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Maybe you need to go see a doctor. You can't go on like this.
why does everyone upset you?
also you should tell someone you're feeling like this, you need someone to watch out for you making sure you're alright. also if you're feeling err..well suicidal, i'd try to avoid being on your own incase you do something silly.
You may think you have nothing left to live for, however, I am sure your family would miss you and you forget - no matter how bad things are, you are still only a student, working for a better life, working towards having so very much to live for. Yes, things feel shitty at the moment, however, all these experiences will make you a stronger person in the future, when you will have so very much to live for. Look to the future, don't think about the now. I know that is an easier thing to say than do, but it did help me when I felt the same as you.
But it isn't that simple, is it?
You are a beautiful, young girl, with the whole world at your feet. I promise, things *will* improve.
It would probably help you more if you were to talk about what makes you feel like this, rather than just write that you want everthing to stop...
A few days ago i felt like this for like 1 minute (seems strange lol), and it's the worst thing i have ever felt i think, you just have to rationalise it and try and realise there is stuff to be here for ;p
You really have been through a lot the last couple of months, but you can get through this, please go back to your doctors and talk this through with them. Please PM me if you want someone to talk to.
Girl Interrupted, what is SO bad about your life? You say everything, and everyone. You have your health, your limbs. You have a life in front of you. What is SO bad? Bullet point if you have to.
I don't see how anyone SO young can think everything is shite when they have their life ahead of them. I really don't.
I'll be blunt, and will probably get "Don't say anything unless you've been there, etc" and this is NO way initiating you do anything of the kind. But, if you were SO at your wit's end, wouldn't you have done it already rather than saying "Oh it would be so simple, etc."?
Don't you want to meet someone lovely, have a family, go see the world, and see your children grow up?
This isn't directed just at everyone on the boards, because I know people from here personally, and understand why they feel like this, but some of you need to hear
It all seems like a cry for help, but you do so little to actually help yourself apart from say how no one wants to help you and how everything is so shit. this.
Take action and responsibility for your life. Easier said than done, but it's the most realistic thing you could do here.
Life is far too precious for you to sit and think how everything is crashing around you when you have the ability to do so much.
My Dad and Mum have shit health, and have been through lots more than what most people on here mope about and to think all young, fit ABLE people sit and say how crap life is and how things are when you're all so fucking young is really irritating.
You are really ungrateful. Especially when you repeat yourself and don't do anything to help yourself apart from "My Doctor doesn't understand". Eight times out of ten, most of you are 473829% different in your Doctor's presence than you are on your on, belittling the chance of any help that you need.
It's just that people don't really understand the privilege that they have to fix things. Make things better. That really riles me.
I'm sorry if I came across really horrid or whatever, but I had to get all that off my chest.
People are different.
Depression is an illness, its not just a reaction to situations. Its hard to understand how it can take every bit of positivity out of everything.
When you feel down, upset, pissed off- thinking about how wonderful things are is hard to appreciate, and its like that all the time for some people.
Admittedly i do think people suffering depression do become quite quite self-pitying and self-centred. I think a lot of people that have been ill long-term would admit to being more comfortable wallowing in their pity.
I agree that a lot of people do piss all to help themselves, and when they do they dont explain how they feel and what they want.
Ill admit i expected my doctor to have psychic powers and wave a wand to make things better.
Doesnt happen. but you can make the most of what you do get before you give up.
A little while back i moaned that psychotherapy hadnt helped after a year, but decided I had to have at least done all i could, so as i find it hard to open up, i started keeping a very honest diary and showed it to her. Hardest thing ever but who can say i havent tried? I know ive tried, and feel better just for that. After 3 times, weve discovered a lot already.
Sounds like im preaching but im not because on the advice of my doctor who ive been seeing for almost 2 years, ive got a decent job, with career propects etc etc. Well now i cant actually get the days off i need to see her, or the day off that i see my therapist on. I cant fit any of it in or around work hours, nothing.
Take the chances when youve got them.
Chin up, gorgeous - if all else fails, I'll marry you
Well that's the root of the problem then. It's how you see yourself and not how others see you, you're quite attractive, so what if you're ex dumped you, you can get another bloke not a bother.
That isn't what happened though?
You don't know the past of the majority of the people on here. People's pasts deeply and intimately affect the way they deal with the present. What seems like a small issue for one person can effect another person far more deeply.
I'm 21 but I've had more shit happen to me than many people get in their whole lives. I'm sure other people on here are the same. Just because it's not in someone's LJ doesn't mean it didn't happen.
I think you need to be more sensitive with what you post in this thread in particular.
This was orginally posted by DJP who started this thread. I just wanted to remind some of you who seem to have forgotten the "rules" of this thread and who are changing the tone of this thread from something really really helpful to a bitching forum.
Maybe. But maybe not. I'd question how useful it is for a whole load of people to pander to other people without anyone actually questioning the status quo and playing a bit of a devil's advocate.
Reinforcing people's opinions can be as detrimental as attacking them.
TheSite isn't broken just that the fact the user deleted had a high post count has upset it a bit and now there a gaps in threads and threads gone that used to exist and will take a while for it to sort itself out.
its still broke bits of the site, that may well fix over time, but after we've posted a lot in here
This isn't the place for that, though. This thread was started with the sole intention of being a place to ask for advice, and to get things off your chest in a safe environment.
Also, 1983's pathetic little rant has nothing to do with "challenging the status quo", and everything to do with attacking one particular user IMHO.
There are ways and means of helping people to see other ways of thinking, in order to have a more realistic perception of themselves. Going off on a little rant about how depressed people are ungrateful doesn't do that- depressed people already feel guilty and worthless enough, without someone shouting and yelling at them about how they should be grateful for what they've got.
If someone had gone off at me like they've gone off in here recently, I don't know what I would have done. I certainly wouldn't have come back here, and I would have felt even worse than ever. Showing people why they are wrong is one thing, but what 1983 has posted in here is completely and totally unacceptable. That disappoints me, because I always credited her with more intelligence and tact than that.
Good for you! :thumb: