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Can i trust her to take the pill without bugging her?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi everyone, <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Had a quick read up on the site and now i understand there are two types of pill a girl can take as a contraceptive...

basically i've been going out with this girl for a few months and we have had sex a few times , she now tells me she's on the pill, but at first was a bit shy about telling me this...i dont understand why she doesn't want me knowing this?? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

She kind of thinks i'm only interested in sex, but i'm not, so asking which pill she's taking and stuff will make her think that i AM only interested in sex.

so my question is , how do i know which pill she's taking and if she will take it , is there anyway i could ask without seeming only interested in one thing. i'm kinda worried..

even when she wasn't going out with anyone she was taking the pill which suggests she is taking it because of painful periods??

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My advice is to ask her why she was so secretive about it. There must be a reason. It seems quite confusing to me. Perhaps she's trying to avoid getting pregnant and previous boyfriends have wanted her to?

    Ahhh I dunno. But ask her!

    Love Kate x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If she was taking it for previous bf/s which i believe she isn't seeing anymore, then why would she still be taking it??

    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    unless she's cheating on me??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by fjear:
    <STRONG>If she was taking it for previous bf/s which i believe she isn't seeing anymore, then why would she still be taking it??

    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    unless she's cheating on me??</STRONG>

    Eep. Always an option, but I'd leave that as a last resort if I was you hun.

    Taking the pill off and on whenever it suits you really doesn't do great things to a girls body though. It's easier to take it continuously, whether in relationship or out of it. And perhaps she does have heavy, painful periods, as you suggested in your first post.

    I think, plan her a nice night. Rent her a movie (a chick flick, of course! No action films for you LOL) order pizza and then when she's cuddling you because she's so thankful, broach the subject lightly, and be nice about it.

    "You know I'm not just using you for sex, right?" would be a good opener, said lovingly.

    Good luck. If she throws a wobbly, I am not responsible! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Love Kate xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for the replies Kate!

    I'll pick the right moment to ask her...

    she alreadys said i ask too many things!

    but, oh well <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by fjear:
    <STRONG>If she was taking it for previous bf/s which i believe she isn't seeing anymore, then why would she still be taking it??

    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    unless she's cheating on me??</STRONG>

    Many women find that taking the pill helps to minimise the effects of menstruation or to help regulate their irregular cycle, (depends on the pill, but there are thousands of women taking the pill, not as a contraceptive, but to regulate and ease their periods).

    On top of that, the pill doesn't start to work as a contraceptive for some weeks, so perhaps she stays on it merely because she does intend to have sex again with someone some day, and doesn't think she's guaranteed to get several weeks advance notice of the perfect opportunity.

    Maybe she's a bit shy, and found it damned hard talking to her doctor the first time around about getting the pill, and doesn't want to stop taking it and have to go through all that again later.

    In short, there are many, many great reasons for keeping taking the pill when you are not sleeping with anyone. Why leap to the rarest and worst conclusions?

    If you don't think better of her than that, you shouldn't really be seeing or sleeping with her at all.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by fjear:
    <STRONG>Thanks for the replies Kate!

    I'll pick the right moment to ask her...

    she alreadys said i ask too many things!

    but, oh well <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    LOL Good luck! Let me know how ya go.

    Kate xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the pill im on starts working right away, but i agree about it regulating periods hence why some lassies keep taking it even if they aren't in a relationship. maybe shes just shy, it can be a scary thing to do, going on the pill for the first time. just talk to her <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Black_Knight:
    <STRONG>

    Many women find that taking the pill helps to minimise the effects of menstruation or to help regulate their irregular cycle, (depends on the pill, but there are thousands of women taking the pill, not as a contraceptive, but to regulate and ease their periods).
    </STRONG>

    God, yes. I'm going to go and get myself on the pill tomorrow in fact, because I've had the most stressful TWO WEEKS half expecting my period to come on at any time, which was just not funny and so I wanna put an end to the irregularity once and for all! I cannot tell you the relief I felt when I finally came on yesterday. Even though I use condoms when having sex, and so the chances of me being pregnant were minute, I still found myself walking down to Boots and getting a bloody pregnancy test. Of course I was really relieved when (as I expected) the test was negative, but then I started worrying about what else could possibly be stopping my periods, as I don't remember having a gap that long before.

    And fjear, maybe she didn't want to tell you about being on the pill, because she thought you'd jump to conclusions and assume that she was being slutty. Which you seem to have done. Don't always assume the worst.
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