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When people are depressed its like they're wearing sunglasses: reality is tinted with a darker, negative view of things. So don't be surprised (or pissed) if depressed people only see the bad stuff that's happening in their lives. Please let's not confuse this with ungratefulness, it's just part of being depressed.
I agree -please let's keep this a safe environment.
Absolutely. Of course it's worth pointing out the positives in people's lives if they are not thinking clearly enough to remember them for themselves, but essentially this thread is here (as is TheSite in general) to offer support, advice and encouragement. It's all too easy to take a few words posted on the internet on face value when there is often a lot more going on under the surface which is difficult to communicate online.
This isn't a place for knocking people down when they've had the guts to open up about very difficult emotions - and if you really feel that strongly about answering back either find a more constructive way to say it or report it to a mod to check out.
hope you're not planning on leavin us
i feel really cutty today
Do you know why you feel like this right now?
But I'm not, it doesn't happen that way. I've seen psychrists and therapists on and off my entire life. I, however get nothing out of them. I have nothing to complain about. I have nothingn going on that makes me sad. However I'm horribly depressed.
It is purely nothing more than a chemical inbalance with me. I lack the chemicals to keep me happy. For no reason at all I can become very depressed, needing to cut. Just totally irrational and emotional. And even then, I still can't bitch about anything. I'm sitting there crying, wanting to die, for no reason.
I've been on half a dozen different medications since I was 8. Just trying different ones, different strenghts. Its the only thing that helps me. The one I'm on now is fine for now. It doesn't work perfectly. I get in my depressive modes every now and again still.
But your right 1983. Sometimes people have no reason to be depressed. God forbid somebody who is perfectly fine feel down. Nobody chooses to be depressed. Nobody chooses to feel the way they do. Sometimes there may be some underlying problem that causes the rest, sometimes it is nothing more than a physical medical problem. You see somebody overweight. Say they have a thyroid problem, they can't help their weight, they may have the money for a wonderful gym and to eat the best of things, but they can't help it. Its not their fault. Its just something in their body that isn't normal. Can you yell at them for that? No, so why is getting pissed at people who are depressed and they happen to live a good life any different?
You can't delete yourself as a user, but a mod can remove you.
Getting urges is quite common when you dont cut for a while, I get them really badly still and its been two months. You have to try and find the right combination of distraction techniques to get through it. And its never ever you fault that you feel like this, ever.
I'm thinking about starting an LJ or Myspace community for people suffering from depression or people who self harm. Or really, for anyone who wants any kind of emotional or spirtual support.
It's probably been done already...but my idea goes like this:
Many people say that a good way to vent is via a diary. So, I figure, why not an online diary? People could write about sad days and find out what makes them tick while getting support and comfort from others. People would be encouraged also to write about really good days and fun times they've had too. This way they can share them with others, be congratulated and reflect on what cheers them up.
I know that having someone to talk to does help (this site proves that) and I think it would be good have a community like I described where people could be open and anonymous.
It'd be a bit like this thread, but fuller.
What do people think?
I think it's a great idea, though. Go for it
Gav, remember the rule, k?
Bullshit. You know that you have this inbalance how?
I've taken enough shit to practically wipe out the chemicals that make you happy altogether and I'm still happy as larry.
That would be awesome! I'll keep it in mind!
Fuck.
Cheers
If you're drinking you're not coping.
Is there anyone you can talk to? Why are you wanting to drink to escape reality?