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where's my hymen???????

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I'm a virgin, and want to lose it to my boyfriend. He says that when I masturbate, I should be careful not to go too far and brake my hymen, because he wants the do that when we have sex for the first time. I have no problem with. But, when I masturbate, I find that I can in very far and I don't come anywhere near it. I've never felt myself brake through anything before, so where is it? How else could it have broke? Or is just REALLY deep inside me?
Jesus, I never thought I'd find myself being so pathetic to ask a question like this and sound like some moronic, bimbo type teenage girl. I'm 14 by the way, if that is any help. And don't give me any shit about me being underage. I'm not one of those teenage girls who hang around on street corners getting wasted to 'fit in', because they are usually the type to screw around because of peer pressure and other shit like that. I'm 14, but I have my own mind and can be make my own desicions about when to have sex and will not be manipulated.
Sorry, I just wanted to say that.

"...and the world spreads it legs for another fucking star..."

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just do what you think is right. here are somethings you should think about.
    >but dont feget that it is natural
    >everyone does it
    >if you dont it some one else will
    >i havent had it yet and when the time comes i wont say no (aslong as if its someone i love not just some one night stand)
    >do you love him??
    any way think about these and get back to me and tell me what you think


    se ya andy
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks for the advice

    se ya andy
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Um, okay. Thanks for that. Yes, I do love my boyfriend very much indeed, I wouldn't want to lose my virginity to him if I didn't love him. Although one thing, you never actually answered my actual question. But thanks okay. And you're welcome for the advice Penfold, hope it comes to some use for you.

    "...and the world spreads it legs for another fucking star..."
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi,
    The hymen is simply a very thin membrane that partially blocks the entrance to the vagina.

    Chances are that with inserting tampons, and masturbating, especially if you have used vibrators, etc - then you may well have already broken yours. You may however have partially stretched your hymen, making it difficult to tell where it is.

    It can also be broken when the body is stretched strenuously, ie through athletics. It has been known, though is unusual for some women to be born without a hymen.

    Do not think you are being pathetic for asking questions, how else are people going to learn?

    When the hymen is separated, whether during first sexual intercourse or by masturbating, there may be some slight bleeding and a little pain. Both the bleeding and the pain are quite normal and both usually stop after a short time. Some women experience no discomfort at all during this process that is commonly referred to as "losing your cherry".

    By the way I am not going to lecture you on the morality of having underage sex, that is totally your decision. Some people would advocate you wait, others will say "go for it", you have complete control over your body and what you do with it.

    However, remember to be safe. - Use effective contraception.

    take care
    derby.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Great advice derby <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    I just wanted to say, Beetle, I reckon you're one sorted chica!

    I was like, 15 years and one day old, literally, when I 'popped my cork', it may have been illegal but I was ready emotionally as well as physically and we used those all-important condoms, so it shouldn't really be an issue. Which is problem with the 'underage' law - we're all different so we're ready to get pelvic at different ages <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    Be safe and HAVE FUN! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    *|* Chica *|*


    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *Beetle Wings*:
    my boyfriend .... says that when I masturbate, I should be careful not to go too far and brake my hymen, because he wants the do that when we have sex for the first time.

    All the comments on how you can not have a hylen or break it with perfectly innocent activities, are fine and I appreciate them.

    I want to make another comment: what a shitty attitude of you b/f. Your hymen is yours and your pleasure is yours as well. He has no right to claim possession of your hymen or claim the right to break it!

    This is an example of the most male chauvinist behaviour is have seen for ages!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No offence Sarah but I don't think he's claiming possession of it, it can just b special if she loses it with him. She might wanna break it with him, my girlfriend did.

    It is up to her when & how she breaks it, I'm just saying i can understand what her boyfriend means.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, calm down Sarah! I DO want to break it with him! He's not claiming possession of it! Jesus! Thanks for explaining that to her from the guys point of view Chris <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; If I didn't want to break it with, I wouldn't care if I'd broke it already or not! But I do want to break it with him, that's why I posted here asking for advice! He's not a male chauvanist (however it's spelt!) He's far from that! I just wanted to claer that up and stand up for him <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    "...and the world spreads it legs for another fucking star..."

    [This message has been edited by *Beetle Wings* (edited 04-09-2000).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OK, stuff about hymens.

    They are normally very thin and small bits of membrane, so it may have just stretched out of the way. It doesn't always hurt or bleed when this happens. A hymen only covers part of the entrance to the vagina, it isn't a big thick wall of tissue that you can easily feel, it's often very delicate. All that stuff about bucketfuls of blood and screams of pain is a bit of a myth.

    I have also spoken to a couple of gynaecologists about it, and they both said that it was likely that lots of girls are born without them.

    It's not something to worry about if you can't feel your hymen. Breaking your hymen is not the same as losing your virginity, but a few blokes out there seem to be a bit confused about it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My apologies Beetle Wings, I did not want to upset you. The choice of words in your post must have given me the wrong impression.

    I do agree with RedEd that it's the losing of your virginity that counts, and not the breaking of the hymen.

    Peace??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :confused: I dont think i have a hymen I dont see it or anything and i havent felt it
    so what do i do i dont think i have broken it i havent bleed or nothing
    Please help me:nervous: :shocking:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *Rawr* wrote: »
    :confused: I dont think i have a hymen I dont see it or anything and i havent felt it
    so what do i do i dont think i have broken it i havent bleed or nothing
    Please help me:nervous: :shocking:

    This is an old thread and will probably be closed :) .

    But about your question, dont worry, I'm not a virgin and i never had any bleeding or saw/felt my hymen
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