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The Pill???

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ive been with my bf 4 yr n half now n weve been haveing sex 4 bout a yr of it. i realy need to go on the pill as ive had to take the mornin after pill a few tmes now, n hes band me from sex until i do! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
thing is i duno how im gonna manage to take it each day with out my prnts finding out!
wat can i do?? they dont know about us haveing sex n i know theyll b mad if they find out. so to try n take the pill wen im living under the same roof as them with out them knowing is <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
if u get wat i mean!! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
how have ne of u gals survived b4???
just nesort of help wud b gr8!
thanxs!
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Miss Ducky:
    <STRONG>Ive been with my bf 4 yr n half now n weve been haveing sex 4 bout a yr of it. i realy need to go on the pill as ive had to take the mornin after pill a few tmes now, n hes band me from sex until i do! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    thing is i duno how im gonna manage to take it each day with out my prnts finding out!
    wat can i do?? they dont know about us haveing sex n i know theyll b mad if they find out. so to try n take the pill wen im living under the same roof as them with out them knowing is <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    if u get wat i mean!! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    how have ne of u gals survived b4???
    just nesort of help wud b gr8!
    thanxs!
    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    My mum found out i was taking the pill when i was 16 - she didn't know it was because i had had the morning after pill and the doctor had advised me to use extra contraception.

    How will your folks find out? It's just a little packet, which you can hide anywhere. You could always take the grown up, mature approach and talk to them, but then who does that nowadays....

    At the end of the day i lied and said it was because they made my painful and irregular periods better. At the end of the day, at least you are taking responsibility for things!!!

    Hope that helps

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You have 2 options, by the looks of things!

    1. Tell em you want the pill because you really can't handle period pains any more, it's too painful (Can I suggest bringing up the period pain thing to your mum in advance, and then suggesting a day or 2 later that the pains no better, it's been like this for months, can you go to the doctor and see what they can give you as usual painkillers don't numb the pain enough)

    Or!

    2. Take the pill at about lunchtime (you gotta take it the same time every day) That way you can either take it at school with your lunch and keep the pill in your purse/pencil case/wherever it won't be found, or if you are at home you can go to the loo with a glass and use some of the sink tap water to take it in there.

    Although I should be the good person and suggest telling your parents openly because secrets suck, but it doesn't always work like that does it -smile-

    BTW - I can't believe you're bf banned you from sex til you get the pill! <IMG SRC="redface.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Can the boy not roll a condom over his overactive and hopeful penis?! Jeez!!

    Love Kate x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DyingStarlight:
    <STRONG>
    BTW - I can't believe you're bf banned you from sex til you get the pill! <IMG SRC="redface.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Can the boy not roll a condom over his overactive and hopeful penis?! Jeez!!

    Love Kate x</STRONG>

    At least he is showing he's responsible. Give him some credit. Didn't know men like that existed <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My boyf would prefer I went on the pill just to make sure, but I found out it has all sorts of nasty side effects (IE putting on weight - so screw that for a laugh)

    Even if I went on the pill he'd still use condoms and we're so careful with them and have discussed what I'd do if it breaks or slips or something, so I think I'll wait to use the pill til we can't afford condoms LOL

    I'm really sounding like a tart aren't I! Dammit!

    If you get all the facts and decide the pill is right for you, go for it.

    I decided it wasn't. Womans perogative and all that. God bless understanding boyfs <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Love Kate x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i went on the pill but i told my mum, i keep my packets in a lolly tin in a drawer!!! but i think i would have been able to keep it from my mum. u dont even need to take the pill with water.

    i thought my mum would go mad, but she was quite understanding, and said she was happy i was being responsible. im sure she wont be as mad as u think
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I went on the pill about 18months ago, and while it CAN cause weight gain, DyingStarlight, it doesn't with some people, and there are types you can take that minimise the risk of you gaining weight. I didn't tell my mum at first, because, like you, i didn't want her to find out, and it was reasonably easy to hide - the pill packet is TINY, like, about the same size as one of those little rulers that you can fold over that you can get in WHSmith (not the best way to describe it, i know, but it's the first thing that came to mind!) I told my mum later, and she was fine with it, but if you don't think your parents will be, no worries, it shouldn't be that difficult to hide.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    as her bf i know her mother and she will go ballistic if she found out that we actually did anything. although it would be alot easier if she did tell her mum we run the risk of her not being alloud 0 my house anymore as we cant do anything round hers. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Big up da DJMadness <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i have been on the pill for 5 months and my mum doesn't even know im going with a guy let alone having sex!! (due to many reasons) but anyway, i usually keep my pill packs at the back of a drawer and i know my mum doesn't go snooping in my room anyway. my room is my privacy and she knows it.
    i take the pill at different times every day! i don't know is that healthy or not, if anyone knows anything pls reply back. i always think that as long as the pill is taken within the 12 hours, it'll be ok. therefore, i keep the pack im currently taking in my zip part of my bag and take it whenever i remember!
    there are lots of different side effects but it's all written in the leafet that comes with the pack anyway. whereas gaining weight is concerned, i don't think i have apart from that i do think it increases my passion for food. it effects different women. <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Here in the US a girl has to go to the Dr. to get on the pill. Is that the same in the U.K.? If so, why don't get birth control shot? It last for one month and theres no having to remember taking a pill every day or any of that. But, you do have to see the Dr. once a month. I think??????? not sure on this completly.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You could always say you are taking the pill for heavy/painful periods if the parental units find out <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by huskie:
    <STRONG>Here in the US a girl has to go to the Dr. to get on the pill. Is that the same in the U.K.? If so, why don't get birth control shot? It last for one month and theres no having to remember taking a pill every day or any of that. But, you do have to see the Dr. once a month. I think??????? not sure on this completly.</STRONG>


    Yes, you have to go to the doctor here too if you get the pill. There is always the option of a injection, but i don't know if i could trust it!! I mean, at least i know that i have taken the pill every morning! Sounds stupid, but i couldn't be happy with an injection a month!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Theres the implants that go in under your arm. If you think you can hind that part of your body from your parents?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ive looked into sum of the diff things i could take n i most deff dnt want the injection or inplants!!! me bfs looked into them as well, were open about this sort of thing so thats good.
    does any one know haw much it would be??? im i right in saying its free it you get it on prescription from your doc??? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    i think im right.
    i know that if you get the morning after pill from your doc its free-i think? if you get it from a chemist - like ive done before then it costs £19.99!!!!
    thanks all for your replys so far, theyve been helpful <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    firstly, my doc said you dont HAVE to take the pill at the sametime every day, aslong as it within the 12hrs, its just easier to remember to take it if u do it roughly at the same time, i just take mine when i get outta bed! and yeah the pill is free on prescription. i was initially against taking the pill when i started having regular sex, coz we always used condoms, but after a condom split and scared the hell outta me and my man, we decided itd be safer. hope i helped!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    miss ducky ive got the same kinda problem. My mum would prob understand but i really dont wanna tell her. mainly coz it would b soooooooooooo embarrasing! lol. I reckon the injection thing is a good idea, may try it myself! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ive heard about this implant thing that you can have in your arm aperntly its quite painless and saves you having to rmeber to take the pill each day

    <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> xx deeby doo xx <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, thats the norplant implant, they tend not to use them now as they can get infected and you can see them on the outside of ure arm which is a great way to advertise yourself. lol!!

    there is a problem wiv womenwanting to use the injection and that is it can make you less fertile, so they don't like to use it on young girls.

    Anyone wishing to go on the pill and worried bout parents, dont worry. I wanted to go on the pill just in case and i spoke to my mum, she was great and took me to the doctors. My dad weren't too chuffed as he is old fashioned and i was 15 at the time. But mums are most likely to be glad that you've gone on it, it shows you are responsible for your actions. With taking the pill it is correct you have a 12 hr learway, but it is best to take it at the sem time each day as if not you can get spotting of blood inbetween ure period which isnt good.

    hope this helps some people.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My doctor actually offered me the injection instead of the pill - if you get migranes, it's the safer option. I did some research into it, and one of them lasts 3 months, the other one month. They do cause your period to go a bit mad to start with, but after about three months, you stop 'spotting' and you don't get a period at all. It's not QUITE as effective as the pill, but it's more effective than condoms, and i think it's worth looking into if you don't think you'd be able to take the pill cos of your parents/wouldn't remember to take it.The thing about fertility is kind of right, if you do decide you want kids in the future it can take up to two years to reach 'maximum' fertility, because of the residual hormones you'd have in your bloodstream, but it's not permanent. Hope this helps!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My ex, and several of her friends, all tried the injection. My ex loved it (4 years without a period!) but every one of the 6 people I know who used it found that they gained weight.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The amount of things I have to keep from my parents!!! I got a tattoo a year ago and have to make sure that I lock the door everytime[/B]I take a shower. There are of course the other things that pretty much everyone has keeps hidden in their room, condoms, fags etc. One of my problems with going on the pill was that it would be another hidden thing that i would have to worry about them finding, having thought about it I decided that it was a stupid thing to worry about and that if they d find out it is much better than having to wworry everytime about getting pregnant!
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