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This is my 1st ever post on here and part of the reason why is that my boyfriend is on here a lot (reads not really posts) and i guess i don't want him to know how i feel, but anyway..
I use to self harm, but i havent self harmed proparly for about 3 years now, when i say proparly i mean all i have done is scratch that doesn't break skin. I use to do it really bad (well really bad for me). I use to do it every day and it use to leave bad mark and scars - some of which i still have.
I know that this may seem weird, but sometimes especially recently, i feel like i really want to, but not want to - thats the wrong word really. I feel like i need to so that i feel something that i understand and can control.
But i don't feel as sad as i did when i use to do it all the time, in fact, compared to then, thigs are really good, so i guess i don't understand why i feel like this. I feel i cant really talk to anyone about it, and i dont want to really because it feels really stupid.
I don't really know what made me post on here or tell you guys, but i know that i want to and that i don't want to - i know that that might not make sense.
I feel that if i do i will let everybody down, including myself and i dont want to do it, i don't want to go back to the way that i was before, but then i dont want to feel like this! :banghead:
Sorry guys!
Hope that you all are ok and feel better soon!
So little time to do it in.
Meh.
I am very, VERY stressed out by the fact that I just can't get a girl, but I usually don't show it and don't let it drag me down. Because once you get bitter about it, and give up for good, your chances to get a lass to know converge effectively towards zero. Actually, I notice a distrubing lack of motivation to get to know other girls and therefore of course rarely meet any new ones. I was pretty active some time ago, but it seems like "I always got to know the wrong ones". It's hard to keep telling you that after a dozen rebuffs.
Moreoever: Don't think a girlfriend is the solution to your problems. It isn't. In fact, there will be always troubles (even if small) with a partner that you obviously did not have before, how could there not be any?. If you are clinically depressed (for example), a girlfriend is not your anti-depressant, always keept that in mind.
And I'm in a similar situation, but I try to forget about what I don't have and what I do have. Also do have something to look forward to over half term.:)
I gathered this was what you were trying to get at. And I understand where you're coming from.
just needed to vent.
just feeling a bit lonely is all and the mushiness in the air makes me kinda self concious
Actually seriously.
There's so much work. And it gets worse.
Good god
Me and my boyfriend are in serious need of help if we, especially him, are to keep our mental health and physical health together.
If you could take the time to read my thread about benefits that would be much appreciated.
This is very true. same goes for revision - don't leave it the night before. Do it as soon as possible.
-x-
(I'd hug you but I dont really know you)
But I agree with JsT, I was in a similar situation at Uni last year and by not talking to someone I nearly failed my core units and had to leave the course... please don't do that.
It's not even like I can postpone it, because it's my own fault I didn't do it. It's just the one thing that's stressing me out atm, but it's stressing me out so much. I have so much work to do on it, and just over 2 weeks to do it in, only one of which is when I'm in college. I was meant to do it over summer but I was so fucking EUGH over summer that I didn't have any motivation to do it and now it's too late. I can't NOT do it because if I don't, I fail my course and the whole thing is pointless.
I keep thinking it would be so much easier to drop out now, but then I think about how my friend said to me the other day "Franki, you'll make such a good teacher" when I was going over some Spanish with one of my other friends, and I think that if I don't do it then I can't do that. I just can't see how it's possible for me to do anything now
I hate stress
I don't really care so much about him but it is tearing up my friend because she feels like its her fault, and is genuinely worried he'll do something stupid where I don't think he will. He's been self harming, but doing it in front of friends and in highly visible places, even writing about it in his livejournal like 'did this again' in a very matter of fact way.
I thought you guys would be the best clue as to what to do, as obviously I don't want to make it worse but if she went out with him his 'depression' would instantly be cured - and knowing people suffering from depression in my family where without warning one day there's a fucking ambulance outside your house because they've tried to kill themselves again - I know he's just putting it all on.
I know there are genuine sufferers on here and they're probably as incensed as me that someone can do that just for sympathy, almost like a 'look at me' thing, and I've had friends and caught them and when you ask they make some lame excuse and I couldn't help but feel sorry for them because I know after reading through here that all you can do is be there for them. But this SHer has practically implied if she goes out with him he'll stop because he'll be happy (by saying he can't help it because he's so miserable because he's lost her).
Really getting me upset because I've had a lot of people do silly things in my family and to have someone say it so meaninglessly breaks my heart, is the only way to describe it. Feel free to PM me or post it up here or whatever, I sincerely hope I haven't upset anyone, I'm not used to how this thread works. I'll remove my post if it's offensive.
i think inside he knows if hes doing it for attention he'll know that she shouldnt go out with him. if he has some sever mental issues then he needs help. but you cant force him to do anything.
He could be doing it just for attention, but it's hard to tell whether he'd putting it on or really does have mental health issues. He does need to talk to someone, even if it's just someone who has been in the same situation.
Has your friend spoke to this person yet?