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What was your first time like??? plz plz read!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hi...i hav'nt been here 4 a while, hope you are all ok!

I was just wondering what all your first times were like. i am a virgin and me and my bf are both ready for sex! i am just very worried about it hurting! also i dont know how to react if you know what i mean! i dont know what to do or how to move with him (sounds bad huh)! i want him to enjoy it too (he isnt a virgin) and i dont want to end up just lying there screaming!

can any1 help me...? what were your first times like?

thanx for reading this and i welcome any advice!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My first time didn't hurt and he made me feel very at ease with the situation.
    Started off by me and him just sitting snoggin each other then he took off my top and lead me to the bed and went on from there, just felt really natural. It didnt last for very long, so he was really upset thinking he'd let me down, I reasured him he hadn't 'It's not for how long it lasts it's how good they make you feel'.
    Just relax, if your really sure you want to then it should feel really good.
    Hope that helped <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My first time was a drunken sham of sexual intercourse, I could barely get it up nevermind in her. What a mess! Poor girl... I think I'm experiencing the feeling of shame!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My first time was one of the most painful things I've ever experienced. I bled (cuz my hymen broke, obviously), but not loads, and there was a small bit of blood the next time too.
    It was in my bed with my boyf, but was pretty boring really. I didn't particularly enjoy it, but felt a sense of achievement that I'd done it cos I'd been dying to lose my V-plates for absolutely ages!
    Make sure he eases in really slowly; my tips are: try going on top to let you have more control, and use some lube (like K-Y or something). Don't be in total darkness, try dim light. You're bound to be a bit conscious of your body etc. but he probly feels the same, and you'll feel more relaxed the more you do it. If it's that bad then you obviously ain't ready for it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it was lovely even though im biased as ive only just rencently lost it but it was really nice we was in my boyfriends car and this got abit more heated than usual so we went for it!!! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> he wasnt a virgin so i was abit nervous by because of this but he was really caring and understanding. i do think that maybe we shouldnt have done it in that stituation by you can't change the past so theres no point in regreting something you cant change. hope everything goes well for you when you decided to lose it!! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    p.s it is hyped in my opioion
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    all I can say is OH MY GOD THE PAIN, I was in agony for days afterwards... <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    at my bf's house in his bedroom. I thought it was going to be agony but it didnt hurt it just felt a bit uncomfortable, but after a while it was fine <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wa kinda cool,was in my bfs parents bed though, with our mates next door! was party sex, but not drunken party sex! nah, he was really gentle and stuff, was nice. it definitly gets better! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the way u go on about the pain its as if you r tryin 2 put her off! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> dont deorive her
    lol , just kiddin

    xx deeby doo xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey guyz,
    im just back from my bf's house...no...im not a virgin anymore!!! i cant believe i actually did it! it hurt quite a bit at first but then it eased up! i wasnt fully relaxed but i really enjoyed it!!!he was really gentle and now i feel so much closer to him!!! you wont be able to wipe this grin off my face 4 dayz!!!

    thanx soooo much 4 your advice ,no matter how offputting! LOL!!!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thank you...Gareth Gates lover, im sure you will find a loving bf soon! it took me a while to find sum1...after tears and a broken heart but look at me now! i'm kinda happy for the first time in years!

    good luck G G lover!!!! let us know when you meet the right person.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    whatever you do, make sure its with a guy who appreciates it.
    mine was with a guy i was with for just under a month and while it wasnt really serious we were really good friends but he made me feel a bit crappy afterwards cause he got squeamish (for the obvious reasons) and didnt want me to mess up his damn sheets, we broke up less than 2 weeks later!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    that said i was well chuffed that it happened but i did it bout a year and a half after all my friends and whereas i wanted to talk all excitedly about it they were like, yeah what else is new, this happen to anyone else
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by go_away:
    <STRONG>at my bf's house in his bedroom. I thought it was going to be agony but it didnt hurt it just felt a bit uncomfortable, but after a while it was fine <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    Exactly the same

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    please make sure its with someone you truly know who he is, that you have been with him for a while to see what he is like, and get to know him.

    My first time was terrible. I'm not trying to put you off, but just to warn you, i don't want this to happen to anyone else.

    I was 15 and i had been going out with this lad for a couple of weeks. I really thought i knew him. He was 16 and seemed really nice, and he seemed to care for me. We got on well and had a good laugh, but i jumped rite in to the deep end straight away. I won't go into details but i got sexually abused. He was a different person than what i thought.

    All im saying is make sure you thoughly know him, trust him. If you do then don't worry, ive found someone i do and he is so understanding, i still have problems with tensing up, it's sometimes like my first time, that nervouse but if he truly cares for you, then he will take he's time, will put you first and if you want to stop you have the rite to tell him and he will if he truly cares for you.The sex mite hurt abit, but tell him and he will minimise it as much as he can, just take it step by step, there is no rush, you have a lifetime ahead of you. You do what is rite for u.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My first, second, and third times were with this horrible 12 stone thing who had had sex with practically every bloke in her home town. Having sex with her was akin to pissing in a very large bucket.
    Can't believe I went out with *that* for two months! ewwwww.
    My bad taste aside, I actually regret losing it now. Virginity - you hate it when its there, miss it when its gone. Really wish I still had it to give to someone I actually really care about, if they ever come along.
    Anyway, no real sex advice here as my experience is limited and painful to remember, but just make sure he is the bloke u wana lost it to otherwise you'll miss it when its gone.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Drunk, Ex, Pain, Dark, Passing Out alot, Everything Spinning, Need i say more.

    In fact can't remember alot of it. neither can the lad. Drunken Party Mess oh yeah and Blood. Parents sheets, don't mix them 2 together.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Another good idea is to be broken in before you have sex. Either get him to do it, or do it yourself, it may seem a bit stupid, but it should make your first time a lot more enjoyable, and painless.

    I'm not a girl, so i dont know what its like...

    But its what me and my girlfriend did before we started having sex.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well it hurt to start wiv but it helps if u have lots of fore play first.
    I warn u now dont tense it makes it worse believe u me.
    If it does start to hurt dont be afraid to say ocs there is nothing worse than suffering.
    Well done for waiting till the times right and not rushing. Best of luck now! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My first time was shite. Unfortunately was completely sober. It hurt and think that I had friction burns for the next week. Gets better though. I particularly enjoy it now when he initially enters and its just that little bit tight ... could orgasm straight away (but obviously don't).

    Hope your still with your bloke and he's treating you well. Me on the other hand, well, I'm still looking!! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *Dan*:
    <STRONG>Another good idea is to be broken in before you have sex. Either get him to do it, or do it yourself, it may seem a bit stupid, but it should make your first time a lot more enjoyable, and painless.

    I'm not a girl, so i dont know what its like...

    But its what me and my girlfriend did before we started having sex.</STRONG>

    how exactly is this done and what is it?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my first time was god but i was scared coz i was older than my ex <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> and she was more experienced than me but she both loved it and didnt stop!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah innocent what do you mean by breaking in? are you on about fingering or what?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My first time was crap, it was drunken sex at a college christmas do at a club with someone I didnt know, I was so ashamed for weeks after. But it does get a whole lot better.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I try to forget my first time, i was pissed he wasn't. He didn't take advantage but I still hate him for letting it hapen when I was drunk.
    First time i slept with my current bf was amazing... wish I'd waited just 3 weeks then it would have been my first time..damnit.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey pinkitten, well i dont know how long ago it was u posted this msg but my first time wasnt that bad beacuse i really liked the boy i was wiv and felt really comfortable,but it still hurt abit n even after the next 3times u hav it, but as long as u no ur doin the rite thin, n u feel comfortable wiv it id go 4 it!

    goodluck mate x :)null
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, well I am a virgin and proud of it! I have been with my bf since new year and we both feel ready for sex! A couple of times it has nearly happened but he knows that I have never been a hundred percent sure! I am a bit scared of it hurting or making a fool of myself. My bf is a virgin which makes me feel a bit better about the whole thing!

    I think you should do it when you feel ready and trust the guy enough! Make sure you feel comfortable with him! Its you decision and you should let him know how you feel! Me and my bf have talked about it and I feel I could tell him to stop if it did hurt etc! Just go with your instincts, relax and try and enjoy it!

    Good Luck with it! Sexysmurf29@boltblue.com <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jen, I guess its cool losing with another virgin your close to b/c you can both suck at it together. I'd reccomend watching some porn first to get some ideas

    My first time sucked, but it makes me laugh to recall it. I was 15 and watching this dumb american sit com called doogie howser about a teenage genuis doctor. He was trying to bang his girlfriend Wanda b/c he was 16 and past the age the avg male loses his vairginity at 15. That's when I realized I was turning 16 in a few months and didn't want to upset the statistic so my buddy told me a this black chick in had sex with and set me up. I had a broke leg at the time from pole vaulting and I drank a lot of malt liquor cause I was nervous as hell. Did I mention she was 6 yrs older than me. She picked me up and took me back to the projects and we banged till I was raw. I kept hitting my cast against her leg and all we did was missionary. I also never came b/c I had a condom on and was too nervous. She said she couldn't believe it was my first time b/c it was so good but I think she was just trying to make me feel good. But I did fuck the shit out of her for 45 minutes straight and wore her out. So sometimes I resent the fact that I never slept with a virgin, probably never will, and that I lost my virginity to a whore in the projects, but that's life and I've had planty of good sexual experiences after that
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sex for the 1st time. well i remember it was terrifying. it was a dark cold windy nite and i was alone. :rolleyes: :cool: null
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe not a good idea to put your e-mail address on the boards, guys - tends to encourage spam.
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