it hard to know that i might be falling i love with a girl and might not get to spend the rest of my life with her. I think that would kill me more that the quick riggle that everyone is talking about.

    Be good and live hard!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi guys.
    I think the best part of what you've all said is that you've all been so honest about how you'd react. I spose i'm lucky being gay coz as HIV sort of started in the gay community every gay pub, club etc you go into theres always loadsa rubbers and lube and info, so when it happened to me and a guy told me he was HIV+ i just started crying coz i felt so sorry for him.

    Also, within the next coupla weeks, i'll be startin a column on TheSite, sort of like a diary about wots been happening to me that week, HIV, being gay, living with depression and my, somewhat twisted, outlook on life. So i hope ya'll come back here now and read my weekly dose of fun! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Loadsa luv n hugs n nice stuff
    KevvyXxX
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