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Can't Compare To Past Lovers

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
my boyfriend feels like he can't compare to my past partner (sexually) i have tried talkin to him about it and i have told him that i want him for who he is but he is scared that he will disappoint me if he tries anything, so he is scared around me, i have tried anything possible to tell him that he is much more than my past partner could ever be but he is still scared. we have managed to overcome the hurdle of oral but now we both want sex but he says he doesn't want to disappoint me. any suggestions to how i can show him that my ex was nothing and i will always love him no matter what and that i will not be disapponited. i tried doing a search but it came up with nothing please help. <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[ 08-04-2002: Message edited by: sex_kitten76 ]

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Everyone gets nervous about sex first time with someone who's had experience. Try not to make it such a huge deal for both of you then you could start to relax. Let him come to you when he feels ready and comfortable about it, then make the right noises <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Try not to forget you are 15, and I guess he's around your age. Without sounding patronising you have got years ahead of you to do this stuff and boys mature more slowly. Just have fun together for now and see how it goes

    [ 08-04-2002: Message edited by: Gems ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    your boyfriend seems nervous are you sure that he's ready? i take it hes a virgin then and not very experienced obviously he wants to please you which is good, just amke ure you are both really relaxed becuase everyone is nevrous there first time sleeping with a partner whether they ahve a sexual history or not.

    xx deeby doo xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    right - i won't repeat what has already been said by others but i agree with the waiting till you are relaxed thing, but i know from when i post that is not the sort of answers i am looking for.
    when he does come to you take it very slowly, start with foreplay so you are both comfortable with each other as things get more and more heated between you he will be to fired up to be nervous...touch him and caress him alot and groan like he is the best you have ever had ( works a treat <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> )
    as u r only 15 and obviously do nto have your own place make sure you are somewhere where you can be very noisy and show him ALOT of appreciation.
    hope that helped- keep us posted
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx you guys. you helped alot, i talked to him and got him completely relaxed and then we just went for it. nobody was in the house so we were ok, then we were enjoying it that much we didn't hear his mum and dad come back and his mum walked in. she just walked in and goes "put her down you don't know where shes been" picked up what she wanted and then walked out. we were so embarrassed. thanx again you guys. <IMG SRC="redface.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I felt the same as your BF. My GF had experience and I'd never done anything with a girl before her. Just give him time, he'll give in eventually <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    Originally posted by rainingbows:
    <STRONG>...touch him and caress him alot and groan like he is the best you have ever had ( works a treat <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> )
    </STRONG>

    This is quite disturbing. Not the first time I've seen this kinda thing on this forum...
    ...do all girls fake like this? I know lads don't (well not very often at all).
    I'd hate to think my GF was faking or exagerating pleasure like that....although she probably does as I'm still crap with girls.
    I'm great with lads though <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> ....maybe I should of stuck to lads only.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Stracha_Khan:
    <STRONG>This is quite disturbing. Not the first time I've seen this kinda thing on this forum...
    ...do all girls fake like this? I know lads don't (well not very often at all).
    </STRONG>
    No, its wrong to show feelings you aren't having by making noises, if you do that your partner wont know what u really like.
    Not all girls fake like that. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    not all girls fake like that. i can't fake i did it once and i felt so horrible on the lad, i just had to tell him and he was ok about it. i can't do it to a lad, it is unfair. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd much prefer if a girl was more hinest, and she told you how to imporve rather than leaving it, and not have the full pleasures as possible.

    Do girls fake often? I'd be so embarassed if i found out my girlfriend faked it <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no way not all girls fake it i think it is cruel.

    (by the way i like your sugnature dan it is cool and sorry for being mean to you)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah because if we are doing something wrong we would like to know!
    always eager to improve <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thats what my boyfriend says and it does help if instead of faking you your boyfriend how he can improve and it helps loads
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