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PLEASURE FROM MASTURBATION?
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whenever i masturbate i dont get any pleasure , nothin is this normal. i mean i finger myself etc... but all i feel is the inside of my vagina. Please dont think i sound stupid or take the piss but what if i can never get an orgasm
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I'm the same xxgirlxx, so don't let it worry you. I've had some earth shattering orgasms in my time. My clitoris is much more important than the inside of my vagina.
The only way I get an orgasm during penetration is if my clitoris is being stimulated at the same time.
I'd be very interested to hear if anyone here has orgasms from purely vaginal stimulation.
NEVER worry about sounding stupid. There are plenty of considerate people here, you are amongst friends.
<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> J9
I think this forum is a brilliant way for people to share worries/problems/anxieties. And you get such a wide range of people, who all have different experiences to offer. But please do not feel as if you are ever asking a daft question. If it is a worry to you, then share it.
Research has shown that a high proportion of women, do not achieve orgasm by vaginal stimulation - backing up j9j9's spot-on comments about the importance of clitoral stimulation.
I can add my own inept experiences as a younger man, wondering why there weren't screams of delight as I was thrusting as many fingers as I could into my gfriends vagina, oblivious of the fact it was doing absolutely nothing for her.
So, if any young men are reading this, show some consideration, and pay attention to your gfriends clitoris, during foreplay. If you don't know where it is, ask her to show you!! If your gfriend doesn't know either or you are too embarrassed to ask, it's the little pea shaped thingie at the front of your gfriend's fanny!
But be gentle with it, if you rub it roughly I would imagine it would be pretty much the same feeling as your bell-end being scratched by a sharp fingernail. OUCH!!
Sorry xxgirlxx for rambling, I hope j9j9's advice is successful, you could also try,
- using the shower jet to direct the spray towards your clitoris (avoid getting water in your vagina, not a good idea),
- buying a small vibrator and using it around your vaginal lips and clitoris,
- when you are nice and comfy in bed, relax, try not to worry about it - start to fantasise about anything you find horny, regardless of how unusual it may seem, and try to concentrate on your clitoris, alternating between that and your vagina.
Hope this helps,
regards derby.
well im kinda the same, ive never tried fingerin myself as im 2 scared. but ive never had any pleasure either by boyfs doing it or via sex.
i was scared to tell my boyfs that i wasnt enjoyin it, i used to just say i was the silent type!! which used to frustrate 1 of em, but tough. i was scared in case it was my problem, that i was malformed in some way, but for readin derbys reply 2 u ive realsed that mayb the lads were doin it wrong, they were 2 busy shuving fingers in. or mayb not, i havent been fingered since my ex a couple of months ago since i wrote to this board with the same problem, and derby kindly helped me 2. im scared to experiment 4 myself so i suppose i will have to wait till the next 'mr perfect' walks along. if u want i will keep u posted as we share the same trauma.
love ya helly
ps, i guess we also need 2 relax more, well i know i do, im always scared im doin someint wrong, and im scared to take control ina sexual situation as im scared of being laughed at. we just need 2 relax and have confidence in ourselves. best wishes.
I am the same as you j9. Clitoral stimulation and intercourse at the same time can definitely bring some earth shattering results!
On the other hand, in general, like the other girls, I find clitoral stimulation much more important.
I would like to say to Helly that experimenting with yourself is much safer than waiting for mr perfect. After all, you only know he was not mr perfect after he has either disappointed you or, even worse, done some damage.
If you experiment with yourself, you know immediately what is good and what is not (uncomfortable, hurting, irritating, ...). I think I can speak as an expert here, because I have been experimenting since I was about 12 years old - that makes 10 years of practising!