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First time nothing but pain?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi all,

I'm a 15 year old female and I'm still a virgin. I'm a bit curious about first time sex... I've heard it hurts a lot and there's no pleasure except maybe an orgasm... is this true? and do you bleed afterwards?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Often first time sex can hurt but sometimes it doesn't, it just depends on the person. The medical explanation is that it's the breaking of the hymen that causes the pain, but it can hurt for people who wear tampons (thus having broken the hymen already), and not hurt for people who don't. And you can bleed as well because obviously it's going to mess you about a bit down there the first time you do it.

    You're unlikely to orgasm through penetration alone at any point in your sex life. You'll probably need clitoral stimulation as well. I'm a virgin too but from what I've heard first time sex for a girl is less than wonderful, but apparently it gets better <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; And obviously it's better if you're with someone you really care about, for the emotional side of things.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by wildchild:
    for the emotional side of things.

    And because you're more likely to have lots of foreplay, which means sex may hurt less.

    Apparently anyway <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Does it hurt everytime?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by sweetness:
    Does it hurt everytime?

    Sorry, dont have the experience to answer that one (with being a virgin myself), but almost 100% sure it gets better with practise!!

    Otherwise why would people do it?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The very first time i had sex, it was slightly painful at first but if you are with someone who cares about you then they will take it slow so it doesnt hurt. Personally it only hurt for about a minute (& it wasnt that bad) then i started to enjoy it.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It took me & my bf a few tries 2 actually have sex. This is because it hurt me 2 much & so we stopped & left it a few more weeks b4 trying again.

    We got there in the end & it woz very painful but he woz very gentle wit me & even though it wasn't exactly pleasurable 4 my 1st time i still enjoyed it because it woz wit my bf if u get me?! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    It hurt again the next couple of times but its fine now. As ppl have said though it depends on the person.

    I know sum ppl who didn't have ne pain @ all but then others like me found it hurt the 1st time & a couple more times after.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks for your help <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it did hurt an ickle bit the first time. but after that it was fine... got more and mroe pleasurable as we got more an more experienced. so trust me, it does get better with practice. now its mindblowing.... but im talking the whole lot, foreplay, the sex, the aftermath, lying there all dazed... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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